Hi Girls,
I haven’t been a member here for that long. While cruising the CDH site and reading various posts, I’m have noticed what appears to be a common theme among a lot of the “mature” girls. This theme is that many mature crossdressers, like myself, have an increasingly strong desire to dress en femme as we get older.
For myself, having two sons involved in competitive sports severely curtailed my ability to dress for a period of over 15 years. Having shaved legs and very little privacy made it very difficult to participate in simple things (such as swimming). My feminine indulgences were limited to occasionally shaving my legs or wearing feminine undergarments. Additionally, my prolonged hiatus from dressing was accompanied by some weight gain, which meant many of my feminine clothes were too small. Since nothing fit, I gave my wardrobe away. Since that time, I have lost 68 lbs and worked hard to get in better shape. Once I had lost the weight, my next task was rebuilding my wardrobe – I bought dresses, skirts, blouses, lingerie, wigs, heels, makeup, and accessories. My new wardrobe put my old one to shame. I even considered trying female hormones, not as much to transition but more to soften my skin and help my girlish figure. I ultimately decided not to try hormones because of their increased risk of heart attack and stroke (both of which also increase with age). Another thing I have noticed is that our reluctance to show our female selves fades a lot as we get older. I find I am more concerned about how I feel than how others view me. When I was much younger, passing was less of an issue. I could get out and about with less worry. However, I was more concerned about how I was viewed at that time, so would get anxious if I thought someone was paying too much attention to me.
Have any of you other girls out there experienced this overwhelming desire to dress more as you’ve gotten older?
Or is this desire unchanged by “Maturity”? Let me know girls! I am very curious about how you feel and very much looking forward to reading your replies.
Love you all! Be safe and take care.
Love,
Trish
I feel the same way. The desire/need to cross dress gets stronger every year. Sadly I don’t have the opportunities to dress as much as I would like.
I too am like just about everyone else whose desire has increased with age. I feel so much more feminine now than ever before, and I do wonder if it has anything to do our male hormones decreasing.
Also, like you have given consideration to taking hormones, but don’t think that is my path, however so much has changed for me in the last few years I’ll summon that old expression, “never say never"
Amy
So true Amy.
I started Dressing at age 59. I don’t really have the childhood stories of trying my mom or sisters clothing. I grew up in a house full of girls and I don’t ever remember wanting to wear their clothes or shoes. Now at 62 I have my own wardrobe. Taken great pleasure in the feminine education I’ve received in my solo as a Crossdressing Closet Girl. I echo that as I’ve gotten older the desire to develop and embrace my feminine persona has greatly increased. Honing my feminine movements and mannerisms is of great importance to me. Do I understand… Read more »
I totally agree that I go out much more now that I’m getting older. I feel better and younger as well. I don’t mind people seeing me as much as I did years ago. I found a woman owned bar that was LGBT friendly and I go there dressed and not dressed. I which they had dancing. They did on New Year’s Eve and I had a great time. I for starting the article.
Dani
I would have to say my strongest feelings on this has been in my older years . Of coarse i had this feel about me since i was pre school , really , and my mom dressed me as a girl till i went to grade school . As the years passed i tried to forget this feeling , but in my older years it has came back so strong i stay in fem most times . I realize this feeling is never going away , why ? , i wish i knew , so i have decided to just… Read more »
That is so awesome Leslie, I’m so happy for you and you look so cute in your Jammies.
Yes, I just turned 73 and my need to CD is strong though I only dress privately. Been seriously dressing for a year maybe more. I always feel complete when I do.
I would l would like to go out but haven’t the needed wardrobe for that adventure and would prefer t oil have company if I do so. Hugs, Aurora B.
Yes Trish, I am 62 years old and have been married for 38 years. My desires to cross dress have increased significantly since I came out to my wife again about a year and a half ago. I keep my legs shaved and toe nails painted all the time. I also shave all my body hair. I am looking at laser hair removal for my face especially since I am on blood thinners for life. It is our Girl time to be who we are supposedly to be. I know I am TG and more comfortable presenting as a woman.… Read more »
I hear you Hope. It’s a shame we didn’t know earlier what we know now, right.
Yes I would agree. At 63. I do feel the urge to dress up more now than before.
Yes I must say I have dressed up more than double the times and lately I have dressed up three straight week . But it keeps me busy it not easy because I am now both I have to pick one but witch one
I know what my answer would be Cindy, have a nice weekend.
Cheers,
Trish
After years of purging, guilt, and all of the other common threads here, now at 71, my urge to get dolled up, is greater than it has ever been. I definitely don’t feel 71, but realization hits me when applying makeup and it appears cakey from the wrinkles and crows feet around my eyes. I remember the wonderful times when I was younger, and dressing was so pleasant, but now I want to more and more often. I just haven’t figured out how to be that girl, I used to be, or I’m just not ready to dress age appropriate.… Read more »
Hi Cheri, I can totally relate. When I was younger I had no problem passing and like you “age appropriate" doesn’t include mini skirts and dresses and 5″ heels. But at this stage (I’m 71 as well) I don’t really care what other people think. The only person I care about it me.