Hi there girlfriends, it’s Scarlett! I love communicating with you lovely ladies in the chat room and through private messages. It’s simply so much fun exchanging stories and ideas with girls who always have one thing totally in common, the thrill of wearing women’s clothing! So many of us started crossdressing in one way or another when we were little boys.

In my humble opinion, I think we should come up with a more positive word than “drab” when referring to ourselves when we are in guy’s/men’s clothing.

The word “drab” is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as the following: As an adjective used to describe something which is dull, monotonous, and uninteresting. Other adjectives used in place of the word drab are: cheerless, colorless, dingy, dismal, dreary, flat, gloomy, gray, lackluster, mousy, shabby, somber, and uninspired. Pretty depressing words, aren’t they?

Personally, when I make the transition from Scarlett to a handsome guy wearing men’s clothing, I more positively refer to myself as being in “handsome husband” mode instead of being in “drab.” My reason is simply that I firmly believe my sense of style doesn’t wither or wane when changing wardrobes from Scarlett to handsome husband as my sexy redheaded likes to call me. A term she lovingly uses when talking to her other buddies about me. It’s one of several other sweet names to call me by when she’s talking directly to me as well.

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You see girls, ever since I was a little boy, I’ve had a gifted, natural sense of style. When my mom would take me to Parisian’s on the west side of Birmingham, Alabama at a shopping center strip called Five Points West, she would always allow me to pick out my own clothes for the beginning of a new school year. There was never a limit placed on me as far as price or the number of items I could choose. I was one of the few boys my age who actually loved to shop, which has stayed with me to this day. Scarlett loves to shop and my wife does too! It’s one of the fun things we love to do together on date nights, as well as enjoying dinners and movies together.

Now girls, something would happen around the beginning of each school year which made me really proud of my sense of style, even back then. Shortly after the start of school, to my surprise, most of the guys would be wearing the same clothes I’d picked out for myself a week or two before school started.  So I guess even as far back as Elementary or Junior High I had become somewhat of a fashion trendsetter. And my mom, dad, two sisters, neighborhood boys, and my classmates considered me to be a very well dressed young boy and someone to emulate. “Drab” would be the very last adjective any of them would use to describe my  style of clothing or footwear! The same is true for me to this day while in men’s clothing of any type!

Every day when I leave the house dressed as my wife’s handsome husband, whether it be in casual or professional attire, I always consider myself to be someone who is a handsome husband in stylish clothing rather than someone who is drab. Why even my gym workout clothing is sharp and very stylish! I never look like a guy who just got out of bed and threw the first thing on he could find; definitely not the guy who walks out the door without taking the time to consider  whether the clothing he chose is paired well together or not.

I love all of my Crossdresser Heaven girls. We all love, support, and encourage each other! This is the best crossdressing site on line by far! We are extremely lucky to have each other to talk to and lean on for advice, stories, tips, knowledge, and help!

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I am simply encouraging you to think of yourself as being better than just “drab” while dressed in men’s clothing. Try using some word or phrase that’s a bit more positive sounding such as “handsome husband,” which I use when I’m wearing my men’s attire. There is a crossover between dressing stylishly as either a man or a women, learning the underlying techniques to help you stand out…in the good ways. I hope to share some of those tidbits in another article.

The adjectives linked to the word drab in the beginning of this article and covered in Webster’s Dictionary’s definition are words I would never ever use to describe myself when dressed as a guy! Words like dull, monotonous, uninteresting, dreary, dismal, lackluster, or shabby will never be used to describe me in my men’s clothing. I know that it has become the word of choice for many, and that’s okay. I strive to look good whether in a suit or a dress; it doesn’t fit my perception or the reflection I see in the mirror.

I hope I have helped you in a way that will make you feel so much better when you have to take those pretty things off and change into handsome husband mode rather than just being in drab. We all get down a bit when it’s time to transition from getting our girl on to putting our guy back on. It’s just more fun and exciting being a girl than it is being a guy! But don’t bother taking yourselves down even further by referring to yourselves as being in drab. I bet all of you girls out there are more handsome than drab when you are in guy’s/men’s clothing!

Maybe the next time you feel like printing out the word “drab” to maybe describe yourself when out shopping for pretty girl’s attire of any sort, you might instead try describing yourself in a better light. Rather than using drab, even though you would feel so much better  shopping while getting your total girl on, use some other term that is more uplifting! We need think of ourselves, regardless of what we wear, in the most positive ways we can.

Thanks for reading and please feel free to send me your thoughts and comments in response to my article.

With much love, XOXOXO

Scarlett

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Deanna Lund
Duchess
Active Member
4 years ago

I will say that Deanna has been good for !y Sloppy Husband (SH) style. In the BD (before Deanna Time) SH. Has found that he was wearing his shorts backwards or shirt inside out and didn’t care. But AD (in the time of Deanna) I find myself checking things in whatever mode.

Olivia Livin
Lady
Trusted Member
4 years ago

Just as a counterpoint, there are many of us who don’t come with a pedigree or always fly first class. We are the blue collar Worker whos main male oufits are indeed DRAB. We can’t or won’t afford to purchase newer working clothes every other week as they get worn or stained, choosing instead to purchase other needed items. One of the main reasons my children went to a uniformed school was to not constantly feel intimidated by the unrestrained clothing showoffs.

Sandi Santora
Lady
Member
4 years ago
Reply to  Scarlett398

Scarlet,

I don’t know how to respond to your life’s story. And I don’t know what words I can say other than , " it must have felt good to get that all out"!

Sandi

April (Pacific Princess)
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Hi Scarlett!

I just never could get excited about buying men’s clothes. Women just seem to have so much more to choose from. Guys have a very limited palate, and only the best of us work well within the range, or have enough taste to make it work. When I think of some of the horrendous outfits I wore as a lad…….

I sounds like you have the best of both worlds going there for you though. Lovely article BTW!

Hugs,
April

April (Pacific Princess)
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Reply to  Scarlett398

At 61 I am all too aware of my limited time! Still – I look a good 10 years younger when dressed – yay! Dressing my “age" sounds awful. I want to look as young and sexy as possible. You look fabulous hon. Never would have pegged you for 64. 44…..maybe.

Keep in touch love!
April

April (Pacific Princess)
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Reply to  Scarlett398

We are!!

Sandi Santora
Lady
Member
4 years ago

Scarlet, and all you other gurls, In male mode, I feel drab. In en femme, I feel beautiful! I am 6’1″, 185 lbs, slender. In male mode, I am clean cut, clean shaven, with short well trimmed hair. In female mode, I am 6’1″, 185, 42-34-42. I have all kinds of hair. (Wigs) And no body hair. Sure, I dress well as a man, and I’ve been told I’m a decent looking male. In female mode, I dress to the best of my ability and means, and I always strive to be as beautiful as I possibly can be, given… Read more »

Davinia Hart
Lady
Active Member
4 years ago

Hi honey, Hey, you took a bit of flak back there didn’t you? But wow….what a life you have had, and what a perfect response. So inspiring, and you can be so proud of yourself. Reminds me of a talk I heard many years ago, entitled ‘making the most of it’. It covered everything, a situation, what you have to work with and above all…life. You are a perfect example of what hard work and application can achieve. I’m so proud of you. As for dressing, never worry. You have some very admiring friends on here, myself included. As it… Read more »

Stephanie Dale
Lady
4 years ago

Hi Scarlett. This has been one of my life goals over the last few years…look stylish and not shlumppy as my wife would say. You don’t need to break the bank by wearing designer clothes just look clean and put together. Love ya. Steph.

Michelle Wilmington
Lady
Active Member
4 years ago

I agree about the “drab" I refer to myself as simply in male mode when not cross-dressed. I’d also like to say that I’ve always disliked the term “sissy" I find it very degrading.

Christina Loveit
Lady
4 years ago

Fantastic write-up Scarlett! So inspiring and uplifting, just what I needed on a Monday lol. Thanks girl!

Carolyn Kay
Baroness
Trusted Member
4 years ago

I understand what you are saying about drab, however, I only feel relaxed and “ put together” when I am in femme mode. I just can’t get excited at all when buying or wearing men’s clothes. It is usually jeans and a shirt. I was in business before I retired and had to present myself well. Even then dressing for work was not something I looked forward to. When I had time, back then, I love shopping for female clothes and then presenting myself as proper as I could. So, in my case, drab fits. I know for others there… Read more »

Cher Stone
Lady
Member
4 years ago

Wow….this is such a beautiful photo,,,,love your smile,,,it llights up any shot,,,,the dress is lovely and looks like it would be fun to wear,,,hair is to die for,,,,one beautiful woman

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