Do you pass as a woman?

Passing… it seems like the holy grail for crossdressers. If we could work hard enough, lose that extra pound and practice voice lessons for another hour – maybe, just maybe we could pass as a woman. In our minds we’ve build up passing as something elusive that is to be dreamed about and never achieved.

Yet passing is closer, and easier than you’d think if you let go of the notion that everyone, all the time must only every perceive you as the woman you’re trying to impersonate.

Here are nineteen practical tips from Kelly Stevens for how to pass as a woman. If you’re serious about passing you’ll find more high quality advice in the world’s best crossdressing guide.

How to Crossdress and Pass As A Woman

1. Dress your age. If you aren’t a junior, don’t buy your clothing in the juniors department

2.  Dress appropriately for the situation. A cocktail dress at the mall isn’t optimum. Make up needs to be appropriate.

3.  Crossdressing is an illusion. A genetic woman can go out without any make up and can look a mess but not look like a man. You can do the same as a man and not look like a woman. You need to constantly preserve the illusion and this involves diverting attention away from your flaws and using clothing and most importantly accessories to preserve the illusion. I do not need glasses but found they feminize me so I bought some (in the women’s section of an eyeglass store). wearing men’s glasses simply is not good enough in 99% of the people I know. I wear a hair band, diamond engagement ring, chain bracelet, necklace, earrings that dangle, and red lipstick because many people have critiqued me and said these things feminize me. The red lipstick and nail polish divert the eyes away from other parts of me.

4.  Choose a wig wisely, This may be among the most important things you do. Length, color, style all matter. (If it is too perfect, it will look fake.)

5.  Hair removal is always an issue.  You think nothing of spending a great deal of money on clothing and cosmetics so spend some on a quality razor.  Consider hair removal on your face if necessary. I had laser hair removal and it was the best thing I ever did. Use the right foundation to cover the beard but shave it off first! covering is not as good as removing. Shave closely and several times.

6.  Apply make up skillfully.

7.  Cover your arms if you need to. My arms are larger than a woman’s so I wear some type of top. This means I never get to wear sexy cocktail gowns and expect to pass but I can usually find something nice with sleeves. Cover your Navy tatoo!

8.  Keep your skirt length appropriate.  In fact, keep everything appropriate. Anything that looks out of the ordinary will be noticed and once you are noticed you will not pass.  Much of the time if others really noticed me i would not pass yet somehow I pass extremely well. Why?  Because I blend in and fly under their radar.

9.  Avoid direct confrontation with anyone and when it i necessary to interface with a waiter, store clerk, etc. be prepared.  When i go to the grocery store i know they will inevitably ask me paper or plastic so I am ready and reach for a plastic bag.  I know I will be asked cash or credit so I have my cash or credit card in my  hand where they can see it before they ask. But if I have to speak, I speak softly and quietly and smile.In a restaurant, point to the menu item as you order. This reduces the need to fully speak in detail.

10.  Choose where you go in public carefully to minimize problems. If you don’t really pass, stay out of the ladies’ room. I go out at any time of the day or night in Times Square and pass but I avoid groups of teenagers like the plague. They will notice and if they notice they will not notice quietly.

11.  Walk like a woman not a caveman.

12.  Relax. If you are afraid, you will walk like you are afraid. Have confidence.

13.  I’ve seen many men who do not prepare themselves to pass. One CD friends is an auto mechanic and he shows up at support group meetings with black grease on his hands.

14.  Eat and drink like a lady. I love beer but more women drink wine so i drink wine. Men stuff their faces. Women are much more, well, feminine in how they eat.  Study female  behavior so you can emulate it properly. A word about smoking. I personally feel that smoking is one of the easiest means to tell if someone is a CD or a real woman. Few men can smoke like a woman. You think you can, but you can’t.

15.  Carry a mirror and use it. Men don’t need much attention but women need constant attention. Walking from the parking lot to the Mall can result in blown hair. Eating can alter make up. Be prepared.

16.  Smell like a woman.

17.  Pay attention to detail. You may not be into make up and real women don’t need it to look like a woman but it will really help you. Curl your lashes. (No, don’t use artificial lashes). Keep your clothing stylish. No, that man’s coat isn’t going to pass as a woman’s coat. Details! If you have a huge Adam’s Apple, wear turtle necks. Learn to adapt.

18.  We all want to have our own set of 52 DD tits but if you wear 52DD tits you are going to attract attention and you will therefore be noticed.

19.  Be self aware. Know your limitations. Unless you have practiced dancing like a girl you probably won’t do it like a girl.

And there you have it – nineteen practical tips for crossdressing that don’t require night classes or intentisive training. Don’t stop now, there is so much more to learn about crossdressing – learn how to pass as a woman.

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Heather

I think being confident is the key and just accept that some may clock you. Once you relax and realize I’m a guy in a dress so what? Do that and smile and you’ll be fine.of course all the other tips are great as well. I go out all the time and 90% of the time I blend and I even dress younger than my age, I can’t help it!

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Jane

Even when I follow many of the suggestions in this article in the end there is no hiding the fact that I am male-bodied. Thus I don’t try to disguise or deny the fact so when it comes to speaking I do try to speak in a softer manner but I do not avoid talking by pointing or other sign language. Usually I am accepted as what I am, a male-bodied person who, for the time being, wishes to be considered female. I’ve not yet had a problem and most staff have been polite and accepting. The worst I have… Read more »

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evon mc kay

reneereyes.com has exercises for thinning your arms evon

Vanna
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Vanna

I am SOOOO glad I found you Vanessa! Empowered thanks to you and all the girls!

Vanessa Law
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Vanessa Law

A pleasure hon – welcome to Crossdresser Heaven!
*hugs*

Kayla Kross
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Kayla Kross

Great write-up! Thank you Vanessa, all these tips are very useful & workable. Confidence is the biggest key factor in my eyes when it comes to passing in public. One can achieve all the above mentioned tips but if one has low or limited confidence it just bleeds right through everything else. Stay positive & stay strong, true to your conviction & who you are. I love going out in public fully dressed to the 9’s, smile and walk proud. When I’m out in public it is the most empowering feeling I’ve ever had. Another key feminine characteristic is correct… Read more »

Janine
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Janine

I’ve been out many times and I guess that I must look passable .while walking out of a mall once I met a real female who told me that she just loved my skirt
I smiled at her and thanked her as I was walking away
Her compliment about my skirt made me feel really feminine and I had a little bounce in my step as I was walking to my car.

Khloe West
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Great read and much more to share when actually awake,. bit my “Schooling” advised a 38D….

K

brenda
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brenda

I really want to dress up but im to afraid to go anywhere to buy clothes in case i get found out today i found a pair of thights in the street took them and wash them and wearing them can anyone help

Julie
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Julie

I buy a lot of my stuff online.

Stella
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Stella

I buy on ebay and collect at Argos.

Michele Luke
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Michele Luke

I get most of my stuff at Goodwill. Not underwear, but dresses, shoes, etc.

Tammy
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Tammy

Buy clothing at christmas

Stella
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Stella

You mentioned 52DD tits. I have a large frame and a 46″ chest and currently wearing a 46D bra. It sometimes feels too big. Should I go smaller? I’m still housebound, too afraid to venture out, despite the advice above.I probably think I’m not convincing 🙁

Danielle(Dani)
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I’m in the same boat. I’m in a 48D now. I was bigger. I let myself get really fat unfortunately so I actually did sport DD’s for a while and just recently went back to my D’s and bought some new bras because I’ve lost weight. I found taking full length pictures of myself and turning a little to the side helped me see what was a little more appropriate for my size and shape. I’m continuing to lose weight so I figure I’ll wait and see somewhere in the not to distant future again what seems more appropriate and… Read more »

dani
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I have been going out for some odd 40 plus years and have only been read twice that I know off. Once by teenagers at a mall entrance and once in walmart while wearing a coat not suited to my skin tone. I always dress age appropriate less about 10 years. Since my height is 5-10 I don’t push the heel height over 3 inches. For skirts don’t go higher than knee less about 2 inches. The skirt length should be at your fingertips. I don’t use false nails, they are too difficult to handle.My watch is a jewelled large… Read more »

Leonara
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Catching up on the forum. What a wonderful article. Thanks for sharing

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