Hi everyone! It’s Sarah here. I am a 53 year old married MTF crossdresser who recently went out shopping en femme to the mall for the first time! I was very nervous, but once I went through with it the whole experience was exciting and liberating. My wife was away visiting her daughter and granddaughter. I took full advantage of dressing up around the house with the blinds closed.
The day before she came home I mustered the courage to go out en femme! I was both super nervous and excited. I wore Hue leggings, Vans floral high top sneakers, and my wife’s cute white shawl to the mall. I started at JC Pennies and found a cute pair of black ankle boots. I then went to the clearance rack and found a beautiful wine-colored long-sleeved top for 75% off! I also picked up some nice tops at a huge discount! Did I mention that I love clearance racks and online thrift stores?
At the check out a lady behind said, “Excuse me Miss, did you find that on the clearance rack?” referring to my wine colored top. In reply, I said “yes” accidentally in a male voice 😆! I quickly corrected to a female voice. I am sure I was clocked but didn’t really care. It was funny to hear her reply: “Oh, I didn’t see anything like that on the clearance rack!”
The sales associate was very kind and friendly. We engaged in small talk about my great clearance rack finds and we wished each other a happy new year.
In the main mall I saw a cute place that sold earrings. The young sales associate was sweet and fun to chat with. She helped me to pick out some hoop earrings and feather earrings. She complimented me on my Vans high top sneakers!
I was totally over the top happy to get a compliment! I mentioned that I had gotten them used online. It felt exciting to be complimented and to be able to interact with kind and pleasant people at the mall. It was way easier than I ever expected! I went home and had a blast trying on my new boots and tops with a skirt that I purchased online.
I am glad that I was able to have such an amazing experience my first time out! I look forward to sharing experiences and giving/getting support and advice from my fellow crossdressers. It was wonderful being able to express my true self.
Love, peace, and happiness to my CDH community members!
The picture is the outfit that I wore to the mall.
Love ❤️ and hugs,
Sarah
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congrats sarah I know it can be scary but I have done it now mant many times and love it you chose sensible clothes and the secret I believe is to blend in also be confident and dont rush. I find that most people aren,t looking for a tgirl/cd they are thinking about their own shopping to notice hope this has given you the confidence to do it more.
love katie
xxx
p.s you look great by the way
Congratulations! I’m glad the adventure went so well.
Thanks you Marie! Everyone here is so supportive and it is definitely giving me more confidence
Wonderful experience! And I hope and pray it will be the first of MANY, Sweetie. Because the more you get out there, the easier it will be.
Just got out again today to the outlet stores en femme and bought a 3 pack of Hanes silk reflections. Rainy here in NJ so not many people out. The SA was very kind and pleasant in helping me find the correct size. It gets easier the more you get out there for sure
Thank you sweet Julie! That means a lot to me honey
nice post. You look stunning, honey.
Thank you dearest Alisha! Right back at ya honey. You look so beautiful.
Sarah, Beautiful story, thank you so much for sharing it with us. I spent a lot of time in my youth as a retail worker/cashier and I can assure you that in many cases all we wanted to do was get our customers served and out the door. Now many retail chains train their personnel with diversity training and how to handle situations where not all is as it seems. I think the younger generation is much more aware when it comes to dealing with the trans/non binary community. In the end it is all about customer service, you spend… Read more »
Amber what an amazing post! You touched on so many bases. We take diversity training and unconscious bias training at my job. Excellent customer service is about valuing your customers and no judging them because they are different from you or have different beliefs.
Well done Amber.
PS the SA said my size pantyhose is CD