Mindfulness is the practice of consciously focusing on the present moment, noticing sensations, feelings, thoughts, and the environment without judgment.

It is a technique that promotes personal development and helps to deal with stress and anxiety and other disorders.

You probably enjoy crossdressing, but for a variety of reasons—including ones beyond crossdressing itself—you may feel anxious when you do. You may fear being caught dressed as a woman – and this can detract from your experience: You become anxious and don’t enjoy the experience as much as you should, including not taking all of your available time. You may feel anxious about underdressing outside the home, fearing that someone will discover your secret – including thoughts such as “if I get sick or have an accident and go to the hospital, I will be exposed”. You may be having trouble understanding or even accepting your attraction to women’s clothing. Or you are simply anxious or worried about other reasons, such as an illness, a professional issue, among other things.

You can apply mindfulness practice to crossdressing in a number of ways. You can dress like a woman by taking this present moment and noticing consciously and non-judgmentally how you feel. This experience will definitely do a lot of good for your mind and deepen your self-knowledge and strengthen connections with your feminine side.

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The first exercise I’m going to propose here: put on a bra. I like the bra exercise because it is a piece that imposes its presence. Sensations like the touch of the straps on the shoulders and the “hug” that the band gives to the body make it a piece impossible not to be felt by those who wear it – many women love to unbutton it when they get home, after spending hours together.

Choose a bra that you like and wear it consciously. Pay attention to how you wear it, from choosing it to fitting it into your body. Notice the straps touching and squeezing your shoulders. Realize and feel the touch of the fabric on the body, identifying which fabric it is composed of (lace, cotton, satin or other). Feel the hug feeling it provides. If using any padding, feel the weight of the padding. In the mirror, identify and see how it feels to see yourself wearing a bra. Note the projection (if any, if you are wearing padding or a padded bra). Realize the difference when wearing some clothes over the bra.

At all these times, be non-judgmental. Just watch your feelings, sensations and thoughts as if they were cars driving down the street and driving away. This goes for all the exercises we propose here.

The same goes for panties: you can consciously wear panties. Feel the touch of the fabric on the body and notice the difference between wearing panties and underwear. Realize how your body adapts to the panties. You can see yourself in the mirror wearing the panties and just observe how you feel and what you think about it.

If you want to wear a skirt or dress, wear it consciously. Feel the sensation of using a different cut piece. Feel the touch of the fabric on the body. Notice how the piece moves when you walk or walk. Feel the wind. In the mirror, observe what it feels like to see yourself in this outfit.

You can also apply makeup. Consciously choose how you want to apply makeup and the materials you will use. Apply makeup mindfully, paying attention to how the materials interact with your body as you apply them. With makeup on, feel the feeling you get when you have makeup on your face. In the mirror, notice how you feel to see your face transformed.

Shoes? Consciously wear the shoe – how about a high-heeled one? – and notice how your feet feel in relation to it. Walk around wearing them and notice how you feel and how you walk in them.

You may feel anxious about dressing like a woman. Either for fear of liking it or for fear of being caught by someone. Mindfulness is a great tool to relax, but if you need it, you can use relaxation techniques. I recommend diaphragmatic breathing: inhale slowly through your nose and place your hand on your belly. Try to expand the belly – not the chest. Then, slowly exhale through your mouth. Repeat a few times until you feel relaxed.

You can do one exercise or do them all in combination – that is, assemble yourself completely. One way or another, this is an experience that will be very positive for your crossdressing practice and for your mental health.

– Do you get anxious when crossdressing?

– Have you heard about mindfulness? Have you ever thought about the relationship between mindfulness and crossdressing?

– Have you practiced what I taught here? Share your experience.

 

Sincerely,

Marie

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Leah
Baroness
Trusted Member
1 year ago

interesting perspective but totally makes sense

Michelle Leggs
Lady
Active Member
1 year ago

Well spoken, I love the feeling I get when I dress and go out. Anxious..yes

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago
Reply to  Michelle Leggs

I definitely love to become Jenna and my girlfriend insist I go as her girlfriend when we go shopping xoxo

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago
Reply to  Michelle Leggs

I love to get dressed and shopping as Jenna that’s the only way my girlfriend will go with me xoxo

Sarah Kanter
Lady
Trusted Member
1 year ago

This is an interesting take on things. I like it. I think this sort of mindfulness is important in every aspect of life. It’s part of enjoying the moment and not missing things.

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago
Reply to  Marie Claire

I’m so lucky I’m retired and my girlfriend loves the new me I’m Jenna almost all the time it’s fantastic when I step out of the shower to see she has laid out a skirt and tank top and says that’s what you’re wearing today jenna

Lauren Mugnaia
Duchess
Trusted Member
1 year ago

What you’ve been talking about, is one of the most enjoyable parts of daily life for me. I am a trans woman, an intersex female, and every day I experience the pleasure of donning a bra, panties, pantyhose, nice tops, yoga pants, skirts or dresses, and feminine footwear. Then I savor the feeling of doing my facial routine, moisturizer, primer, and foundation. Then doing my eyes with liner, eyeshadow and mascara. The wonderful feeling of my lipstick gliding across my lips followed by a touch of bronzer and a kiss of blush. Add a shot of perfume and I’m ready… Read more »

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago
Reply to  Lauren Mugnaia

You definitely got it together girl I dated a trans girl in the past she told me of her journey and how I have the best girlfriend ever who loves the new me she loves shopping with her cross dressing boyfriend keeping me mostly as her girlfriend xoxo

Deborah Sullivan
Lady
Trusted Member
1 year ago

yes Marie I love your insights and perceptions of what we experience as crossdressers

Trisha Rave
Lady
Active Member
1 year ago

At my age it brings back so much. Thank You

Lea
Lady
Trusted Member
1 year ago

I love this post! It’s the first chapter of a book you could write for Exploring Your Crossdressing Side – a guide for everyone. Imagine if a guy who wasn’t sure of his tendencies followed those steps to explore and confirm himself.

I’m looking forward to your next chapter.. Step-by-step for Sharing your Crossdressing Side.

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago

I’m not David very often anymore I definitely becoming Jenna more often my girlfriend and I went out twice today she always prefers to shop with Jenna I got lucky and found two new skirts she has encouraged me every since she moved in it’s great to have someone to help me to become Jenna during the day it’s heels and skirts and it’s 730 pm so I’m laying around in pink leggings and a girly top and she insists I keep my bra on but latter it’s time for a silk nightgown

Kelly Ann Marie Hutchinson
Lady
Active Member
Reply to  David Greis

You and I are in the same place. My wife loves taking me shopping when I’m in my girly clothes. Reading what you wrote is exactly the same as myself. Go out and rock it girl

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago

I’m definitely a lucky girl to have someone who not only encouraging me but loves to pick out what I’m wearing each day last night she painted my nails a beautiful shade of blue with sparkles you’re the first girl I spoke to xoxoxo

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago

She even chose my name for me I love being Jenna and meeting so many girlfriends xoxo

Lucinda Hawkns
Lady
Trusted Member
1 year ago
Reply to  David Greis

wow keep her for sure. wish my wife would do the same for me insist me to wear a dress or skirt and nylons, go shopping for more and buy more perfume, earrings, heels, panties pads, help me with make up and teach me how to apply eye shadow better. sit and talk like 2 females and get to know my fem side more

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago
Reply to  Lucinda Hawkns

I’m very lucky this way she even insisted I get my ears pierced so we can share earrings joining CDH is the best thing that ever happened to me my girlfriend is so happy I joined very nice meeting you girlfriend xoxo

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago
Reply to  Lucinda Hawkns

I would give you my phone number so we could text directly but I don’t know if that’s allowed

Lucinda Hawkns
Lady
Trusted Member
1 year ago

hello and well put. i underdress a lot and i don’t feel that someone is going to know i am wearing a dress, nylons and a bra. maybe my wife will see it. but if i had a boob enhancer she would and so would everyone else. yes, if you underdress and you get ill and have to go to hospital guess what you are busted. I love the feel of a bra and panties and pad. then a nice dress or skirt and blouse. i do wear makeup but only in doors. the feeling of the clothing is so… Read more »

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago
Reply to  Lucinda Hawkns

I’m most definitely have become Jenna but that’s because of the support I get from my girlfriend because of her we now go in public she never wants to shop with the old me just Jenna

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago
Reply to  Lucinda Hawkns

I’m never undressed thanks to my girlfriend I know if we go anywhere today she will insist I go as Jenna because she loves her personality she said change after she dresses me up and applies make up my nails have a fresh shade of blue with sparkles that she put on me last night have a great day girlfriend xoxoxo

Billy
Lady
Active Member
1 year ago

Such an interesting article, thanks so much for writing and posting it!
I always feel centered, focused and relaxed when I crossdress.
The dressing transformation process is so enjoyable and compelling, and, for me,
the ultimate stress reducer (although I always start with panties!).
I have practiced Transcendental Meditation for over 40 years and mediating while
crossdressed is a profound experience…

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago
Reply to  Billy

I wear silk panties all the time but I’m not Jenna all the time but even though my girlfriend is insisting I be her more often and I must be Jenna when we go shopping have a lovely day girlfriend xoxo

Lucinda Hawkns
Lady
Trusted Member
1 year ago
Reply to  David Greis

hello and its nice to have a GF to have you dress up. hope you can get back to C.D H . have a good day. i love under dressing when i go out doors for afraid to have neighbor’s see me dressed up but when no one is home i dress up and be me.

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