Mindfulness is the practice of consciously focusing on the present moment, noticing sensations, feelings, thoughts, and the environment without judgment.

It is a technique that promotes personal development and helps to deal with stress and anxiety and other disorders.

You probably enjoy crossdressing, but for a variety of reasons—including ones beyond crossdressing itself—you may feel anxious when you do. You may fear being caught dressed as a woman – and this can detract from your experience: You become anxious and don’t enjoy the experience as much as you should, including not taking all of your available time. You may feel anxious about underdressing outside the home, fearing that someone will discover your secret – including thoughts such as “if I get sick or have an accident and go to the hospital, I will be exposed”. You may be having trouble understanding or even accepting your attraction to women’s clothing. Or you are simply anxious or worried about other reasons, such as an illness, a professional issue, among other things.

You can apply mindfulness practice to crossdressing in a number of ways. You can dress like a woman by taking this present moment and noticing consciously and non-judgmentally how you feel. This experience will definitely do a lot of good for your mind and deepen your self-knowledge and strengthen connections with your feminine side.

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The first exercise I’m going to propose here: put on a bra. I like the bra exercise because it is a piece that imposes its presence. Sensations like the touch of the straps on the shoulders and the “hug” that the band gives to the body make it a piece impossible not to be felt by those who wear it – many women love to unbutton it when they get home, after spending hours together.

Choose a bra that you like and wear it consciously. Pay attention to how you wear it, from choosing it to fitting it into your body. Notice the straps touching and squeezing your shoulders. Realize and feel the touch of the fabric on the body, identifying which fabric it is composed of (lace, cotton, satin or other). Feel the hug feeling it provides. If using any padding, feel the weight of the padding. In the mirror, identify and see how it feels to see yourself wearing a bra. Note the projection (if any, if you are wearing padding or a padded bra). Realize the difference when wearing some clothes over the bra.

At all these times, be non-judgmental. Just watch your feelings, sensations and thoughts as if they were cars driving down the street and driving away. This goes for all the exercises we propose here.

The same goes for panties: you can consciously wear panties. Feel the touch of the fabric on the body and notice the difference between wearing panties and underwear. Realize how your body adapts to the panties. You can see yourself in the mirror wearing the panties and just observe how you feel and what you think about it.

If you want to wear a skirt or dress, wear it consciously. Feel the sensation of using a different cut piece. Feel the touch of the fabric on the body. Notice how the piece moves when you walk or walk. Feel the wind. In the mirror, observe what it feels like to see yourself in this outfit.

You can also apply makeup. Consciously choose how you want to apply makeup and the materials you will use. Apply makeup mindfully, paying attention to how the materials interact with your body as you apply them. With makeup on, feel the feeling you get when you have makeup on your face. In the mirror, notice how you feel to see your face transformed.

Shoes? Consciously wear the shoe – how about a high-heeled one? – and notice how your feet feel in relation to it. Walk around wearing them and notice how you feel and how you walk in them.

You may feel anxious about dressing like a woman. Either for fear of liking it or for fear of being caught by someone. Mindfulness is a great tool to relax, but if you need it, you can use relaxation techniques. I recommend diaphragmatic breathing: inhale slowly through your nose and place your hand on your belly. Try to expand the belly – not the chest. Then, slowly exhale through your mouth. Repeat a few times until you feel relaxed.

You can do one exercise or do them all in combination – that is, assemble yourself completely. One way or another, this is an experience that will be very positive for your crossdressing practice and for your mental health.

– Do you get anxious when crossdressing?

– Have you heard about mindfulness? Have you ever thought about the relationship between mindfulness and crossdressing?

– Have you practiced what I taught here? Share your experience.

 

Sincerely,

Marie

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Julie Day
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Julie Day
1 year ago

I agree with all you have stated, and I do feel that way about my feminine self, but it is so much more then the cloths, makeup or bras. It is the way I fell as a feminine person, the female energy I feel when dressed. To me its a mindset as well as the outward appearance that I love so much.

Kelly Ann Marie Hutchinson
Lady
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Reply to  Julie Day

You hit the nail on the head. It’s so much more than just the clothing. I’m lucky enough to have a wife that supports me 100%. Our weekends are spent shopping some dresses she likes and I don’t but she says they look better on me.

Julie Day
Active Member
Julie Day
1 year ago

That is wonderful Kelly. Unfortunately my wife does not support me expressing my feminine side.

Trisha Rave
Lady
Active Member
1 year ago

I also agree. So very TRUE,

Kim Paige
Lady
Member
1 year ago

Hi Marie Claire,

Thank you for posting this. Setting aside the guilt and appreciating the moment we get to experience feminity is what drives this side of our self. Yes we know there are others that could be “let down” at seeing this side of us; but at least for a moment we should try to embrace and accept it.

Kimberly Anne

Deborah Sullivan
Lady
Trusted Member
1 year ago

Yes and like to add that we are experiencing more than just the clothes and makeup as a man in a dress but feeling your true feminine self come out and enjoying then the world as a woman. Letting all the softer sides of yourself be expressed.

Kelly Ann Marie Hutchinson
Lady
Active Member

My wife is my biggest supporter she loves having a girlfriend to go shopping with

Joanna J
Lady
Member
1 year ago

Thank you Marie.I wear a bra and panty every day to keep me connected to who I really am.It is a wonderful feeling both mind and body.

Kelly Ann Marie Hutchinson
Lady
Active Member
Reply to  Joanna J

Same here. I feel lost with out my bra and panties. I have to have my B forms also and stockings or pantyhose. They keep me centered

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago

I told my girlfriend that I love to cross dress the very day we started texting on Facebook dating and as soon as I gave her my number she called me quickly and talked for 3 hours met the next morning for the first time and we are both so happy she loves it that she has a great boyfriend but as a bonus a girlfriend sometimes I think she loves Jenna better lol take care girls xoxo

David Greis
David Greis
1 year ago

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PJ Tobe
Member
PJ Tobe
1 year ago

Yes! Yes! Yes! Thank you for your insights and encouragement. Just donned a lace bra and noticed the immediate mind shift. ️

Kaitlyn Pari (Atlantic Princess)
Duchess
Active Member

I wouldn’t say anxiousness as much as excitement. I do lots of prep and try to plan for the worse case scenario. I do love when I go out and I always loosen up after just a little it. I have practiced mindfulness and have used breathing techniques to remind myself to relax and enjoy the moment.

Trisha Rave
Lady
Active Member
1 year ago

I also agree very helpful.

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