Hi there girlfriends, it’s Scarlett! I love communicating with you lovely ladies in the chat room and through private messages. It’s simply so much fun exchanging stories and ideas with girls who always have one thing totally in common, the thrill of wearing women’s clothing! So many of us started crossdressing in one way or another when we were little boys.
In my humble opinion, I think we should come up with a more positive word than “drab” when referring to ourselves when we are in guy’s/men’s clothing.
The word “drab” is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as the following: As an adjective used to describe something which is dull, monotonous, and uninteresting. Other adjectives used in place of the word drab are: cheerless, colorless, dingy, dismal, dreary, flat, gloomy, gray, lackluster, mousy, shabby, somber, and uninspired. Pretty depressing words, aren’t they?
Personally, when I make the transition from Scarlett to a handsome guy wearing men’s clothing, I more positively refer to myself as being in “handsome husband” mode instead of being in “drab.” My reason is simply that I firmly believe my sense of style doesn’t wither or wane when changing wardrobes from Scarlett to handsome husband as my sexy redheaded likes to call me. A term she lovingly uses when talking to her other buddies about me. It’s one of several other sweet names to call me by when she’s talking directly to me as well.
You see girls, ever since I was a little boy, I’ve had a gifted, natural sense of style. When my mom would take me to Parisian’s on the west side of Birmingham, Alabama at a shopping center strip called Five Points West, she would always allow me to pick out my own clothes for the beginning of a new school year. There was never a limit placed on me as far as price or the number of items I could choose. I was one of the few boys my age who actually loved to shop, which has stayed with me to this day. Scarlett loves to shop and my wife does too! It’s one of the fun things we love to do together on date nights, as well as enjoying dinners and movies together.
Now girls, something would happen around the beginning of each school year which made me really proud of my sense of style, even back then. Shortly after the start of school, to my surprise, most of the guys would be wearing the same clothes I’d picked out for myself a week or two before school started. So I guess even as far back as Elementary or Junior High I had become somewhat of a fashion trendsetter. And my mom, dad, two sisters, neighborhood boys, and my classmates considered me to be a very well dressed young boy and someone to emulate. “Drab” would be the very last adjective any of them would use to describe my style of clothing or footwear! The same is true for me to this day while in men’s clothing of any type!
Every day when I leave the house dressed as my wife’s handsome husband, whether it be in casual or professional attire, I always consider myself to be someone who is a handsome husband in stylish clothing rather than someone who is drab. Why even my gym workout clothing is sharp and very stylish! I never look like a guy who just got out of bed and threw the first thing on he could find; definitely not the guy who walks out the door without taking the time to consider whether the clothing he chose is paired well together or not.
I love all of my Crossdresser Heaven girls. We all love, support, and encourage each other! This is the best crossdressing site on line by far! We are extremely lucky to have each other to talk to and lean on for advice, stories, tips, knowledge, and help!
I am simply encouraging you to think of yourself as being better than just “drab” while dressed in men’s clothing. Try using some word or phrase that’s a bit more positive sounding such as “handsome husband,” which I use when I’m wearing my men’s attire. There is a crossover between dressing stylishly as either a man or a women, learning the underlying techniques to help you stand out…in the good ways. I hope to share some of those tidbits in another article.
The adjectives linked to the word drab in the beginning of this article and covered in Webster’s Dictionary’s definition are words I would never ever use to describe myself when dressed as a guy! Words like dull, monotonous, uninteresting, dreary, dismal, lackluster, or shabby will never be used to describe me in my men’s clothing. I know that it has become the word of choice for many, and that’s okay. I strive to look good whether in a suit or a dress; it doesn’t fit my perception or the reflection I see in the mirror.
I hope I have helped you in a way that will make you feel so much better when you have to take those pretty things off and change into handsome husband mode rather than just being in drab. We all get down a bit when it’s time to transition from getting our girl on to putting our guy back on. It’s just more fun and exciting being a girl than it is being a guy! But don’t bother taking yourselves down even further by referring to yourselves as being in drab. I bet all of you girls out there are more handsome than drab when you are in guy’s/men’s clothing!
Maybe the next time you feel like printing out the word “drab” to maybe describe yourself when out shopping for pretty girl’s attire of any sort, you might instead try describing yourself in a better light. Rather than using drab, even though you would feel so much better shopping while getting your total girl on, use some other term that is more uplifting! We need think of ourselves, regardless of what we wear, in the most positive ways we can.
Thanks for reading and please feel free to send me your thoughts and comments in response to my article.
With much love, XOXOXO
Scarlett
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I will say that Deanna has been good for !y Sloppy Husband (SH) style. In the BD (before Deanna Time) SH. Has found that he was wearing his shorts backwards or shirt inside out and didn’t care. But AD (in the time of Deanna) I find myself checking things in whatever mode.
Good for you girl friend! So happy to hear you’re wearing your shorts on the right way and not wearing your shirts inside out anymore!
And dressing as a girl got you here! Congrats to you, D!
Have a wonderful weekend, D! XOXOXO Scarlett
Just as a counterpoint, there are many of us who don’t come with a pedigree or always fly first class. We are the blue collar Worker whos main male oufits are indeed DRAB. We can’t or won’t afford to purchase newer working clothes every other week as they get worn or stained, choosing instead to purchase other needed items. One of the main reasons my children went to a uniformed school was to not constantly feel intimidated by the unrestrained clothing showoffs.
If it makes you feel any better, Olivia, I lived in a car for almost one full year and worked as a brick mason’s laborer in Tuscaloosa, Alabama and when the temperatures dropped into the teens, you couldn’t lay brick so on many days in the dead of winter I had to resort to stealing lunch meat out of the local grocery store to be able to survive! The day I graduated 3rd in a class of 688 seniors at my high school was the day my mother chose to leave my father after 24 years of marriage. My older… Read more »
Scarlet,
I don’t know how to respond to your life’s story. And I don’t know what words I can say other than , " it must have felt good to get that all out"!
Sandi
It certainly did Sandi! I didn’t like the tone of Olivia’s response and my rebuttal to her response is not fabricated. Every bit of that story is true and was painful to repeat! By looking at me, it looks like I had a fairly easy life but it was not easy at all. A real struggle for sure but with a lot of hard work, study, testing, more hard work, study, and more testing and I got through it all. After retiring from the Department of Defense, I took even more graduate level courses to obtain state certifications to teach… Read more »
Hi Scarlett!
I just never could get excited about buying men’s clothes. Women just seem to have so much more to choose from. Guys have a very limited palate, and only the best of us work well within the range, or have enough taste to make it work. When I think of some of the horrendous outfits I wore as a lad…….
I sounds like you have the best of both worlds going there for you though. Lovely article BTW!
Hugs,
April
April, I’m all in with you about not getting excited about buying men’s clothing! All we have to choose from are pants, shorts, and shirts – not much outside of that. The choices for us girls are unlimited. It’s so exciting to be out shopping for dresses, skirts, tops, heels, boots, booties, hose, panties, tights – well you get the idea – the choices are out of this world. I haven’t spent but about 30 minutes shopping for anything in the men’s department in the past two years! Life is very good now April, but it’s taken 45 years to… Read more »
At 61 I am all too aware of my limited time! Still – I look a good 10 years younger when dressed – yay! Dressing my “age" sounds awful. I want to look as young and sexy as possible. You look fabulous hon. Never would have pegged you for 64. 44…..maybe.
Keep in touch love!
April
Thank you baby doll and that’s so sweet of you to say. That’s about what I feel I look as Scarlett – 40 to 45.
You look fabulous as well girl friend. Would never have pegged you anywhere close to 61!
We look great for a couple of cute, sexy, classy old ladies don’t we?
Love ya Girl Friend! XOXOXO Scarlett
We are!!
Scarlet, and all you other gurls, In male mode, I feel drab. In en femme, I feel beautiful! I am 6’1″, 185 lbs, slender. In male mode, I am clean cut, clean shaven, with short well trimmed hair. In female mode, I am 6’1″, 185, 42-34-42. I have all kinds of hair. (Wigs) And no body hair. Sure, I dress well as a man, and I’ve been told I’m a decent looking male. In female mode, I dress to the best of my ability and means, and I always strive to be as beautiful as I possibly can be, given… Read more »
I understand exactly where you’re coming from, Sandi. I feel so beautiful as Scarlett and I get tons of compliments while in Scarlett mode especially in response to the photos of her I post on this site. However, I also get compliments as a male not just based on my sense of style but also on my looks. I must admit as well as my wife’s input and all of her coworkers and buddies, I do make a rather handsome husband. And that’s it for today, Sandi, or tonight! It’s really late and time for bed and I’m exhausted! XOXO… Read more »
Hi honey, Hey, you took a bit of flak back there didn’t you? But wow….what a life you have had, and what a perfect response. So inspiring, and you can be so proud of yourself. Reminds me of a talk I heard many years ago, entitled ‘making the most of it’. It covered everything, a situation, what you have to work with and above all…life. You are a perfect example of what hard work and application can achieve. I’m so proud of you. As for dressing, never worry. You have some very admiring friends on here, myself included. As it… Read more »
Thanks for your needed support on this one, Davinia! You’re exactly right – I took from flack and came out swinging! The word “Pedigree" just set me off! I took it as an implication I was born with some damn silver spoon in my mouth and I was a spoiled rotten brat my entire life which was about as far from what my life was actually like as you could possibly get so I came out swinging and swinging hard! Apparently this clueless girl didn’t realize that this site is a very classy online cross dressing sight designed for founded… Read more »
Hi Scarlett. This has been one of my life goals over the last few years…look stylish and not shlumppy as my wife would say. You don’t need to break the bank by wearing designer clothes just look clean and put together. Love ya. Steph.
That’s exactly right, Steph! Just like that favorite dress of mine I’m wearing in the photo above. The cute sexy little number cost me 9 bucks at our Burlington store in Pensacola. Why any “Blue Collar" worker could afford that couldn’t they? Why sure, they spend more than twice that on a case of cheap beer for God sakes! I never pay full retail price for anything I buy. The classy Calvin Klein, Tommy Hilfiger, and Michael Kors designer dresses I purchase for about 70% of their original retail price at my favorite stores like TJ Maxx and Marshalls. Many… Read more »
I agree about the “drab" I refer to myself as simply in male mode when not cross-dressed. I’d also like to say that I’ve always disliked the term “sissy" I find it very degrading.
Michelle, I’m with you all the way on both statements you made today! Male mode is much better than “drab" and I find the other term you mention here very degrading as well!
Thanks so much for your response, Michelle!
XOXO Scarlett
Fantastic write-up Scarlett! So inspiring and uplifting, just what I needed on a Monday lol. Thanks girl!
You’re so welcome Girl Friend! So happy to be able to start your week off with a positive note!
Caught some serious flack from one girl in response to my article, however, I expected some mixed reviews on this possible controversial subject.
Stay in touch Christina and some new photos of Scarlett are coming up late this week. Hope you enjoy them!
XOXO Scarlett
I understand what you are saying about drab, however, I only feel relaxed and “ put together” when I am in femme mode. I just can’t get excited at all when buying or wearing men’s clothes. It is usually jeans and a shirt. I was in business before I retired and had to present myself well. Even then dressing for work was not something I looked forward to. When I had time, back then, I love shopping for female clothes and then presenting myself as proper as I could. So, in my case, drab fits. I know for others there… Read more »
Hi Carolyn it’s Scarlett and thanks so much for your response. I spend about 1 percent of my shopping time in the men’s department know and usually it’s for a special cologne my wife prefers to make love to me while wearing it but it’s getting really tuff to find these days – it’s Burberry Touch! I get so many compliments from girls and ladies who don’t even know me who when close to me in a store while in handsome husband mode come up and ask me out of the blue – “Excuse me, but would you tell me… Read more »
Wow….this is such a beautiful photo,,,,love your smile,,,it llights up any shot,,,,the dress is lovely and looks like it would be fun to wear,,,hair is to die for,,,,one beautiful woman
What a sweet little note just full of wonderful compliments. Thank you Cher for sending in such a wonderful response!
Love ya for doing so! XOXOXO Scarlett