Hello ladies, my name is Linda.

First of all, I would like to show my appreciation to each and every one of you on CDH for all of your time and experiences you have graciously shared here with us.  I read quite a bit on all the subjects on CDH, and I wish I could say I participate more frequently, but I really haven’t.  I will try in the future to work on my communications here on CDH.

My situation is rare but not uncommon.  I am a middle aged heterosexual male crossdresser, who has been married for 16 years.

My wife is a very open and understanding woman, after all her son is openly gay and early on while dating, she opened up to me about a short lesbian relationship she had years before we met.

My wife should have been clued in a few years into our marriage about my crossdressing, because I wore panties on a very regular basis.   I’m not sure if she knew or just ignored it.  Yes, you are very correct.  I should have had “The Talk” before we tied the knot. One day early on she called me and asked who’s panties were in my laundry.  I confessed that they were mine.  Nothing else was said.  I continued to dress in private and collect my feminine wardrobe.  Throughout my years I have purged and yet regained my collection again.  To my knowledge she has never found my collection.

Fast forward to three years ago, my wife went on a girl’s vacation with her family.  I had finally found a company that makes a women size 17 classic 4-inch-high heel and I had to have a pair of these heels.

I spent much of the week alone in my home dressing and enjoying some “Linda” time.  Well it was time for her to come home and I had to clean up.  When I first opened the heels I had placed the box next to the living room garbage can and neglected to dispose of it.  She came home and while I was helping everyone unpack from our van and reload their cars, my wife found the box and that started a very stressful and terrifying night.  I wasn’t sure if we were going to separate.  Well we didn’t, thank God.

We had a very long conversation that night, and many of the same questions all of you have had or will have to answer one day to an inquisitive wife or SO who is not aware of your thrill of cross dressing. She came to a conclusion; she doesn’t want to see me dressed or even help with my dressing.  At first I was so worried about so many things like, who is going to help me with shopping, makeup, hair styling and walking in heels.  Then I realized, it’s not all about me.

I married her for who she is and she married me for who she thought I was, which was a large 6’6″ tall, 350-pound dude.  Her protector and her rock.

I really started to think about, what if things were reversed and the sweet, sexy, lovely, girly, feminine wife I married wanted to start taking testosterone and started cross dressing with men’s clothing.  In a perfect world I would stay by her side and help her with whatever she/he needed.  This would be just as difficult a situation as she has to cope with now with me.

There are so many of us who have heard of the unicorn and in a perfect world we could have it.  Ladies I really wish all of you the best of luck in search of the unicorn, but don’t be blinded in your search of the woman that will except you and be your girlfriend and your wife.

In my life, I have my best friend who is the love of my life and someone I would lay down and die for.  So what if she doesn’t want to be included in the cross dressing part of my life.  We all have certain things in our life that our wives aren’t involved in such as sports, cars, movies, in-laws and more.

What I’m trying to enlighten you about is the fact it’s not all about you.  If she knows and doesn’t want to know then don’t tell her.  Take a separate vacation and go to a girls social and get all dressed up. Wait until she goes somewhere to dress at home.

For all of the other girls who their wives or SO’s don’t know, that’s a whole other story.  Hope my story helps you ladies a little bit.

Thank you girls for reading my article and now I ask you to either comment on my writings in the article or offer up and answer to one or more of my questions below:

  • Have you mistakingly left an article or two behind after a cross dressing session later to find your wife holding the femme articles and asking some embarrassing hard to answer questions about the items?
  • How did you answer those questions and what was your wife’s reaction and resulting actions if it was the first time she learned of your thrill of cross dressing?
  • Why is it, do you think, that so many wives don’t understand our thrill of cross dressing?

Love you girls and I’m so looking forward to your comments to my article or answers to one or more of the questions I’ve posed to you above!,

Sincerely, Linda

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Linda Carter

I am a heterosexual happily married monogamous MTF CD. My name is Linda Carter (Yes after my childhood heroine Wonder Women) I'm in late 40's and enjoy all things feminine. My home is on the East side of Cincinnati Ohio, unfortunately I cannot tell you of any great places to go. My silhouette is one that is so very obvious I cannot retain my male public persona from anyone who would meet Linda in public. Most girls can pass and not be recognized do to their skills with a brush, powder and the average build. My stature is one of an Amazonian build, which is 6'6" flat footed without 4" heels. That alone draws unwanted attention but on top of that I have a plus size frame of 24 with a size 17 womens high heel. There would be no mistaking Linda from my male persana. I can write all day, but I will keep the rest a bit of a mystery. If you find me interesting enough, please feel free to message me. I really would like to have girlfriends that are interested in a strictly platonic friendship.

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Kitty Van Curen
Kitty Van Curen
1 month ago

I agree. I see a lot on here about the quandary people face about telling significant others, and I really always advocate against that purely because I disbelieve it to be the ‘cure-all’ so many of us mistakingly believe it will be. It’s an amazing discovery to bring this side of us to life, sure!..some run with it, some like to keep it a little ‘secret’ of theirs. I don’t see any problem with either, problems arise when we kid ourselves into believing we can just expect others to follow-along with our rather unorthodox(?) leanings. There will *always* be repercussions… Read more »

Emily James
Member
1 month ago

I told my first wife, and I will never tell my second. I didn’t marry her because she accepted my crossdressing. In fact, I married her for a lot of reasons that would probably mean she wouldn’t accept it. And unconditional love isn’t the same thing as unconditional acceptance. As soon as she knows, I have to be willing to give it up. I’ve tried for years, and haven’t been able to yet. If you’re willing to tell your SO, then you’re willing to lose your SO and everything you have. Each time I dress or sneak in an item… Read more »

Alexis "Lexi" Moon
Editor
Active Member
1 month ago

thanks so much for this article! As others have said, it feels like I could’ve been writing about myself. When my wife and I had “the talk” she made it clear that she didn’t care what I did, but she didn’t really want to be a part of it. Unfortunately, I violated that by going overboard the next Halloween, with little to no warning to her. She was…not happy. At that point, due to my own recklessness, I tried to give it all up. It didn’t last (of course!), but at that point I made the same commitment you did.… Read more »

Vanessa Vanreed
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Vanessa Vanreed
1 month ago

I came out because I was afraid. For me it has been accepted. At first it was the worst part she ran Way crying I thought it was the end. Some how we worked through it. Life is great we have recently been out as girl friend. But I understand for most it is not. Hugs

Bobbi
Member
1 month ago

I feel as though I’m living a “charmed life “, because not only did I find a “unicorn”, not only did I marry her, but we BOTH wore a wedding dress! My wish is for everyone to find universal acceptance.

Julie Shaw
1 month ago

I am, was, and always will be an advocate for the “Tell It All Up Front” School of Relationships. Starting a (hopefully) long term relationship with secrets is NOT the way to do it. Remember the fable about Loving Something? “If you love it, let it go. If it returns to you, it is meant to be” (paraphrase, but you get the idea) I wanted a partner who would love me — ALL of me — so I told her once we started getting serious. If she had turned me down, I would have been devistated, for a while. But… Read more »

Marlie Shyly
Member
1 month ago

I have mistakenly left things out in the open or in the washing machine. I once left a pair of panties in the washer only to be found by my wife. She was curious as to who they belonged to and I told they were mine. I did answer some difficult questions with half truths and empty promises that it was a 1 time thing. Over the years, I have unintentionally left things in places I didn’t think she would find, but she did. we have come to the point in our marriage where we’re not sure if we stay… Read more »

Jenni Love
Member
17 days ago

Hi Linda and girls, Recently I returned to crossdressing after a 20 year hiatus. My wife knows that I have returned. She doesn’t really approve and I keep my dressing from her. I think that she sees it as a selfish indulgence. She saw my eye makeup remover in the cabinet and said “I saw your eye makeup remover, nice! Maybe I’ll use it?“ in sort of an off hand snippy way. The last few weeks I have been dressing and putting on makeup Saturday morning when she goes to visit her mother. She phones me when she’s leaving her… Read more »

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