Body hair, yuck.

I have never liked my body hair. As a natural red head my body hair is fair but there’s a lot of it. I will never forget how amazing it was the first time I shaved off all my body hair. Wow! So smooth, so soft! Then to put on hose and heels and a soft dress; holy smokes I was in heaven!

I have since said that if men shaved their bodies the world would see less violence and war. To me, doing that one thing is such an act of self-care, self-love. Just the manner of shaving, slowly letting the razor glide over all the curves and crevasses of your body, feeling each inch of skin is an act of love that I’ve never received but find it a wonderful gift, a giving experience to myself. It’s not just that the act of shaving is wonderful in and of itself, it continues after the shower when I gently apply lotion to my legs, arms, and anywhere that has been shaved. The cool, soft feeling of delicate fabrics caressing newly shaven skin is so pleasurable. After I shaved for the first time, I discovered that the hair on my body had been keeping my skin somewhat separated from my clothes. I had never really felt fabric on my skin. What a fine discovery!

I started exploring different ways of removing body hair. First was Nair. I read the instructions and tried it on my chest. It did not give me the removal I hoped for, so I tried it again. That was my mistake. Being fair skinned as I am, I discovered a high sensitivity to Nair. Shortly after the second application, I felt my skin burning. I washed it off, but it was too late, and my entire chest became covered in hives. It took a month for them to go away.

EnFemme

So, I went back to shaving. I had no idea how fast shoulder and arm hair grew. I would shave in the morning only to have prickly shoulders by evening. Then I read about epilating. If you haven’t heard of it, it’s like tweezing your hair only instead of plucking each hair out one at a time it has a roller that high-speed plucks out an inch swath. Supposedly, you will be without hair for 4 to 6 weeks. After checking around, the highest reviewers were for the Braun Silk epil 9.  I found it for sale on eBay for 70 dollars. It’s a bargain because new they are $140.

I started with my legs. It stung but was not unbearable. It’s been about three weeks so far and still no hair there. I then went to my arms and shoulders. Stung a bit but not bad. I went to my belly and OUCHIE, OUCHIE, OH CRAP THAT HURTS! I can only do a few inches at a time and then I must stop. Each day I do a little more and love the feeling of my smooth belly. I’ve read that after your skin gets used to the process the discomfort becomes minimal. I have been finding a few places on my arms that fine hair has returned, but with just a quick swipe of the Epi it takes care of it with no discomfort at all.

I have to say, I miss that feeling of hose on fresh shaven legs. But I love that I don’t have to shave my arms and privates every single day.

So, to all the ladies I say, give yourself a gift of sensitive, soft, and sumptuous skin.

Hugs

Diane

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    As I think back on my life, in my youngest days I loved looking at my moms Glamor mags and the Sears and Roebuck catalog looking at the cloths, shoes and undergarments. I loved the style and design. I would even try on my moms panty hose. Over the years on occasion I would try on one of my wife’s dresses when home alone. As a photographer I was ask to photograph an lgbtq event and while I was in my ubiquitous photographers black on black pants and shirts. Everyone else in the place was in fabulous costumes and outfits. They were beautiful and so much fun. This year the event was in February and in October I decided that I would go in femme! My wife (who is super conservative and freeked out by anyone different) was gone for 3 weeks. So just me and the dog. I decided then and there that I was going all out. I went to see Phebe Cross here in Georgia, who works with the lady’s to dress them and style them and put makeup on them. It was a wonderful experience! I never felt so complemented in a genuine way. I felt for the first time in my life, beautiful. Phebe even gave me one of the outfits she dressed me in because it fit me so perfectly. I recognized that everyone really, man or woman, wants to or wishes they could be seen and feel beautiful. Who wouldn’t? I told my wife and grown girls that I went through that process to prepare for the event and shared with them the photo’s with mixed results. My girls were ok with it but my wife did not like it at all. I focused on loosing weight so I would look as good as I could in Feb. I went to Goodwill and would buy heals but was to embarrassed to try them on in the store so I would buy them, take them home and try them on and if they did not fit I would return them. I finally went to DSW and asked them to help me. They were fantastic! I found a pair of heals that fit me right and wore them out of the store. I went to the bank in them and I swear no one even noticed. I loved what wearing heals did for my posture. I would wear them around the house all day and worked on my walk. I ordered wigs and dresses on line and could not wait for them to come in to try on. I would wear night gowns to bed and shaved my body from head to toe. I loved the way my smooth skin felt. I remember thinking that if men would just shave there body there would be less violence and wars. My first experience doing my own make up was terrible. My wigs looked bad on me. But I finally found a wig that fit my face properly. When my wife got home after 3 weeks away she saw several dresses in my closet and went off on it. “You have women’s dresses in your closet!) I said “Those are not women’s dresses. Those are my dresses”. Those dresses are still in my closet but all the other stuff is hidden away. So the night of the event came and my wife chose to leave the house to shop but I am sure she did not want to see me prepare for the event. I got showered shaved and dressed up and headed for Sephora. I had to valet my car and in walking to the store no one even gave me a second look. I told them it was my first time out in femme and they were amazing. The makeup job was great and a ton of fun. Again not a single person in the store, women or boyfriends gave me a second look. I then went to the event and it could have not been more affirming for me. People who I have known for years did not recognize me but when I spoke to them and told them it was me. The response was wonderful. There was a woman who identifies as a lesbian approach me to tell me how great I looked and that she would totally date me!! I shot that entire event in 4 inch heels and had a fantastic time doing it!! I felt amazing! When I got home however, my wife came to see me and just stared. I said aren’t you going to say something? “What is there to say”? I said “I don’t know maybe you look great?” Nothing, she just went upstairs and has not mentioned it at all. I still keep those few dresses in my closet. But I now have probably 20 pair of shoes and I don’t know how many dresses and outfits that I keep hidden away. I only get dressed up when I know my wife will be gone. I still shave my legs every other day and my underarms and man bits daily. I put lotion on my legs and moisturizer on my face after every shower. My nails look great, and I am getting better about my makeup. In spite of my wife and her absolute objection to my experience, I have talked to her about what a wonderful experience it was for me and the never before level of self-care I am giving myself. I am very proud of my femme side. I share the photos with everyone I know. Not embarrassed at all to shop. Yesterday I went to Goodwill, mask on of course, and bought a dozen dresses, pants and tops. I was so happy to be doing it and did not feel the least bit conspectus or embarrassed in any way. I will sit down and try on heels and not think twice about it. So I am very proud to be exploring my fem side. I know this is a long story but thank you for giving me an opportunity to express it. UPDATE: I have been living as my true female self full time for the last 2 ish years and loving it! I've been on hormones for the last 10 months and have beautiful b cup breast. I've not worn breast forms in 6 months!!! The Atlanta Jewish Times did an article on me titled " Photographer Finds True Self" I am proud to say that I did not lose a single client or friend! Tells me I had the right clients and friends! I am living my very best life so far and intend to keep on that trajectory. I have had my own show "The Diane Crow Show" on my Facebook page and am the Co-host of The Gayly Dose. You can see that show on YouTube or anywhere you watch or listen to your podcast.

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    Judy Schwartz
    Lady
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    3 years ago

    I am also a natural redhead. For hair removal, I’ve found that you can’t beat waxing. After about 30 years of waxing a few times a year, I have hardly any hair left on my legs or chest.

    Judy Schwartz
    Lady
    Member
    3 years ago
    Reply to  Diane Crow

    No, I go to a salon. I tried it myself once and mostly made a big mess.

    Judy

    Leslies Ann Gray Girl
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    Leslies Ann Gray Girl
    3 years ago

    Hi Ladies , I just use a razor and i found that if you use a ladies shave gel it makes nicks and bumps not happen . It puts roller bearings on your razor and really makes it slick and you get a closer shave . I use a five blade razor and venus shave gel and it only takes a dab , about the size of a nickel will do both my legs and butt and my tummy and breasts i use a dab more . This stuff makes your razor stay sharper longer as well . I hope… Read more »

    Alexis "Lexi" Moon
    Alexis "Lexi" Moon
    3 years ago

    Nair + chest hair is a bad combination! I have personal experience, and yikes…never again…

    June (Rei) Durden
    Lady
    Active Member
    3 years ago

    I have the very same epilator! And the same bad experience with hair removal creams. I love not having to shave for 1-2 weeks at a time but it’s a constant battle with ingrown hairs.

    June (Rei) Durden
    Lady
    Active Member
    3 years ago
    Reply to  Diane Crow

    I had stopped for a year but since starting again I am exfoliating daily, not wearing any tight clothes while sleeping and using a natural astringent after every shower/epilating session. Results have been better than previous.

    June (Rei) Durden
    Lady
    Active Member
    3 years ago
    Reply to  Diane Crow

    Lol, the devils in the details! I exfoliate mostly with a loofah, but occasionally with a homemade body scrub (organic olive oil, organic cane sugar, and organic coffee grounds) The astringent is called Witch Hazel (alcohol free!) which I put in a misting bottle rather than applying it with cotton balls.

    T.J. Byron
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    T.J. Byron
    3 years ago

    Did….
    Thanks again for your great writing last few months…this article on shaving is excellent.Also your idea on " The 4 Outfits" review, was lots of fun.
    Look forward to more from you,Did, and would love to contribute more myself.
    Love…Dr.T.J.

    Bree Jewel
    Bree Jewel
    2 years ago

    Hi! Total newbie here. Thank you for sharing all the great ideas for getting body hair off. Um…what about the really delicate parts, y’know? Blades terrify me down there, definitely not using Nair or like it. I’m using an electric razor, but is there a better way?
    Thank you.

    Lexi4Fun
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    1 year ago

    I felt the same way the first time with pantyhose after shaving legs, wow, amazing feeling. I would love to know which is the best electric razor for legs, that real gurls here use, for that “in between showers want to keep legs smooth" . I want my legs to be super smooth and girly. ( I actually feel “dirty" when my legs are not freshly shaved) So… I love this article but I am looking for the best rechargeable electric shaver for my legs, which can get really hairy. I’ve been shaving my legs almost daily for over 20… Read more »

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