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Gemma Lovegood
Shy and kind closeted straight crossdresser. I started dressing very young (around 10), wearing my mother’s and sister’s things when I was alone. In my 20s I lived alone, and purchased several things of my own, including makeup. I worked for a gay man, and became a close friend of his, though I was and still am very straight. I went to several gay bars with him, and encountered many CDs, drag queens, and the full spectrum of the LGBTQ+ community. But, I could never find the courage to come out to him as a CD. I’m married for over two decades now and have never revealed my secret to my wife. We have countless gay friends (male and female), but I’ve never revealed myself to any of them. It seems strange, and is one of my biggest regrets. I’ve lived so long with this secret that it feels like I’ve passed a point of no return. Perhaps one day I’ll find the courage. I’m grateful for all of the friends and discussions I’ve had with others like me here at CDH. It truly feels therapeutic, and I’ve grown to accept these desires that I have, and to realize there are so many like me in the world. That gives me great peace.
Gemma,
Some things we can only learn by trial and error!
But you definitely know enough about lights and shades, fills and voids… and believe me (I know you will) women have been using that knowledge since fashion is fashion! Right colors, right shapes, patterns, lengths, fabrics! Yes, a lot harder than what it seems, but a magical mystery tour for sure!! 😉
And with all the inherent frustrations… a lot of fun and feeling of achievement when things come together and you see “her” in the mirror!
YAASS!! You know, I really was excited for this look. I thought I would like this look far more than I did. I didn’t expect to be as disappointed. But, I suppose that is part of the journey of self. I now know a lot more about who Gemma is and wants to be. Thanks for your support, Fairy Godmother!
Oh please, Gemma, don’t start with the Fairy Godmother thing again. Last time I had to sit around dressed as Cinderella until midnight.
What a miserable experience that must have been. Meanwhile, there’s a giant freaking pumpkin in my office.
You know, Gemma, the overall look of this outfit isn’t as bad as you may think. Yes, when I zoom in I can see the problems you outline. But for a first attempt at shape-wear I think you did some things right as well, starting with your overall shape. I really didn’t try shape- wear until relatively recently and, trust me, I made plenty of mistakes and looked downright weird in some photos. The difference is that I simply deleted those photos and moved on. We’ve talked about this before. Many of us have the time to experiment, and fail,… Read more »
About the smile (or lack thereof). That was certainly another lesson. In my first 40-50 photos, in an outfit that I have only revealed in my profile pic, I was concentrating so much that I forgot (or frankly didn’t consider) to smile. Then, when I did, I saw too much of my own male smile. My RBF (resting bitch face) was a REAL thing girl!! And whew, she wasn’t pretty. LOL During my two days alone, I grew more and more comfortable, and found the things that work, and those that didn’t. I absolutely can’t wait to have that kind… Read more »
It does allude to a feminine physique. Looking good
Goal achieved I suppose.
I personally love that type of color block bodycon dress, and I think it looks great on you.
Regarding your CD learning curve, all I can say is:
https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/a-hilarious-look-at-the-challenges-most-crossdressers-will-face/
Just have fun and keep going, we’ve all been there, darling.
Thanks for your compliment, Mona! That means a lot coming from you. I have so much to learn. Your poem is so fun, and I have experienced many of those moments already. I can’t wait to have the opportunity to dress again.
I think you look great. Very pretty.
Thank you, Patty! Much appreciated.
I never add the nails until after the dress is on. I do my makeup with it on (tuck a rag or wear a flock over it to avoid the makeup getting on it). Always do the deodorant and let it dry or apply after its on, too (can leave white streaks). I’m past doing multiple dresses these days as wearing nails and the makeup can cause changing disasters. I try to be extremely careful taking off a dress that I have to slip over my head (arms out first). I’ve never figured out how some women do it with… Read more »
Yes, the learning curve is surprising, and now I am even more empathetic towards my wife and the daily challenges she faces. I suppose it all gets easier the more you do it. Which of course means I need much more practice! I can’t wait to have that kind of time to dress again.
It’s still a nice dress and an interesting look. I would absolutely consider it progress and not a failure at all.
I agree. It was progress. I learned a lot, and I think with some different choices I might be able to improve the look. Thank you for the encouragement.