That brings me to this strange fact – driving as female is a different skill. Not to be sexist but females seem to have a tougher time parallel parking but I’ve also seen many men struggle at it as well. When I am in female mode, I seem to not only lose my parking “gift” but just getting into my car can be an adventure. Instead of just plopping myself into a seat in one easy move like male me tends to do, I’ve noticed female me must be aware when performing this rather simple movement. Once I’ve opened the door I need to plan to turn half way around with my back toward the interior and lower myself down to the seat with the help of the steering wheel and then, with legs pressed together, slide them gently around and in. If I’m wearing something short and/or tight I need to be even more careful that the hem doesn’t ride up too high. Exiting is just as tricky.
Women also have a totally different posture and style while driving. They/we seem to sit much more upright and much closer to the steering wheel while keeping both hands at the prescribed “10 and 2” position. I find myself just doing this automatically.
Men, on the other hand, slouch, lean back and steer with one arm. Men also adjust the rear view mirror and, once it’s set, may never move it again whereas some women will often need to adjust the rear view mirror not just because of the change in seating position but also to apply makeup or check their lipstick. I know I do.
Finding a parking space while en femme is usually easier because, more often than not, I will be headed for a mall with its acres of head-in parking, but if I am faced with parallel parking, I find I’ve suddenly lost my maneuvering skill. I hate it when I bump into the curb with my rear wheel or realizing I didn’t turn in sharp enough and I’m a foot or two away from the curb. Either way, I have to pull out and try again. It would seem I shouldn’t be having this problem but perhaps some female part of my brain is doing the parking. I find it both frustrating and comical.
Something else I do, but I don’t know if other women do, is to bring a pair of flats because driving in heels does not work for me. I find it dangerous as my ankle and foot are now at an angle to the pedals which seems unsafe to me. Once I’ve safely parked I can then slip on my heels and check my makeup before exiting my car and then click, click, clicking my heels on my way. I’m pretty certain that a man would never think of changing his shoes just to drive his car.
I do worry that I may someday be pulled over by a policeman for some infraction or fender-bender or perhaps have car trouble. It’s always on my mind anyway but I’m extra cautious whenever driving en femme. Male me could possibly have to face similar problems but not with all the female fears.
Although it’s more complicated to drive as Mary, I am proud to be a woman driver. I think I drive much safer and definitely slower plus I get to see myself in the mirror! Win, win, win!
- Have you been out driving in a vehicle in total girl mode and if so, how did it feel and go?
- Do you worry about someone checking you out while stopped at a traffic light while out driving in all girl mode?
- Have you gone through a fast food drive through while in total girl mode and how did that experience go?
Thank you girls for taking the time to read my article and feel free to offer up your comments to the article or provide an answer to one or more of the questions I’ve posed to you above!
And have a super 2022 girls!
With much love, Mary
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When I have to drive in the snow I am always so worried I will get my car stuck again
I make it a point to not drive in the snow. There are just too many dangers and problems and I would feel like I’m just asking for trouble. Those poor people who were stranded on the freeway near DC for 20 hours is a real good example of that. Yikes!
Thanks for the article, Mary! I too am a proud female driver! I love being at a light and getting “checked out”, it’s thrilling! Especially since I’m safe in my warm comfy car…lol I find I’m more aware of my surroundings, etc, when driving enfem, and therefore enjoy the drive, enjoy the journey more, not just the destination. Want more of a challenge? Drive with the top down and keeping my wig in place…lol Honestly, I have a Miata, and nothing, I say nothing is more fun than a sunny top down day with the wind swirling my hair and… Read more »
Hi Julie, yes it is fun when guys check us out. Still, I am cautious so I keep my car doors locked. One time I almost caused a motorcyclist loose control of his bike as he was checking me out. I sure wouldn’t like to have caused that!
Oh gosh, I can relate, girlfriend. Actually, when in full Jules butterfly mode, I take on all the concerns, worries, awareness, and caution all, or most women must feel, especially around “men”. And yes, I lock my doors too, I mean two, like in twice…lol
Hugs
Jules
It’s always best to be safe, not sorry.
Yes there are many considerations when driving En Femme. These days there seem to be as many women aggressive drivers as men.Apart from deportment when entering and exiting the vehicle along with drivers poise I have found that I do tend to be more mindful of poise when in the process of driving. It is easy to go back to one hand on the wheel and slouch back. I drive almost exclusively as a female now. The other things to remember is that there are some things that can happen that should be thought about. Yes we all fear the… Read more »
Hi Angela, that’s good advice. So far I haven’t had to deal with either situation but I know I would be on my best behavior if it was the police. As for car trouble I have a AAA account so I’m hoping that would take care of any car trouble.
Hi Mary
I have started to practice driving in a female style, while practicing my faint smile at the same time. It takes a little getting used to, but I really enjoy it and I used to be a slouched down driver before
Hi Michelle, congratulations! I find driving while enfemme causes me to be much more courteous to others. In turn they usually smile back!
As said in other posts, when in femme mode, my brain turns feminine. Since deciding my ultimate aim is to be femme 24/7, my whole psyche has changed. I now do things I have never even considered doing before and stopped doing other things I previously loved an have done for over 40 years. I drank practically every day and spent all my weekends in bars. Now I could not tell you the last time I had a drink or even thought about one. I have never had any fashion sense and used to grab whatever I saw first and… Read more »
I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been femme so much that a lot of it seems automatic to me now. My guy wardrobe is very scant. A couple pairs of pants, some shirts and a couple pairs of shoes. Mary definitely owns more than her share of the closet. I guess I’m working my way to being full-time although my wife has tolerated a lot and I don’t know if it that will ever happen. Even so, I love the freedom I have.
Hi Mary
I really hope it works out for you and your wife.
Oh, I’m sure it will. It’s not I feel like I’ve been pretty lucky so far. I’ve had freedoms I didn’t think I would ever have. I dress pretty much androgenous all the time, my hair is long and I am occasionally mistaken for female. My wife didn’t understand all this at first but she got used to it.
I love being out and about,,and love being checked out by guys in the car next to me!
Hi Haley Ann, so do I! I guess I have a nice smile and get smiles in return.
I’ve been at it far too long to be objective. A lot of the things you fear have happened to me. I ran out of gas and had to get a taxi home and arrange for someone to take me back and get my car. I’ve been stop by the police because I neglected to turn on my headlights. I had to use the restroom so bad there was no chance to do anything but find the nearest one and go. I’ve been out to eat en femme, clothes shopping and in the fitting room. I’ve done it all so… Read more »
Wow, you certainly have had your share of
Things happening to you. So far I haven’t and don’t plan on starting. I panic too easily!
Hi, yes I drive dressed to the max. I drive a stick shift. And handle it all in 4 inch heels. I remember stopping at a red light. My dress had rides up from changing gears. And working the pedals in traffic. The older gentleman in the next lane was checking out my legs and as he looked further up. I waved and smiled at him. Suddenly he looked shocked and found something interesting looking the other way. As he drove away, I saw his wife really telling him something. I will always wonder what it was .lol. As for… Read more »
I drive a stick shift as well. For me that is even more reason to wear flats than my heels.
A wave or a smile is always a good thing to do.
I drive en fem a lot. Fortunately, I’ve never had any car trouble, locked myself out, gotten pulled over, or had a fender bender. I always make a point of getting some food and go through a drive-thru. They chat with me, address me as ma’am, it makes me feel good. I have this urge to be out and about when en fem, I just don’t like sitting somewhere by myself.
Hi Kelly, I’ve also been lucky while driving but I still get nervous!
That’s a good idea about going through a drive-thru. I find that malls are a good place to stop and have a bite and occasionally chat with friendly strangers.
Mary
I’ve been out driving in my feminine form many times. I find that when I do this, I am much calmer and cautious. Things that would bother me in male mode just bounce off when I am authentic. I don’t mind if someone is checking me out at a light or when stopped in traffic. In reality, it is something of a complement. I do usually look straight ahead to avoid direct engagement with strangers at times like this. I’ve also been to drive throughs a number of times when fully femme. I love to get a cup of coffee… Read more »