Hi there girlfriends, it’s Scarlett! I love communicating with you lovely ladies in the chat room and through private messages. It’s simply so much fun exchanging stories and ideas with girls who always have one thing totally in common, the thrill of wearing women’s clothing! So many of us started crossdressing in one way or another when we were little boys.
In my humble opinion, I think we should come up with a more positive word than “drab” when referring to ourselves when we are in guy’s/men’s clothing.
The word “drab” is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as the following: As an adjective used to describe something which is dull, monotonous, and uninteresting. Other adjectives used in place of the word drab are: cheerless, colorless, dingy, dismal, dreary, flat, gloomy, gray, lackluster, mousy, shabby, somber, and uninspired. Pretty depressing words, aren’t they?
Personally, when I make the transition from Scarlett to a handsome guy wearing men’s clothing, I more positively refer to myself as being in “handsome husband” mode instead of being in “drab.” My reason is simply that I firmly believe my sense of style doesn’t wither or wane when changing wardrobes from Scarlett to handsome husband as my sexy redheaded likes to call me. A term she lovingly uses when talking to her other buddies about me. It’s one of several other sweet names to call me by when she’s talking directly to me as well.
You see girls, ever since I was a little boy, I’ve had a gifted, natural sense of style. When my mom would take me to Parisian’s on the west side of Birmingham, Alabama at a shopping center strip called Five Points West, she would always allow me to pick out my own clothes for the beginning of a new school year. There was never a limit placed on me as far as price or the number of items I could choose. I was one of the few boys my age who actually loved to shop, which has stayed with me to this day. Scarlett loves to shop and my wife does too! It’s one of the fun things we love to do together on date nights, as well as enjoying dinners and movies together.
Now girls, something would happen around the beginning of each school year which made me really proud of my sense of style, even back then. Shortly after the start of school, to my surprise, most of the guys would be wearing the same clothes I’d picked out for myself a week or two before school started. So I guess even as far back as Elementary or Junior High I had become somewhat of a fashion trendsetter. And my mom, dad, two sisters, neighborhood boys, and my classmates considered me to be a very well dressed young boy and someone to emulate. “Drab” would be the very last adjective any of them would use to describe my style of clothing or footwear! The same is true for me to this day while in men’s clothing of any type!
Every day when I leave the house dressed as my wife’s handsome husband, whether it be in casual or professional attire, I always consider myself to be someone who is a handsome husband in stylish clothing rather than someone who is drab. Why even my gym workout clothing is sharp and very stylish! I never look like a guy who just got out of bed and threw the first thing on he could find; definitely not the guy who walks out the door without taking the time to consider whether the clothing he chose is paired well together or not.
I love all of my Crossdresser Heaven girls. We all love, support, and encourage each other! This is the best crossdressing site on line by far! We are extremely lucky to have each other to talk to and lean on for advice, stories, tips, knowledge, and help!
I am simply encouraging you to think of yourself as being better than just “drab” while dressed in men’s clothing. Try using some word or phrase that’s a bit more positive sounding such as “handsome husband,” which I use when I’m wearing my men’s attire. There is a crossover between dressing stylishly as either a man or a women, learning the underlying techniques to help you stand out…in the good ways. I hope to share some of those tidbits in another article.
The adjectives linked to the word drab in the beginning of this article and covered in Webster’s Dictionary’s definition are words I would never ever use to describe myself when dressed as a guy! Words like dull, monotonous, uninteresting, dreary, dismal, lackluster, or shabby will never be used to describe me in my men’s clothing. I know that it has become the word of choice for many, and that’s okay. I strive to look good whether in a suit or a dress; it doesn’t fit my perception or the reflection I see in the mirror.
I hope I have helped you in a way that will make you feel so much better when you have to take those pretty things off and change into handsome husband mode rather than just being in drab. We all get down a bit when it’s time to transition from getting our girl on to putting our guy back on. It’s just more fun and exciting being a girl than it is being a guy! But don’t bother taking yourselves down even further by referring to yourselves as being in drab. I bet all of you girls out there are more handsome than drab when you are in guy’s/men’s clothing!
Maybe the next time you feel like printing out the word “drab” to maybe describe yourself when out shopping for pretty girl’s attire of any sort, you might instead try describing yourself in a better light. Rather than using drab, even though you would feel so much better shopping while getting your total girl on, use some other term that is more uplifting! We need think of ourselves, regardless of what we wear, in the most positive ways we can.
Thanks for reading and please feel free to send me your thoughts and comments in response to my article.
With much love, XOXOXO
Scarlett
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Hi Scarlett. Excellent post, I completely agree with so many of the things you highlighted. I refer to dressing as a guy as “guy mode" because drab doesn’t do justice. I’m more outfit and style concious when I’m in “girl mode". Though, I definitely put more effort into my male appearance than a lot of guys I know. Going out sloppy, scruffy, unbathed looking as a guy is an absolute no for me. You look amazing in the photos you post wearing well put together outfits, shoes, accessories, makeup, hair, posture. You’re right that it doesn’t matter if in female… Read more »
Hi Lea, and thank you girls for reading my “Drab" novel! The last word you would use to describe me in handsome husband mode is “drab"! All of my wife’s girl friends and co workers would love for their husbands or SOs to be looking so well put together like I do. None of them know about Scarlett by the way! My wife has a high profile job in our county and if anyone who knew her husband was a part time pretty girl and one of better cross dressers around, they would completely freak out! They know my as… Read more »
Well said, love! I always used “drab" as an acronym for “DRessed As Boy" rather than dull and boring…although compared to being glammed up as Lorrie, I am rather dull and boring! Love ya, Scarlett!
Hi Lorrie and I love your femme selected name!
Thanks for taking time to read my “Drab" novel!
By the way, your profile pic is gorgeous!
And I love ya too, Lorrie! XOXOXO Scarlett
After working years for an acronym agency, DRessed As Boy makes perfect sense.
We could talk in front of the public and they never knew what we were talking about, everything was an acronym.
I completely understand the use of acronyms and never new that DRAB stood for “DRessed As Boy". If you ever worked for the Department of Defense, you knew you had to understand how to speak and understand acronyms, Paula. I’ll never forget my first staff meeting with the DOD. I and about 10 other fairly smart new hired employees came out of the meeting and we all looked confused. I asked my buddy standing next to me – “Mark, did you understand what was being said in there? It seemed as though they were speaking a foreign language!" Mark said,… Read more »
Ugh-I so love that dress!!!
What an inspiring article-thank you for sharing. I agree-this is such a supportive site and I too LOVE everyone here. I love reading about supportive spouses or s.o.’s and your article is so on point.
Thanks a bunch, Helena! I’m so happy you enjoyed my article. Like I said, Helena, when I leave this house, I’m always styling, clean shaved, and well put together. Even if I’m going out to take our trash cans to the street to be picked up! I never go out looking like I just got up out of bed. I always like to look my very best whether it’s as cute, sexy, pretty, and classy Scarlett or whether it’s as Handsome Husband which is how my sexy redheaded wife prefers me! And that dress is my favorite of about 100… Read more »
What a find for $9.99! Sadly the closest Burlington is 2 hours away-should definitely take a look there!
You are so fun and sweet!
Thanks Girl Friend! That’s so nice of you to say that about me!
Love ya! XOXOXO Scarlett
Honey read your article.. it was well thought and written. Reflection of my thoughts too.. it boosted my confidence to greater heights!! Thank you!!
You are so welcome Neha! “Drab" is the very last word I would call myself when dressed as a guy instead of a girl. I’m always stylin’ – period!
Glad I could boost your confidence!
XOXOXO Scarlett
Great article Scarlett. I like your dress by the way. You look amazing.
Thanks babe! It’s my favorite dress in the closet and I have a lot more just like it in various floral colors I want to show off but haven’t had time for a photo shoot in over a month!
I’m so ready to get my girl on as Scarlett!
XOXOXO Scarlett
Hi Scarlett you will never be drab to me hun x you always look stunning what ever you wear x hugs Rozalyne x
Thank you sweetheart! And a bunch of hugs right back atcha Rozalyne!
XOXOXO Scarlett
Hi Scarlett, you look terrific as always. I completely agree with your article. I do miss the opportunities to dress up as a male in more formal attire. I used to wear a suit for 30 years in my career and travelled internationally in my career. It now seems strange that we dressed in smart chinos, business shirt, jacket etc to fly international. Business and first class expected it. It’s so different today. But the casual style of today has its advantages, I can dress in femme clothes yet still present as male which means I am smart casual with… Read more »
Gianna, thanks for taking the time to read my article! I remember having my high profile job traveling all over the United States and I always wore a nice suit when flying! Never flew in casual mode. I’m one of the few guys who still loves getting dressed up in a slick slim cut suit with all of the expensive accessories.
Thank you for enjoying my article and agreeing with what I had to say about the use of the word, “Drab"!
Love ya! XOXOXO Scarlett
Thanks for your article Scarlett. When I first joined CDH a few years ago, I was reluctant to use the term “drab". But over time and being influenced by so many others who used the term, I started to use it as well. In my mind I used it as a synonym for “guy mode". Now having read your article, I plan to stop using “drab" and be more creative and positive in describing my male attire. Although I rarely dress in male attire after retiring from my high profile career over two years ago. My daily dress code is… Read more »
High Krista and I’m so happy to have inspired at least one girl not to use the term “Drab" when referring to themselves in guy attire! That was my objective. I really like Handsome Husband! It’s just the perfect fit for me. Isn’t it nice to be able to wear girls clothing wherever you go now. Not that case with me because I live in LA – as in Lower Alabama! Everyone here wears camouflage! I own one pair of saddle shoes that had camo as the saddle part of that very preppy pair of shoes. I don’t do camo.… Read more »
Hi Scarlett, LOL, I know all about camo wear. This part of Canada (northwest Alberta) is considered redneck country – pickup trucks, ball caps, guns, big dogs and camouflage. I even have fuzzy camo slippers. But I get away with my androgynous clothing as most guys are working out in the oil patch. And when they are off-work, they are in a sports bar, hunting, or snowmobiling (none of which I do). I once attended a black-tie gala here and I wore my tux (one of three guys that did). Most other guys wore jeans and a ball cap; I… Read more »
Wow Krista, so enlightening to hear there are rednecks in Canada of all places. I had no idea there was a redneck anywhere in Canada!
Thanks so much for liking my writing style and found my writing and the subject interesting.
I kinda knew this article would draw quite a response both on the negative and positive side of this issue.
Thanks so much for your response and I enjoy reading your thoughts as well, Krista!
XOXOXO Scarlett
Hi Scarlett, yes we have rednecks BUT they are polite and courteous rednecks. After all, we are in Canada, the most polite country in the world. So I suppose you are right, relatively speaking our rednecks wouldn’t come close to matching the attitude of your LA rednecks. You’d probably call them “faux" rednecks – they’ve adopted the clothing and activities but not the attitude.
Well that was fun sharing.
Have a great weekend!!!!
Hugs, Krista
From what I know, “DRAB" is an acronym drab dates back to Shakespearean times and stood for “Dressed As a Boy". Yes drab may not be positive according to the dictionary but I prefer DRAG (Dressed As a Girl) over DRAB.
You go girl! Love ya Patty! XOXOXO Scarlett
I agree with all that.
Thank you so much, Olivia, for your complete support on this article of mine!
Love you and have a wonderful weekend, Olivia! XOXOXO Scarlett