Hi Girls,

I haven’t been a member here for that long. While cruising the CDH site and reading various posts, I’m have noticed what appears to be a common theme among a lot of the “mature” girls. This theme is that many mature crossdressers, like myself, have an increasingly strong desire to dress en femme as we get older.

For myself, having two sons involved in competitive sports severely curtailed my ability to dress for a period of over 15 years. Having shaved legs and very little privacy made it very difficult to participate in simple things (such as swimming). My feminine indulgences were limited to occasionally shaving my legs or wearing feminine undergarments. Additionally, my prolonged hiatus from dressing was accompanied by some weight gain, which meant many of my feminine clothes were too small. Since nothing fit, I gave my wardrobe away. Since that time, I have lost 68 lbs and worked hard to get in better shape. Once I had lost the weight, my next task was rebuilding my wardrobe – I bought dresses, skirts, blouses, lingerie, wigs, heels, makeup, and accessories. My new wardrobe put my old one to shame. I even considered trying female hormones, not as much to transition but more to soften my skin and help my girlish figure. I ultimately decided not to try hormones because of their increased risk of heart attack and stroke (both of which also increase with age). Another thing I have noticed is that our reluctance to show our female selves fades a lot as we get older. I find I am more concerned about how I feel than how others view me. When I was much younger, passing was less of an issue. I could get out and about with less worry. However, I was more concerned about how I was viewed at that time, so would get anxious if I thought someone was paying too much attention to me.

En Femme Style

Have any of you other girls out there experienced this overwhelming desire to dress more as you’ve gotten older?

Or is this desire unchanged by “Maturity”? Let me know girls! I am very curious about how you feel and very much looking forward to reading your replies.

Love you all! Be safe and take care.



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    Jennifer Blaze
    2 months ago

    Hi Trish, Thank you so much for your wonderful topic. I just turned 58 and I can tell you without a doubt that the desire to dress more and go out in public has grown stronger as I have aged. I also thought about taking female hormones, not so much to transition but to soften my skin and enhance my female figure but in the end I decided against that for the same reasons as you did. Instead, after some careful research, I started taking natural products such as red clover, saw palmetto, and fenugreek, coupled with an exercise routine… Read more »

    Jennifer Blaze
    2 months ago
    Reply to  Trish White

    Hi Trish, you look great and isn’t it rewarding to reap the benefits of all your hard work? You enjoy the warmth and sun and your new body too. Rock that bikini!!

    Best wishes,


    Melissa Penning
    Trusted Member
    2 months ago

    Trish, thanks for your article. I read it earlier but came back to it this evening. I agree with you, but for me it is an urgency. I know at almost 69 that my years to enjoy going out and feeling pretty are numbered, though @catgirl breaks the mold in that regard. So, I do want to go out in the world. I love looking pretty and being treated like a lady. I have had precious little opportunity to do so, so cherish each time I can.

    Melissa Penning
    Trusted Member
    2 months ago
    Reply to  Trish White

    Okay Trish, so when I saw that you were born in 1950 I seriously thought that was a typo. You look amazing honey.

    I have a pair 12 cm heels and love them, but like you I find 4 inch heels much easier to get around in.


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