Hi there girlfriends, it’s Scarlett! I love communicating with you lovely ladies in the chat room and through private messages. It’s simply so much fun exchanging stories and ideas with girls who always have one thing totally in common, the thrill of wearing women’s clothing! So many of us started crossdressing in one way or another when we were little boys.

In my humble opinion, I think we should come up with a more positive word than “drab” when referring to ourselves when we are in guy’s/men’s clothing.

The word “drab” is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as the following: As an adjective used to describe something which is dull, monotonous, and uninteresting. Other adjectives used in place of the word drab are: cheerless, colorless, dingy, dismal, dreary, flat, gloomy, gray, lackluster, mousy, shabby, somber, and uninspired. Pretty depressing words, aren’t they?

Personally, when I make the transition from Scarlett to a handsome guy wearing men’s clothing, I more positively refer to myself as being in “handsome husband” mode instead of being in “drab.” My reason is simply that I firmly believe my sense of style doesn’t wither or wane when changing wardrobes from Scarlett to handsome husband as my sexy redheaded likes to call me. A term she lovingly uses when talking to her other buddies about me. It’s one of several other sweet names to call me by when she’s talking directly to me as well.

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You see girls, ever since I was a little boy, I’ve had a gifted, natural sense of style. When my mom would take me to Parisian’s on the west side of Birmingham, Alabama at a shopping center strip called Five Points West, she would always allow me to pick out my own clothes for the beginning of a new school year. There was never a limit placed on me as far as price or the number of items I could choose. I was one of the few boys my age who actually loved to shop, which has stayed with me to this day. Scarlett loves to shop and my wife does too! It’s one of the fun things we love to do together on date nights, as well as enjoying dinners and movies together.

Now girls, something would happen around the beginning of each school year which made me really proud of my sense of style, even back then. Shortly after the start of school, to my surprise, most of the guys would be wearing the same clothes I’d picked out for myself a week or two before school started.  So I guess even as far back as Elementary or Junior High I had become somewhat of a fashion trendsetter. And my mom, dad, two sisters, neighborhood boys, and my classmates considered me to be a very well dressed young boy and someone to emulate. “Drab” would be the very last adjective any of them would use to describe my  style of clothing or footwear! The same is true for me to this day while in men’s clothing of any type!

Every day when I leave the house dressed as my wife’s handsome husband, whether it be in casual or professional attire, I always consider myself to be someone who is a handsome husband in stylish clothing rather than someone who is drab. Why even my gym workout clothing is sharp and very stylish! I never look like a guy who just got out of bed and threw the first thing on he could find; definitely not the guy who walks out the door without taking the time to consider  whether the clothing he chose is paired well together or not.

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I am simply encouraging you to think of yourself as being better than just “drab” while dressed in men’s clothing. Try using some word or phrase that’s a bit more positive sounding such as “handsome husband,” which I use when I’m wearing my men’s attire. There is a crossover between dressing stylishly as either a man or a women, learning the underlying techniques to help you stand out…in the good ways. I hope to share some of those tidbits in another article.

The adjectives linked to the word drab in the beginning of this article and covered in Webster’s Dictionary’s definition are words I would never ever use to describe myself when dressed as a guy! Words like dull, monotonous, uninteresting, dreary, dismal, lackluster, or shabby will never be used to describe me in my men’s clothing. I know that it has become the word of choice for many, and that’s okay. I strive to look good whether in a suit or a dress; it doesn’t fit my perception or the reflection I see in the mirror.

I hope I have helped you in a way that will make you feel so much better when you have to take those pretty things off and change into handsome husband mode rather than just being in drab. We all get down a bit when it’s time to transition from getting our girl on to putting our guy back on. It’s just more fun and exciting being a girl than it is being a guy! But don’t bother taking yourselves down even further by referring to yourselves as being in drab. I bet all of you girls out there are more handsome than drab when you are in guy’s/men’s clothing!

Maybe the next time you feel like printing out the word “drab” to maybe describe yourself when out shopping for pretty girl’s attire of any sort, you might instead try describing yourself in a better light. Rather than using drab, even though you would feel so much better  shopping while getting your total girl on, use some other term that is more uplifting! We need think of ourselves, regardless of what we wear, in the most positive ways we can.

Thanks for reading and please feel free to send me your thoughts and comments in response to my article.

With much love, XOXOXO

Scarlett

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Lea
Lady
Trusted Member
4 years ago

Hi Scarlett. Excellent post, I completely agree with so many of the things you highlighted. I refer to dressing as a guy as “guy mode" because drab doesn’t do justice. I’m more outfit and style concious when I’m in “girl mode". Though, I definitely put more effort into my male appearance than a lot of guys I know. Going out sloppy, scruffy, unbathed looking as a guy is an absolute no for me. You look amazing in the photos you post wearing well put together outfits, shoes, accessories, makeup, hair, posture. You’re right that it doesn’t matter if in female… Read more »

Kathryn Lynn Peters
Lady
Active Member
4 years ago

Well said, love! I always used “drab" as an acronym for “DRessed As Boy" rather than dull and boring…although compared to being glammed up as Lorrie, I am rather dull and boring! Love ya, Scarlett!

Paula Paige
Lady
Active Member
4 years ago
Reply to  Kathryn Lynn

After working years for an acronym agency, DRessed As Boy makes perfect sense.
We could talk in front of the public and they never knew what we were talking about, everything was an acronym.

Helena
Lady
Member
4 years ago

Ugh-I so love that dress!!!

What an inspiring article-thank you for sharing. I agree-this is such a supportive site and I too LOVE everyone here. I love reading about supportive spouses or s.o.’s and your article is so on point.

Helena
Lady
Member
4 years ago
Reply to  Scarlett398

What a find for $9.99! Sadly the closest Burlington is 2 hours away-should definitely take a look there!
You are so fun and sweet!

Neha M
Neha M
4 years ago

Honey read your article.. it was well thought and written. Reflection of my thoughts too.. it boosted my confidence to greater heights!! Thank you!!

Nicole Williams
Nicole Williams
4 years ago

Great article Scarlett. I like your dress by the way. You look amazing.

Rozalyne Richards
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Rozalyne Richards
4 years ago

Hi Scarlett you will never be drab to me hun x you always look stunning what ever you wear x hugs Rozalyne x

Gianna Bonita
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Gianna Bonita
4 years ago

Hi Scarlett, you look terrific as always. I completely agree with your article. I do miss the opportunities to dress up as a male in more formal attire. I used to wear a suit for 30 years in my career and travelled internationally in my career. It now seems strange that we dressed in smart chinos, business shirt, jacket etc to fly international. Business and first class expected it. It’s so different today. But the casual style of today has its advantages, I can dress in femme clothes yet still present as male which means I am smart casual with… Read more »

Krista
Duchess
Active Member
4 years ago

Thanks for your article Scarlett. When I first joined CDH a few years ago, I was reluctant to use the term “drab". But over time and being influenced by so many others who used the term, I started to use it as well. In my mind I used it as a synonym for “guy mode". Now having read your article, I plan to stop using “drab" and be more creative and positive in describing my male attire. Although I rarely dress in male attire after retiring from my high profile career over two years ago. My daily dress code is… Read more »

Krista
Duchess
Active Member
4 years ago
Reply to  Scarlett398

Hi Scarlett, LOL, I know all about camo wear. This part of Canada (northwest Alberta) is considered redneck country – pickup trucks, ball caps, guns, big dogs and camouflage. I even have fuzzy camo slippers. But I get away with my androgynous clothing as most guys are working out in the oil patch. And when they are off-work, they are in a sports bar, hunting, or snowmobiling (none of which I do). I once attended a black-tie gala here and I wore my tux (one of three guys that did). Most other guys wore jeans and a ball cap; I… Read more »

Krista
Duchess
Active Member
4 years ago
Reply to  Scarlett398

Hi Scarlett, yes we have rednecks BUT they are polite and courteous rednecks. After all, we are in Canada, the most polite country in the world. So I suppose you are right, relatively speaking our rednecks wouldn’t come close to matching the attitude of your LA rednecks. You’d probably call them “faux" rednecks – they’ve adopted the clothing and activities but not the attitude.
Well that was fun sharing.
Have a great weekend!!!!
Hugs, Krista

Patty Phose
Duchess
Famed Member
4 years ago

From what I know, “DRAB" is an acronym drab dates back to Shakespearean times and stood for “Dressed As a Boy". Yes drab may not be positive according to the dictionary but I prefer DRAG (Dressed As a Girl) over DRAB.

Olivia Faye Marie
Active Member
4 years ago

I agree with all that.

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