Hi Girls,

I haven’t been a member here for that long. While cruising the CDH site and reading various posts, I’m have noticed what appears to be a common theme among a lot of the “mature” girls. This theme is that many mature crossdressers, like myself, have an increasingly strong desire to dress en femme as we get older.

For myself, having two sons involved in competitive sports severely curtailed my ability to dress for a period of over 15 years. Having shaved legs and very little privacy made it very difficult to participate in simple things (such as swimming). My feminine indulgences were limited to occasionally shaving my legs or wearing feminine undergarments. Additionally, my prolonged hiatus from dressing was accompanied by some weight gain, which meant many of my feminine clothes were too small. Since nothing fit, I gave my wardrobe away. Since that time, I have lost 68 lbs and worked hard to get in better shape. Once I had lost the weight, my next task was rebuilding my wardrobe – I bought dresses, skirts, blouses, lingerie, wigs, heels, makeup, and accessories. My new wardrobe put my old one to shame. I even considered trying female hormones, not as much to transition but more to soften my skin and help my girlish figure. I ultimately decided not to try hormones because of their increased risk of heart attack and stroke (both of which also increase with age). Another thing I have noticed is that our reluctance to show our female selves fades a lot as we get older. I find I am more concerned about how I feel than how others view me. When I was much younger, passing was less of an issue. I could get out and about with less worry. However, I was more concerned about how I was viewed at that time, so would get anxious if I thought someone was paying too much attention to me.

Have any of you other girls out there experienced this overwhelming desire to dress more as you’ve gotten older?

Or is this desire unchanged by “Maturity”? Let me know girls! I am very curious about how you feel and very much looking forward to reading your replies.

Love you all! Be safe and take care.



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    Mature crossdresser living in a great place and nice city but not big enough to have much for crossdressers or transwomen. I have two girl friends in Kamloops that I see fairly often and go shopping and then happy hour at the pub every week, which awesome. I also belong to 2 CD social groups in Vancouver and attend there functions as often as I can.

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    Jill Harris
    4 months ago

    Hello Trish great summary of what I am going through. I think you are correct, this does seem to be a common situation for many us “mature girls”

    Lorraine Lowry
    Active Member
    4 months ago

    Well, here we are again. With the amount of work you have put in it’s no wonder you look many years younger. You know I have a stronger desire to improve my looks. Just wanted to thank you publicly for taking me under your wing and for being a great YOUNGER sis. Lorraine

    Mysti Strachan
    7 days ago

    I also found that the fear of becoming “known” has decreased with maturity. It has also enabled a path where the few most important people to me know and support my journey.

    Kerri Smith
    Active Member
    6 days ago

    Hi Trish, My story is similar. I wasn’t able to dress much when I had a family. But now I’m alone an I have have been able to accumulate a wardrobe and get out as Kerri periodically. My worst flaw is a beer gut caused by enjoying too much food and booze. I am impressed by your 68 pound weight loss. How did you have the willpower to curb your appetite? Did you take any supplements or weight loss drugs? Anyway, I do have an overwhelming urge to dress more often and experience femininity before it’s too late. Thanks for… Read more »

    Kerri Smith
    Active Member
    6 days ago
    Reply to  Trish White

    Thanks for your comments. I have a lot of sacrifices to make before I can come anywhere close to your beautiful slim self.

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