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Hi Girls! It’s Scarlett again and I’ll be writing this from the perspective of a situation that many crossdressers more than likely have in common.
Now Girls, you may already know I spent years and years deep in the closet with my crossdressing. It wasn’t until a year and half ago, right before we moved into our new home with lots of storage space, I was finally able to talk my sexy redhead into having “The Talk” with me. I’ll later write an article on how to bring up “The Talk” and what to say to bring about a modicum of acceptance of your crossdressing from your wife or SO.
Now to the specifics of the article. Most of us have only released our thrill of cross dressing to our wives or significant others. We have no plans of ever sharing this little secret to anyone else on our side of our family, on our wife’s side, or SO’s side of the family. We’ve known them for years, and they have known us for years, and it’s the last thing other family members would guess about us; that fact that we all love to dress up in pretty clothes and become pretty girls. Let’s face it, if we dared to offer up that bit of information to those folks, the next time a family reunion was in order, we might not get invited. At the very least, it would be an extremely awkward get-together compared to others in previous years!
So, Girls, I’m recommending not to share our thrill with other family members as a result of the above notes. Besides, when you release your little secret to one family member, the next thing ya know, everyone on both sides of your family might think you’re some sort of freak or weirdo!
Now if you’ve already released your little secret to some family members and they are accepting and considerate towards your crossdressing – lucky you! You’re in a distinct minority of crossdressers. There are still many of you out there who are still deep in the closet and not even your spouse or significant others know about your thrill of wearing pretty femme clothing. Been there and done that as noted above, and I wouldn’t want to go through that phase ever again!
Here’s what I did to share my CDing with others, and I recommend you all might want to give it a whirl as well!
My first sharing of my CD secret came with the customer service ladies at JC Penny’s in Pensacola where I used to have all my heels, boots, and booties shipped in order to keep things out of the sight of my sexy redhead prior to her acceptance of my crossdressing. So, my first public sharing of my thrill outside of our home and outside of an online CD site was when I took my crossdressing secret to those girls at the Penney’s customer service department.
I had about 50 of my best pictures of Scarlett loaded on my IPad and took the IPad to the customer service girls, asking them if they wanted to see photos of Scarlett. They couldn’t wait to see them! I opened the IPad to three women in that department ranging in ages from about 25 to 65 and showed them 30 of my top photos. My God, the reaction was off the chain incredible! Next thing ya know, they had passed the word on to some other employees in departments on the second floor and in less than ten minutes, I had a crowd of at least 10 ladies absolutely loving every photo of Scarlett and wanted me to stop in with more every time I came to the store – which I continue to do to this day!
Here are the next places I went over the next two weeks with my IPad, and later with color 8×10 photos in a folder and got the same exact reaction with each set of girls clamoring for more as I left each place!
1 1) Sports Clips where I have my hair cut. The manager and all the hair stylists have seen loads of Scarlett photos, and they won’t even let me get my hair cut now unless I bring some Scarlett show and tell pictures!
2 2) Sephora where I buy some of my foundation liquid and powder. The girls who work at these places are on the liberal side, open minded, and quite accepting of the LGTBQ folks, and now you can add CD to that list of letters as well!
3 3) Ulta – See Sephora notes above. And I should have added kind, considerate, caring, inquisitive, and full of answers to a wide variety of makeup questions you may have!
4 4) Plato’s Closet which is our largest consignment shop in Pensacola. With such a huge selection of girl’s clothing, footwear, and jewelry available at next to nothing prices. You would assume they would have admitted crossdressers in there all the time, but the first time I told them I was a cross dresser the girls were in shock until I busted loose with a pile of Scarlett photos. Then every girl in the place wanted to see my pictures. Some of them didn’t believe it was me, so I had to point out a small brown dark birth mark in the middle of my right shin. Then they were all believers that those photos were of me as a girl named Scarlett! Now those girls won’t let me shop unless I bring some Scarlett show and tell photos!
Other places to share your thrill of crossdressing with other employees are as follows: Stores in a mall or not in a mall you regularly frequent, thrift stores where you may shop on a regular basis, brick and mortar stores where you may buy lady’s shoes, wigs, purses, clothing, and other accessories.
And of course, the #1 place to share your thrill of crossdressing is right here with the wonderful girls in the greatest crossdressing site in the world – our very own Crossdresser Heaven – which is our way to get ourselves out of the closet or house on a regular basis and share our thrill of crossdressing with all of the CDH girls who share the very same thrill of wearing cute, pretty, sexy, and classy lady’s clothing! I get excited as soon as I put on a pair of heels! I just love being a girl as most of you know!
Girls, thanks for taking the time for reading another one of my informative articles. If you have other places you love to share your thrill of crossdressing, please send them in your responses to this article so that all of our readers of this article will have an exhaustive and complete list on how and where to share their own thrill of crossdressing with as many other accepting folks out there as possible!
Sincerely, Scarlett
More Articles by Scarlett398
- Scarlett Looking Back At Her Very First Cross Dressing Experience!
- Scarlett’s Purpose at Crossdresser Heaven!
- A Few Of Scarlett’s Hot Tips On Fashion And Beauty!
- “Scarlett’s Hot Tips On Photo Shoots!”
- Scarlett On Having “The Talk” With Your Wife Or SO
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Good stuff, Scar! Wish I had something to add, but you pretty much covered it all. But, as much as I would love to share Dawn with the world, I don’t think I can tell anyone unless, of course, I planned on transitioning. Isn’t it funny that transsexuals are accepted & crossdressers aren’t, for the most part?
Girl Friend, you hit that nail on the head and thanks for agreeing with me at far as the acceptance or lack there of of cross dressers versus any one of the categories of folks covered by all of the letters – LGBTQ! I still don’t see a “C" or a “D" in that line up of letters representing groups of people like transsexuals, who indeed are more acceptance than us cross dressers are to date. It’s really sad! Cross dressers are the least accepted of any groups and ironically, Dawn, there are probably twice as many or more of… Read more »
You know I do go out as Dawn. For my nails, eating out, shopping, etc. My makeover experiences have all been amazingly positive. I’ve never encountered any problems with people reading me, but if they did, I would tell them I’m transitioning, simply because that seems to be more accepted.
Yeah, that LGBT group will have the whole alphabet before long.
Nice to hear from you, sweetie! Take Care.
Dawn
Thanks for the article Scarlett. I love your pics. You look so beautifully perfect. There is nothing more attractive than a warm smile. Agree with all of your article. Cds are usually embraced by other women and ignored by men. It becomes tough when family is involved because there are gender identities to maintain. There is so much to this. Hugs Jennifer
Thank you so very much for taking the time to read what I consider to be one of my most important instructional articles to date! Sharing the thrill of cross dressing with family members at any level is very dicey to say the least! I don’t even suggest doing that to the most liberal of family members because the word of your cross dressing with spread throughout the entire family like a wild fire! No matter how much you trust that specific individual! Thanks Jennifer for loving my photos and my infectious smile! Have a wonderful rest of the weekend!… Read more »
Scarlett, like you I can’t share Jill with the people closest to me but I willingly share Jill to everyone in public when I’m out. These are the same places I go an I’m open to SA, waitstaff, clerks. Strange isn’t it?I
No Jill, absolutely not strange at all and that’s why I’m encouraging our girls not to share with family members and get out there and share their cross dressing with the types of folks you’ve noted above. It’s safe and you don’t have to worry about your thrill of cross dressing getting back to any of your family members who would probably ostracize you from the rest of your entire family! So encourage as many girls here on CDH you have an acquaintance with to read this article and get out and share there cross dressing with as many people… Read more »
The first thing I have to say is good for you. You are really having fun with this thing. Your entourage of followers does not surprise me. I know from personnel experience that many women are literally fascinated by men in women’s clothing. I wish that transferred to greater overall acceptance, but it doesn’t seem to. Strangely, some of the women who admire you (I mean that) the most would be resistant and embarrassed if you were their husband and wanted to dress up to go out-and-about. I think seeing you in photos is titilating and somewhat of a guilting… Read more »
Wow Falecia, I love your response to my article is really quite special. I do think I have quite a fan club on this site. Much of it has to do with my photos and much of it has to do with my writings in articles, responses to girls in reply to the private messages they send to me, and my discussions in the chat room with our girls here at CDH. I do everything I can to promote cross dressing and to help as many girls as I can to reach the highest cross dressing levels they can each… Read more »
Have a little more time, so I thought I’d add a little. As you have no doubt been told, your photos are among the most compelling. I believe one of the primary reasons that is true is attributable to your focus on women. Like I try, you dress for the approval of women – clearly. We crossdressers enjoy seeing your presentation because you pull it off so well. You make us believe it’s possible and hope to do the same. I wish more women could see and read the things we write and understand the great effort and respect with… Read more »
Falecia, you have given me the most amount of special compliments in the least amount of paragraphs from any girl on CDH! I’m flattered by every compliment you note in your messages to me. I can sense a serious attraction towards me and an astute appreciation for my sense of style and the effort, time, and money I put into my total transition from “Handsome Husband" mode to “Cute, Sexy, Pretty, Classy Scarlett" mode. Now I must tell you, Falecia, it’s not all about effort, time, money, my sense of style, and my ear to ear smile that creates my… Read more »
Falecia, Your post says exactly what I have been feeling about trying to emulate the beauty and style of women; wishing that they could see and understand that our admiration for them is part of what drives us to try to look pretty and passable, not to present as some sort of exaggeration or caricature but to look as authentically feminine as possible. I love and respect women so much that I want to BE one in my own way through crossdressing. Scarlett, I also have felt that we crossdressers are still not as accepted by others as much as… Read more »
All of those comments are so sweet of you to say, Tricia! And girl friend, continue to maintain hope of acceptance by your wife. I had to drop those subtle hints with my sexy redheaded wife for years and got the exact same response from here over a span of 13 years. My first wife of 24 years never knew I was a cross dresser because I only dressed up about twice a year while she was away visiting her mother and father in Mississippi. I was also working a more than full time high profile job, raising two boys,… Read more »
Thats wonderful and its true there are not so many CDs i m lucky i have a wardrobe and wigs already and feel very comfortable out in a skirt.I had noticed that other men were attempting to be Girl when one stopped wearing jeans and skirt he said how nice my skirt was..he couldnt find skirts dresses shoes to fit At She was about 46 i suggeted elastic waist band skirts and gave him the address when he can get a skirt made but could cost abot 30 Dollars depending on the material I also warned him the seamstress was… Read more »
Oh Fiona, I didn’t there were not so many cross dressers out there! On the contrary, I said there were millions and millions of us out there and probably more because so many cross dressers are deep in the closet where no one has a clue they are out there! Fiona, it sounds like you’re doing super with your cross dressing and I like the fact that you are help others with their cross dressing as well! Keep doing what your doing and share your cross dressing with as many people as possible. We need to spread the word how… Read more »
Scarlett, Once again, you have come up with the right advice at just the right time; thank you. After a fabulous shopping trip with my wife this past Friday, I’m bursting at the seams to talk about it, and even model a few of the purchases…but there is no one I can tell, for the reasons you covered. Now I have a place to start. We shopped at Penney’s, and the ladies there were very friendly and helpful, so I will remember this for my next outing. And I will reach out to Sephora; OC that I am, I won’t… Read more »
That’s a great question, Bettylou! I’ll tell as briefly as a can about the first public appearance I made as full up Scarlett about 5 years ago. I had my makeup on perfect. I was wearing a thin snug fitting long sleeved turtle neck top (it as cold and at the end of fall). I paired that top with a plaid pleated black and white wool skater skirt with a black wide elastic belt around the top of the skirt and the front of the belt wash embellished with faux diamonds. You’ve seen it several times displayed in my photos… Read more »
such a beautiful article by a truly beautiful woman I am proud to call a BFF. As you know, I read and rely quite a bit on your intuition. After a recent discussion with my wife, I think she is relaxing a bit. so am in the early stages of planning to go to Sephora about an hour and half away from me and talk to the ladies there. Maybe set up a private makeover. I think that would be the only thing I would add to your article. If one cannot go to the stores in your own town,… Read more »
You make a great point girl friend and this is about getting way out of town away from coworkers or neighbors who might recognize you when getting a makeover. Many married couples where the wife is totally on board with her husband’s cross dressing and will not go out with him full up as a girl go way out of town to do a girl on girl date with each other. For instance, if I ever talked my wife into going on a girl on girl date, which by the way will probably never happen, I would have us do… Read more »
Scarlett, I’m in a bit different boat, but similar. No SO, but my mother has known of me being in women’s clothing as a young kid and she has been so against it. Even tried to get me to stop, but I wanted it to continue. So Rachel has to be well hidden at home and I make sure all of my Rachel purchases are either out of town or shipped to store. Except makeup. I even buy it in drab mode (and yes, I shop at BOTH Sephora & Ulta). And when I travel to Portland, OR, I stay… Read more »
Rachel, I can definitely relate. I was in the closet for decades! I had to keep everything hidden in a temperature controlled storage unit for years and years. It was a pain the butt and a logistical nightmare.
So glad those days are behind me now!
XOXOXO Scarlett
Thank you, Scarlett,
Given that I stand the proverbial snowball’s chance in Hades of avoiding stares without at least some makeup, I will go in guy mode and ask what they can do for me.
Hugs,
Bettylou
I that case, that’s the way I would roll too girl friend!
XOXOXO Scarlett