Hi Girls,
I haven’t been a member here for that long. While cruising the CDH site and reading various posts, I’m have noticed what appears to be a common theme among a lot of the “mature” girls. This theme is that many mature crossdressers, like myself, have an increasingly strong desire to dress en femme as we get older.
For myself, having two sons involved in competitive sports severely curtailed my ability to dress for a period of over 15 years. Having shaved legs and very little privacy made it very difficult to participate in simple things (such as swimming). My feminine indulgences were limited to occasionally shaving my legs or wearing feminine undergarments. Additionally, my prolonged hiatus from dressing was accompanied by some weight gain, which meant many of my feminine clothes were too small. Since nothing fit, I gave my wardrobe away. Since that time, I have lost 68 lbs and worked hard to get in better shape. Once I had lost the weight, my next task was rebuilding my wardrobe – I bought dresses, skirts, blouses, lingerie, wigs, heels, makeup, and accessories. My new wardrobe put my old one to shame. I even considered trying female hormones, not as much to transition but more to soften my skin and help my girlish figure. I ultimately decided not to try hormones because of their increased risk of heart attack and stroke (both of which also increase with age). Another thing I have noticed is that our reluctance to show our female selves fades a lot as we get older. I find I am more concerned about how I feel than how others view me. When I was much younger, passing was less of an issue. I could get out and about with less worry. However, I was more concerned about how I was viewed at that time, so would get anxious if I thought someone was paying too much attention to me.
Have any of you other girls out there experienced this overwhelming desire to dress more as you’ve gotten older?
Or is this desire unchanged by “Maturity”? Let me know girls! I am very curious about how you feel and very much looking forward to reading your replies.
Love you all! Be safe and take care.
Love,
Trish
On point! As we get closer to the funeral home than the womb, I think it boils down to TRUE happiness in our waning years. We (assumption here) have spent too much time on the happiness of everyone else, yes including society, that we go with the norms and don’t rock the boat. IMHO, YMMV
Toodles!
So true Twilla
Hello Trish and thanks for your post. Yes, I believe as we age, our feminine desires, or the Pink Fog, grows stronger and stronger to the point that our female self has to be expressed or we will suffer mentally. Such strong emotions as most have affect our world whether we express them or not. Some time back I ran a poll here asking members what age they were and the great majority were 60 and up. I think the average mature age happens because of several factors. 1) Most CD’s have had fem feelings all their lives and never… Read more »
This was a great response! 1-8, perfect. Thanks.
Bobbi
Yes ma’am! Great addendum, all 8 apply to me on some level!
Toodles!
Beautifully said Michelle.
Thank you Trish and Michelle, you have helped me understand the question I have been raging in my head “why now” which I was using as ground to deny that this could possibly be part of me if it had not been there all along, but the more accept that it is me I can see tell tail sign from my past and how I have subconsciously suppressed this until these factors have finally allowed my to put my big girl panties on and face the truth.
Oh… BTW… you look great sweetie!
Thank you (blush)!
Oh sorry – you meant Trish didn’t you. Another blonde moment (forehead slap)
Hi Brielle. Yes, I was commenting on Trishs pic but no problem dear.
You are a beautiful girl as well and I’m jealous of both of you darlings. I love all of your outfits that are matched so well. You look so great and so feminine with that cute sweet smile. I love your style girl!.
Hi Trish, oh- absolutely! I’m a seasoned citizen myself, and I was always able to slip in and out of girl-mode at will and not be too dysphoric in between sessions. About this time last year I started stocking up after a 5-6 year purge. My wife was working outside the home, I was(still am) working remote. I’d had a few days, long weekends, etc. before so dressing all day wasn’t a new experience. But something clicked inside and I suffered dysphoria if I went a coupkle of days withoiut dressing. Now, I’m an all-or-almost nothing dresser. If I can’t… Read more »
That’s great Brielle, good luck and I hope it all goes well for you.
Love,
Trish
So true Twilla
The desire never leaves you, it is that the opportunities increase as you age. You have spent a life pleasing others and fulfilling your obligations now it is your time. Enjoy!
First of all, you look gorgeous – happy, casual, well dressed.. lovely. What I wouldn’t give to go for a walk with you girl. I love your story, so similar to my own and now that the kids are grown and gone there should be time for Lauren. But, alas, now I have less chances than ever to change since I am also retired and no more ability to stay out. But the desire to change and go out is stronger than ever and, yes, I care far less about what others are thinking when they see me. In fact,… Read more »
Thankyou for the compliment Lauren, you made this girls day sweetie.
Hi all, This is such an interesting topic and my wife and I have been discussing this. I have never wanted to cross dress until 5 years ago I am now 50, so I’m just a baby on CDH. We initially put it down to that my wife for many, many years had lost interest in sex and also dressing feminine, so I thought it was a strong factor in why I started to CD. So yes it started out sexual but then has developed way past that, more a way of life (when I get the chance – kids).… Read more »
Oh my gosh, this article just rings so true with me! I love being me, I love being out, and while I enjoy blending in I have no problem standing out. While I have dressed for years, starting very young, Haley was not born until July 2019, and I can remember the day. When I put those forms in my pocket bra, put my wig on, my denim skirt and my black lacy top with the red rose…Haley was looking back at me from the mirror. I recognized her like you would an old friend, and I knew her name… Read more »
Stop it Lauren, you’re making me blush, but thanks for the compliment that was very nice to hear. Maybe you’ll shrink alot will you age, I used to be 5′-10 1/2″ and now I’m 5′-9″ which is ok with me, lol. I hear you about covid, I used to go to Vancouver once in awhile to shop and go clubbing at night but, like you, those days are over for a while :(. Have a good weekend Lauren.