I was reading about the Christmas season and was suddenly struck with the thought that I needed to write this article.  Many of us, regardless of our views on religion enjoy the holiday season as a time to celebrate the giving nature of humanity.  And as I thought about all the things I am thankful for, I realized I wanted to thank the person whose actions had a profound impact on how I saw myself.  No-I’m not talking about my relatives-who I am certainly thankful for in that they largely accept me, nor my friends in “real life” –many of whom are learning more about Cyn.  Not even my friends here at CDH and TGH-precious though each and every one of you is.

The person, whose actions and vision have made the largest impact on my growth as a member of the CD/TG community, and in moving forward on my journey of exploration, is none other than the founder of these glorious websites Crossdresser Heaven and Transgender Heaven.  They began as a blog site, narrating Vanessa’s own journey as she started out as CD and through her realization that transitioning was her path in life. The sites provided advice, encouragement, and inspiration to thousands of folks who, like me and I expect like most of you as well, had previously felt isolated and alone in our feelings.  Yes-society has become more accepting and understanding, though it has a long way yet to go, but the REASON for that change in societal attitudes is because of the actions of people like Vanessa, who illustrated that we are people of dignity and worth.  We don’t demand SPECIAL treatment; we simply ask for the basic respect that our humanity deserves as we express the side of us that has remained hidden for so long out of fear or ridicule and rejection.

I know when I first joined the Crossdresser Heaven site back in August of 2015 I was like an “infant” in this aspect of my life. I was terrified of the reaction of the world if I dared to show this part of me; the side I had locked away behind my bedroom door for decades.  As I began to interact with Vanessa and the other early pioneers of CDH, such as Codille, Claudia, and Jane and later on with others, I was able to realize I was only hurting myself by hiding who I was. And that maybe-just maybe-I could escape the self-imposed prison cell I chose to live in.  Slowly at first, but with increasing speed, I opened the door and windows and began to let the world see who I really was.  It was not without its challenges or moments of sheer terror, but the more I ventured out, the more comfortable I became-to the point of where I’ve now driven and flown all over the country in full Cyn mode.

And let us not forget our SO members.  We sometimes don’t fully realize that our journeys are not just our own but are shared with our partners. They have many of the same hopes, fears, and worries that we ourselves do about how the world will treat those of us in the community as well as the treatment of our family members.  That is another significant purpose of the site; to educate our loved ones about this community and to support them as they deal with things that may have come as a huge shock to them; many of us hid this side of ourselves from our spouses for fear of losing them.  Not every relationship can survive, but many can and do, and even if they don’t, at least it can hopefully help them to avoid becoming vitriolic and hateful.

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I know each of our journeys is different- not everyone will transition; not everyone will go out and about-whether due to individual circumstances or because it’s not something they need or desire to do.  No matter where each individual journey leads, the love and encouragement we get from these sister sites is vital in giving us the strength to overcome our fears and to let the world see the wonderful people we truly are. And for that, we have Vanessa Law, the founder of these sites to thank.  She could have finished her transition and gone on to live a quiet life enjoying her family, but she knew how difficult the journey was…especially for those, who like herself, did not have much support from those in her life.  So after a couple years of dormancy, she rededicated and reopened the site to be a place for the entire community to find a safe place to explore themselves and continue on their journey to become the authentic people they are.  To me: this IS HOME!  I hope that each and every one of you feels that way, too.  And if you DO, then I encourage you to reply in the comments with stories of how this site has helped YOU in your journey, and I hope that you will share a thank you to Vanessa for the gift she has given us, and continues to give us, as these sites continue being the best support sites in the world for the CD/TG community.  Thanks Vanessa! We love you!


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The Original Cyn, or OC for short. Cynthia is from Richmond Virginia, she crossdresses every day (lucky gal!) and has a knack for tracking down niggling technical issues so we can fix them. She is also on a journey of self-examination to figure out where her feminine journey will lead her, and is always willing to talk with others about their feelings and questions or her own.

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Anne Preuss
Active Member
2 years ago

Hi Cynthia. What a wonderful article for this season of sharing and caring (while that should always be a year round goal, the holiday season tends to magnify the needs of others as well as the things that have made each of our particular lives better for those of us who are doing well). I extend my heartfelt gratitude to Vanessa Law for both websites. Without CDH and TGH, I may have remained unhappily imprisoned in my self world of closeted loneliness. I would have been left to wonder if my feelings….of wanting to dress like a woman, to be… Read more »

Falecia McGuire
Active Member
2 years ago

Bravo Cyn, I was just thinking the other day how grateful I am for Vanessa’s vision and CDH. I am one of those who does not use facebook. My children and many of my friends do. From its inception, I found the concept invasive and time has not changed my view. FB seems to be party to a lot of pain. On the other hand, CDH has brought me nothing but joy, comfort, and support. My crossdressing and now the friendships of CDH have raised my self esteem and confidence. While I’d love the 100% acceptance that was offered in… Read more »

Leslies Ann Gray Girl
Active Member
2 years ago

Thanks Cyn , i to feel we all here owe Vanessa a lot for giving us hope and a place to belong .

Autumn Valiant
Active Member
2 years ago

Thank you Vanessa for founding these sites ! And thanks to all the ambassadors who run these sites and help to keep them the positive inclusive places that they are !

Trusted Member
2 years ago

You always have the gift of knowing what to say…. CDH has been a very special place for me not only to accept my alter ego but meeting friends like you who helped me with the sudden death of my brother… Your reaching out to me was very special… I am very grateful to each friend that have met here who have given me support and love…
May I wish you all the peace and joy of the season and a happy and healthy New Year..

Brianna (Nat)
2 years ago

What a great article 🙂

I appreciate everything that Vanessa and the early pioneers of the site have done to help establish this refuge. You have given us all of a place to talk, to research, and more importantly to belong. Before getting to know all of the wonderful members of the site, I always hid a side of me away …never to be acknowledged nor talked about. This site has truly helped me to come to peace with that other side of me and to embrace it….and maybe even enjoy it too.

Thank you so much 🙂


Katie D
2 years ago

Well said cyn. In a short few months, cdh has become so important to me and an integral part of my life as katie. I so appreciate vanessa and the ladies who blazed a trail before me. And I am very thankful for all of the friends I never knew I had. Here’s to a beautiful season and new year to come.

Gianna Bonita
Active Member
2 years ago

Thankyou Cynthia for sharing your thoughts and for me, and no doubt many other girls here, their own feelings about this wonderful place to be ourselves and the debt of gratitude we all owe to Vanessa. Wow! What would I do without CDH and TGH? I am so glad I found these resources and all these wonderful people. Like other girls have said, it was a revelation that we are so strong and so many. So blessings on you Vanessa and Cynthia and all the girls here. May all of you enjoy your celebrations and look forward to a loving,… Read more »

Amy Myers
Noble Member
2 years ago

Yes, certainly many, many thanks the Vanessa for the websites, and the totally accepting environment that is here.
I also like to add, many thinks to all of those “Behind the Scenes” folks who help to keep the site running. A casual user doesn’t realize the work that goes on to keep CDH going the way it it.
Thanks to Vanessa, and All

Trusted Member
2 years ago

As always a wonderful article Cyn; my apologies for not getting on here much this p[ast few months; I opened myself up to possibilities and manifested a landslide of contracts, so I’ve been workin my butt off lol. Now, You and I dear are among the pioneers here and I agree with every word you’ve written. When I first found CDH I was still keeping my curtains closed and the door locked and unanswered as I sat in silence waiting for the knocking to stop and the car to drive away. Today, Gratitude, from the deepest part of my heart,… Read more »

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