Believe it or not, I was caught by a policeman and taken to the Police Command Post trailer in handcuffs! He stopped me while I was out one winter evening enjoying a nice drive, while I might add being dressed quite lavishly in my thigh high heeled boots, pencil skirt, long black sweater, winter coat, handbag, and fully made up and wearing jewelry and a shoulder length wig. I was feeling adventurous and quite feminine.
I’d been to various malls and walked through their parking lot to the doors of several stores where people were entering and exiting. I usually go out at night, but generally not to such crowded places. This time, I had on a heavy coat and boots, so I blended in well. It was thrilling to be walking among the various crowds as a regular woman shopper. After a few hours, I decide to take the long way home. I dropped something at my feet and reached down to get it (I did not want it to lodge under my brake or gas pedal.)
Suddenly, blue and red lights are flashing behind me. When I had reached down, I inadvertently swerved outside my lane. I could not find my registration and tried telling the policeman my en femme name. He made me, but was not sure if I was transgender and legally had changed my name to Marian A. After several calls to HQ with no acknowledgement of a Marian A., he asked me to come clean. I told him my real name and hoped that would satisfy his persistence. Although I passed the breath analyzer test, he thought I may have been on drugs due to my swerving on the road. My car was impounded, I was handcuffed, and I was put in his patrol car to go take a drug test.
Surprisingly, at the Police Command Post, I was treated very courteously as a female by both female and male staff members, even the policeman who had stopped me loosened up, calling me Marian even though he knew my male name. I was told that since I was presenting as a female, they would treat me as such. I shouldn’t feel ashamed or uncomfortable about dressing and presenting as a female. They mentioned that crossdressing was quite common and very prevalent in today’s society. I was complimented on how well-dressed I was and how civilly I acted. Even when other “guests” came in escorted by policemen, I was constantly referred to as “Marian” in their presence.
Even though I was detained for several hours, we had a delightful conversation about my clothes and my crossdressing. I was treated as a woman the whole time and was allowed to use the unisex toilet. Of course, the toilet seat was up! But not for long as it then crashed down very loudly as I was preparing myself to sit on it. All I could think of was that I had now convinced them that I was not merely a crossdresser but actually a transgender female!
When the EMT took my blood, he was very gentle and courteous. I was told that no record of my arrest would be kept if the drug test was negative (it was). Eventually, they called a cab for me and the policeman took my hand as I walked down the steep steps in my heeled boots. He walked me across the parking lot to the waiting cab, opened the door for me, and said goodnight MARIAN as he closed the door. I rode to within a block of my home. It was about 3 am, and I did not want the cab to stop under a streetlight by my house; have the cab door slam shut and a female seen entering my house where no female lived! I felt more confident to walk the block to my home and then turn up my walk to the door as quickly and quietly as possible.
I made it! I reminisced about how elegantly I’d been treated by the police staff. I’d spent nearly three hours as a female conversing with other people and being accepted as such. It had made me comfortable talking with a female voice and brandishing female mannerisms: crossing my legs, gesturing with my hands, taking off my coat to show off my figure, and walking the length of the trailer every so often (with a wiggle) to stretch my legs. Again, the women were nice and smiled which further encouraged me. Now, it was time to go to bed, and after I undressed and put on my nightgown and matching panties, I laid in bed thinking: Yes, it was the best experience I ever had crossdressed!
That was really welcoming to hear. Thanks for sharing such a positive experience Marian. Congratulations on such a lovely adventure 🙂
I am sure it was very scary at first but you handled it so well. You completely disarmed the police with your politeness and we are all proud of the way you handled it sis
Really great story Marian and well-written. Thanks for sharing it with us, honey.
Hugs, Mona
Marian, Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. Glad it turned out to be a good experience, an empowering experience. What an amazing story!
Hugs
Diane
Thank you ladies for your kind words! I am glad you enjoyed the story, I was hoping that you would find it interesting and appealing. -Marian
What a wonderful end to a scary situation. some thing like that would have been almost impossible 50 years ago but is more common type of experience today. I’m so happy for you.
Sandy
Thank you so much, Sandy. I’m pleased you found my experience interesting. I was going to say that I would not have dared go out 50 years ago. But actually I did, several times! Hugs, Marian
WoW–I’ve never been pulled over fully dressed-but always been a little afraid of it happening-handling it with poise & Grace probably made all the difference–
Jane Don, thank you for your lovely comments. It’s always nice to have something you thought was meaningful to be appreciated by others. Stay safe from Covid & the flu. -Love, Marian
Marian,
What an inspiration. I wish I had read your story before I went through my recent purge. You story has eased my anxiety of not being able to dress. I to am a mature senior. And I battle in my mind living alone sometimes. Reading your post gives me hope.
Thank you Hun, Cassia
Cassia, Thank you for your kind words. Sorry about your purge, but don’t beat yourself up for it, think that all things happen for a reason; it may be helpful to try a balanced life approach. That is, too much emphasis on crossdressing may lead to a purge and not enough may lead to anxiety. If your a mature senior as stated, you’ve had past successes you are proud of; remember them; find in them something positive to continue and get out and about and enjoy yourself doing it! Just don’t beat yourself up. I’m not preaching to you; I’m… Read more »
Thank you for sharing your experience. It intrigued me because I was once a police officer who ran gender/transgender awareness course for officers in the UK. I learned so much while running those courses but not half as much as I have since coming out to my wife five months ago. Many people assume officers are ignorant of life and in particular gender related issues and lifestyles like ours. I’m still to be persuaded that the reality of going out en femme isn’t filled with horror but experiences like yours give me hope. After I read your experience I read… Read more »
Carla, thank you so .much for your endearing response. I’m pleased that you found this article helpful. But talk about courage, coming out to your wife is the ultimate! I too wish you well in the future, and it is true that attitude breeds confidence. Just pick a safe setting and keep rocking those heels! -Hugs, Marian
Hi Mariam. Thank you for your post. I remember, one night that I had a similar experience. While I was alone in my apartment, I decided got a ride in my car. After spent some time for different streets in my city (Santa Fe, Argentina), I arrived to a cross street and all my fears show up suddenly, blue and red lights were in front to me. I tried to avoid the policeman control and turned to the right in the corner, but others officials were there with the same intentions, made me to stop the car for an alcohol test. Obviously a plan scape wasn´t… Read more »
Hi, Roxana (pretty name), You are so right, your experience was very similar to mine but much more scary! I remember how helpless I felt when the policeman was approaching my car. That was quick thinking by you to say you went to a costume party. I’m so happy that your experience ended so nicely and the policeman and testing staff were so friendly. It made me feel really good to be accepted as a woman and not to feel ashamed, so I understand exactly how you felt! I agree with you that we fear for the worst but things… Read more »
Roxana, thank you so much for your , it was so sweet of you! -Marian ❤
Thank you to you Marian. Lot a kisees. We are in touch
Roxana, I appreciate your reply and “yes" we are in touch and let’s keep doing so! -Marian ❤