Hi Girls,
I haven’t been a member here for that long. While cruising the CDH site and reading various posts, I’m have noticed what appears to be a common theme among a lot of the “mature” girls. This theme is that many mature crossdressers, like myself, have an increasingly strong desire to dress en femme as we get older.
For myself, having two sons involved in competitive sports severely curtailed my ability to dress for a period of over 15 years. Having shaved legs and very little privacy made it very difficult to participate in simple things (such as swimming). My feminine indulgences were limited to occasionally shaving my legs or wearing feminine undergarments. Additionally, my prolonged hiatus from dressing was accompanied by some weight gain, which meant many of my feminine clothes were too small. Since nothing fit, I gave my wardrobe away. Since that time, I have lost 68 lbs and worked hard to get in better shape. Once I had lost the weight, my next task was rebuilding my wardrobe – I bought dresses, skirts, blouses, lingerie, wigs, heels, makeup, and accessories. My new wardrobe put my old one to shame. I even considered trying female hormones, not as much to transition but more to soften my skin and help my girlish figure. I ultimately decided not to try hormones because of their increased risk of heart attack and stroke (both of which also increase with age). Another thing I have noticed is that our reluctance to show our female selves fades a lot as we get older. I find I am more concerned about how I feel than how others view me. When I was much younger, passing was less of an issue. I could get out and about with less worry. However, I was more concerned about how I was viewed at that time, so would get anxious if I thought someone was paying too much attention to me.
Have any of you other girls out there experienced this overwhelming desire to dress more as you’ve gotten older?
Or is this desire unchanged by “Maturity”? Let me know girls! I am very curious about how you feel and very much looking forward to reading your replies.
Love you all! Be safe and take care.
Love,
Trish
Hi Trish, Thank you so much for your wonderful topic. I just turned 58 and I can tell you without a doubt that the desire to dress more and go out in public has grown stronger as I have aged. I also thought about taking female hormones, not so much to transition but to soften my skin and enhance my female figure but in the end I decided against that for the same reasons as you did. Instead, after some careful research, I started taking natural products such as red clover, saw palmetto, and fenugreek, coupled with an exercise routine… Read more »
Wow, I’m so happy of the results you’re getting Jennifer. It’s true that wonderful things can happen when you put the effort and research into it. I am almost to the point where I look pretty good in a Bikini and looking forward to some warmth and sunshine so I can get some sun tanning in. Take care and enjoy your new body.
Love,
Trish
Hi Trish, you look great and isn’t it rewarding to reap the benefits of all your hard work? You enjoy the warmth and sun and your new body too. Rock that bikini!!
Best wishes,
Jennifer
It sure is Jennifer, anytime I think about eating something I shouldn’t i just look in the mirror and the desire vanishes immediately. Have a great day and it was nice chatting with you.
Love,
Trish
Trish, thanks for your article. I read it earlier but came back to it this evening. I agree with you, but for me it is an urgency. I know at almost 69 that my years to enjoy going out and feeling pretty are numbered, though @catgirl breaks the mold in that regard. So, I do want to go out in the world. I love looking pretty and being treated like a lady. I have had precious little opportunity to do so, so cherish each time I can.
Hi Melissa,
You’re still young and judging by your looks and figure I’d say you’re in pretty good shape. So I can see a lot of years left for you to enjoy being pretty and feminine. I’m turning 72 shortly and I still feel young and have no issue wearing 5″ heels although I’m more comfortable in 4″. I can relate to having little opportunity to be me. My wife tolerates Trish at best but wants nothing to do with her although she does seem to be mellowing out a bit, I’m hopeful. take care sweetie.
Love,
Trish
Okay Trish, so when I saw that you were born in 1950 I seriously thought that was a typo. You look amazing honey.
I have a pair 12 cm heels and love them, but like you I find 4 inch heels much easier to get around in.
Love
Melissa
Thanks for the compliment Melissa especially coming from you! Have a great day.
Love,
Trish
Hello Trish. I’ve binge read all the previous posts and I’m somewhat amazed by the range of experieces. But I didn’t read one exactly like mine. I’m 79 yo, who first felt the desire/need to openly express my femininity less than a year ago (shortly after my wife passed). Prior to that I was a lifelong lingerie CD. To help complete my story: no sisters, no mom’s lingerie. But at an early age I knew dressing in lingerie was an addiction I couldn’t break. Soon after marrying I knew I had to make my wife aware of my love of… Read more »
Hi Bobbie,
I’m so sorry to hear of your wife’s passing, I can’t imagine what you went through. But I’m happy with how you seem to be progressing on the female side of you. Losing all the weight, losing the hair and, lucky you, getting breasts and more or less being a girl almost full time. Keep it up girl, you’ll never regret it.
Love,
Trish
Great article! I think my desire to be a mature dresser comes from the fact that we have experienced so much in our lives that there is no need to deny what brings us joy. We all have a feminine side. I think the older we get, there is no reason to run from it. Our inner feminine has always been there, so why keep her hidden, let her shine baby!
So true Madelynn, I think you hit the nail on the head in your last sentence.
Cheers,
Trish
I couldn’t agree with you more Trish. Other than a run in with my wife’s nightgown at 28 and a couple skirmishes with her pantyhose in my 40s, I had no active crossdressing experience until last year at age 69. Since then, its been full speed ahead, and I’m the better person for it in many ways. Notably, it has had a profound “youthening" effect on my overall attitude, and I am getting that feeling from you and others as I connect more with the CD/TG community. I am not regretful of the time I missed, but rather excited by… Read more »
You’re absolutely right Kris. In my younger years I used to wonder why I was the way I was and wished the feeling would go away. In my late teens that changed to feeling happy about who and what I was. I was no longer ashamed, rather very happy with what I was blessed with.
Love,
Trish ❤️
Trish, I have to agree as I get older, 63 here, my desire to dress just gets stronger. Making up for lost time I guess
That seems to be the case Steph. I was actually shocked at how many replies there were and most were the same as you. Myself included.
Trish
Trish,
I was a lifelong closeted lingerie cross dresser who finally started dressing fully as a woman and going out in public en femme early this year. I am past retirement age but the desire to present as Fiona has gotten stronger to the point I now spend 80% of my time in public en femme. So I agree with you 100%.
Trish, I hope this does not sound to much like every one else but I think we have a real club going on here with an awful lot of members. I’m in the same boat, started when I was just turning 10, telling my wife early in our marriage, (totally the wrong way but at least I told her) am now in my later 60’s and although I’ve always had the want to dress more the feeling now is almost uncontrollable. Like all the others there is the acceptance issue, close friends, work, children and the big one wife. My… Read more »
Hi Sherry, we’ll I’m glad I did and glad you liked it. I must say I’m still shocked at the response from all the girls. I had no idea until I read all the replies that were coming in. Good luck on your next trip, I do hope it works out well for you and your wife.
Trish ❤️
At 61, crossdressing since age 8ish, I find the crossdressing desire increased or perhaps just the ability to crossdress has increased. No kids around, less out of the house evenings, wife more accepting, and my own personal realization that the things I worried about before don’t matter as much (who cares what others think!).
Well said April.
As always Trish your looking so beautiful…I am a 70+ crossdresser for the past 10 years the desire (or overwhelming feelings of femininity) has grown over the years..I love the transformation process .. from makeup application to choosing a feminine wardrobe .
oh how I love to be absorbed by the ping fog
be well …warmest regards, Leonara
Hi Lenora and thanks for your reply and compliment. Both are much appreciated.
Cheers,
Trish