Ok, so I have dabbled in dressing out in public, but only driving the car wearing lady’s clothes and never getting out. I’ve been lucky enough in the last year to do a few long distance journeys on my own. A couple of the trips were from one end of the country to the other. About three months ago, after many years of struggle, it struck me that I was a crossdresser and did not want to transition to a woman. I made the decision to go all out in my effort to pass En femme at some point in the near future. I started to plan a night out at the local crossdressing pub in Norwich, using an excuse as a photo walk with a local club I am with.
I started to purchase all the things I would need for the event. The items would make me look and feel as close to a woman as I could make myself. I purchased hip pads, foundation (challenge to find my match), eyebrow pencil (I am lucky enough to have light and quite feminine brows for a man), nice cherry lipstick, eyeliner, and mascara. I also bought some jewelry (small hoop earrings and some nice bangles, which needed slight modification in order to fit my wrist. The final touch was a nice, passable, brown shoulder-length wig. I also bought some nice everyday black underwear and some comfy nude kitten heels.
The house was empty for a few weekends so I was able to practice my makeup skills, self taught as it were, in an area that I have never attempted before. The first foundation was far too light, and I never realised the eyeliner, mascara, and eyebrows were so hard to apply. After a few times, I started to get a reasonable result.
Then it happened; I had the chance to go out to the cinema, on my own, to see a one off showing on a Monday night in December. A slight change of outfit was needed; something a bit more casual. I chose a nice Joe Brown skater dress, Cami top, and casual ladies trainers. I also bought a nice scarf, clutch bag, and a pair of fake glasses to help with the look.
The night came, and I shaved as close as possible. I also shaved my arms as I don’t have much hair on them, and I thought I could get away with it. There was no chance with the legs, but I felt the tights should do. There wasn’t any chance to get sorted at home so I left early and found a quite lay-by on the way. Beard concealer and basic makeup applied in the car using the vanity mirrors—fun times for our cause, but I think I pulled it off. Pulling into the car park, the last thing to go on is my wig. I needed the foundation to dry as I found that the fine strands of the wig stuck to my face. No-one tells you about these fine details.
And so; I stepped out of the car…
I have never felt so exhilarated. I felt awesome and empowered and not nervous. This is what I should have done years ago, and I wanted to enjoy it. It was very quiet, I admit (Monday night at a cinema), but there were people about. A lone woman checked me out with a quick scan. Was that a catty look? I really hoped so, and it gave me a kick inside. The rest of the evening went without drama, I wanted to checkout my look in the ladies room, but the quiet loos, near the entrance to mall, were closed. Just have to go with it this time as I was not going in the main cinema toilets. Not brave enough my first time.
I didn’t have to talk to many people, but I seemed to pass the whole evening. It was that or no one confronted me. I didn’t notice people gawping at me. Just remember to act and walk like a woman and be confident I told myself. What a fantastic experience, and one that I can’t wait to do again. I just need to make sure that I get all the makeup off before I get home.
Loved the story and it brings hope to us who have yet to venture out. Not sure I could pull it off as not as convincing as you.
Going out enfemme in public is a big step. You imagine all the different things that could happen. The first couple times you are so nervous its hard to enjoy the experience. My advice is dress appropriately for the setting. Dress your age , well close to it. Most importantly Enjoy the experience.
Dress appropriate is great advice. You dont see many women out looking like a prostitute and those that do get noticed and commented on by everyone and usually not in a good way.
Rachel, The more you go out, the more you will want to go out in public. Also, the more you go out, the more confident you will get. If there is no CD support group near you, then watch Youtubes on how to do make up and dress correctly as a CD. You can also ask all the wonderful girls here on CDH.
Hugs,
Peggy Sue
Yes this really is a great comunity that has helped me immensely since joining a couple of months ago.
Hey Rachel , that’s a truly superb night out , all your preparation paid off , really pleased for you , enjoyed reading your experience , fingers crossed for more future opportunities for you
Yes can wait to go out again. Just looking for the next opportunity.
I’ve not been out , but have 4 full makeovers each year , but do get to wear female athletic wear – leggings , shorts , blue& pink female trainers , when we go to gym/ exercise classes & my usual female bracelets, anklets & painted toe nails
Good for you! I feel the same, I wish I had started going out YEARS ago!
Lovely description of a special moment for you. When I lived in Colchester, Essex , I often visited Norwich as Faye, so your story brought bank happy memories.
Yeah it is a great relaxed city and I hope to explore it more
Rachel, thanks so much for sharing your story, which vividly describes your preparations and emotions when you ventured out en femme the first time. You look wonderful with great makeup! You’ll never forget the feeling of opening the car door and stepping out for the first time–I know I won’t!. But it does get easier and opens the door for more enriching experiences.
Thanks very much. It really was an amazing experience
Glad your trip was such a success for you. We fear so many things, and I’m glad you overcame yours to be out in public.
I’m sure you will have many more outings as you get your confidence and look refined!
Go Girl!
Amy
Thanks. I look forward to many more outings.
Rachel,
What a great post. It is quite exhilarating the first time you go out as your femme side. Exhilarating and terrifying at the same time. I takes some courage on that first trip but it gets easier as you go.
Here’s to many more successful outings to Rachel!!
Josie
Thank you for sharing your experience.