The one thing I do every single day, is to intentionally and consciously create a life I love. That one simple thing you can do as often as you choose; or not, it is always your choice.

After over two decades of learning and teaching Life Skills while moving through a process of untangling my mind, from what has been termed in medical circles as gender dysphoria, one thing stands above all others in my learning. That I have learned most importantly, that love is always an inside job. Marilyn Monroe was a wonderful example of a magical being seeking love from outside of herself. She was quoted as having said when asked, why do you want to be in movies, called pictures in those days, and her reply was: “because when you’re famous, everybody loves you”.

The one person from whom love was needed the most, was herself

We have all heard this more times than we can count, love is an inside job, true beauty starts within and if you want someone to love you, you must first love yourself and so on. These are all true statements by the way.

And since they are true, why are more people than ever quietly suffering and not jumping at the idea of self-love? Why are so many people walking around on our planet suffering from depression, anxiety, or even as I once was many years ago, seriously contemplating leaving my body and the planet completely?

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The underlying theme and ‘same/same’ that I have witnessed again and again, through the clients I have served and of course through my own personal journey to a life of fulfillment, passion and abundance of the good stuff, is this: I did not know how.

How do I get to self love?

Even and especially, when I do not know what self love truly feels like?

So, here it is in all its glorious simplicity my friends. I have written about this, spoken about this, taught this to hundreds if not thousands of people through out my coaching career and I use this every single day of my life to intentionally and consciously create self love and a life I love as well.

What is the one thing? The mirror exercise: Yeah, I know, been there heard that you say, but have you put this one simple thing to an honest test?  Or have you come up with a reason (excuse) not to?

This simple thing can might even save your life, as it has mine, and support you in creating one full of magical moments and a whole lot more fun.

It has been since I attended college, yes, that was a while ago, that I have formed the habit of looking into a mirror or reflective surface several times every day and saying something wonderful to myself. I even have a mirror on the visor of my vehicle! My body turns sixty this year to give you some perspective on how long ago I attended collage as a student.

This week make your choice be in support of you and instead of against you

I have learned that people believe about you, what you believe about you. Today is the first day of the rest of your life and it is a perfect day to start saying a few nice things to yourself in the mirror every single day, no matter how silly or uncomfortable it may feel at the start.

The mind learns through repetition; the more you say ‘You’re okay’ in the mirror and smile, the sooner your mind will accept that as truth, you are on your way to emotional freedom and yes, self love like you may have never before experienced; being there, doing that!

Thank you so much for reading Your Weekly Reset my sisters and thank you for being exactly who you are!


n huggles always


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Dropping out of high school I began touring in the Canadian country music scene at age 17; clubs and soft seat venues, drummer/vocalist for 22 years. After 4 suicide attempts and heavy cocaine etc addiction issues, i decided to learn Self-Acceptance as apposed to self-hatred. I became a student of the Universe and an Instructor of Life Skills at a local College while operating a Private Coaching Practice. Currently, I am rebuilding the Life Coaching practice after a couple years of more personal work well under way. I am also creating online opportunities that will serve our world community…and our world in understanding how the learned life skills of Intentionally and Consciously Creating an Amazing Life have filled my life with Passion, Purpose and Prosperity and they can for you as well... Namaste'

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Heather Harrison
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1 year ago

Thanks Char,
It is amazing how hard it is to love ourselves isn’t it?

Heather Harrison
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1 year ago
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I’m pretty groovy Char. I’ve been working on personal issues/growth.

Heather Harrison
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1 year ago
Reply to  Char

Hey Char,
How are you doing?

Sophie Frenchie
Active Member
1 year ago

When you manage to truly Love Yourself, you will wonder why it was so elusive when you discover what a liberating and purely wonderful experience it is to encouter and to live your life in that way. You will never look back!

Heather Harrison
Active Member
1 year ago

My wife and I watched the movie, Normal, this past weekend. Wow, pretty powerful and yes, there were some tears.

Leslies Ann Gray Girl
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Hi Char , i think trying to accept my self , to be at peace inside was much harder than trying to get the public to accept . I would get so mad at myself , do i dress today ? am i wasting my time ? , what am i doing to myself , am i crazy ? I finally started keeping a journal , every day i would write down my feelings , for two years i did this . And then wile surfing the web for answers i found this place , how wonderful this place ,… Read more »

Diane Crow
Trusted Member
1 year ago

Char, I love this. Thank you for posting it.

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