Do you pass as a woman?

Passing… it seems like the holy grail for crossdressers. If we could work hard enough, lose that extra pound and practice voice lessons for another hour – maybe, just maybe we could pass as a woman. In our minds we’ve build up passing as something elusive that is to be dreamed about and never achieved.

Yet passing is closer, and easier than you’d think if you let go of the notion that everyone, all the time must only every perceive you as the woman you’re trying to impersonate.

Here are nineteen practical tips from Kelly Stevens for how to pass as a woman. If you’re serious about passing you’ll find more high quality advice in the world’s best crossdressing guide.

How to Crossdress and Pass As A Woman

1. Dress your age. If you aren’t a junior, don’t buy your clothing in the juniors department

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2.  Dress appropriately for the situation. A cocktail dress at the mall isn’t optimum. Make up needs to be appropriate.

3.  Crossdressing is an illusion. A genetic woman can go out without any make up and can look a mess but not look like a man. You can do the same as a man and not look like a woman. You need to constantly preserve the illusion and this involves diverting attention away from your flaws and using clothing and most importantly accessories to preserve the illusion. I do not need glasses but found they feminize me so I bought some (in the women’s section of an eyeglass store). wearing men’s glasses simply is not good enough in 99% of the people I know. I wear a hair band, diamond engagement ring, chain bracelet, necklace, earrings that dangle, and red lipstick because many people have critiqued me and said these things feminize me. The red lipstick and nail polish divert the eyes away from other parts of me.

4.  Choose a wig wisely, This may be among the most important things you do. Length, color, style all matter. (If it is too perfect, it will look fake.)

5.  Hair removal is always an issue.  You think nothing of spending a great deal of money on clothing and cosmetics so spend some on a quality razor.  Consider hair removal on your face if necessary. I had laser hair removal and it was the best thing I ever did. Use the right foundation to cover the beard but shave it off first! covering is not as good as removing. Shave closely and several times.

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6.  Apply make up skillfully.

7.  Cover your arms if you need to. My arms are larger than a woman’s so I wear some type of top. This means I never get to wear sexy cocktail gowns and expect to pass but I can usually find something nice with sleeves. Cover your Navy tatoo!

8.  Keep your skirt length appropriate.  In fact, keep everything appropriate. Anything that looks out of the ordinary will be noticed and once you are noticed you will not pass.  Much of the time if others really noticed me i would not pass yet somehow I pass extremely well. Why?  Because I blend in and fly under their radar.

9.  Avoid direct confrontation with anyone and when it i necessary to interface with a waiter, store clerk, etc. be prepared.  When i go to the grocery store i know they will inevitably ask me paper or plastic so I am ready and reach for a plastic bag.  I know I will be asked cash or credit so I have my cash or credit card in my  hand where they can see it before they ask. But if I have to speak, I speak softly and quietly and smile.In a restaurant, point to the menu item as you order. This reduces the need to fully speak in detail.

10.  Choose where you go in public carefully to minimize problems. If you don’t really pass, stay out of the ladies’ room. I go out at any time of the day or night in Times Square and pass but I avoid groups of teenagers like the plague. They will notice and if they notice they will not notice quietly.

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11.  Walk like a woman not a caveman.

12.  Relax. If you are afraid, you will walk like you are afraid. Have confidence.

13.  I’ve seen many men who do not prepare themselves to pass. One CD friends is an auto mechanic and he shows up at support group meetings with black grease on his hands.

14.  Eat and drink like a lady. I love beer but more women drink wine so i drink wine. Men stuff their faces. Women are much more, well, feminine in how they eat.  Study female  behavior so you can emulate it properly. A word about smoking. I personally feel that smoking is one of the easiest means to tell if someone is a CD or a real woman. Few men can smoke like a woman. You think you can, but you can’t.

15.  Carry a mirror and use it. Men don’t need much attention but women need constant attention. Walking from the parking lot to the Mall can result in blown hair. Eating can alter make up. Be prepared.

16.  Smell like a woman.

17.  Pay attention to detail. You may not be into make up and real women don’t need it to look like a woman but it will really help you. Curl your lashes. (No, don’t use artificial lashes). Keep your clothing stylish. No, that man’s coat isn’t going to pass as a woman’s coat. Details! If you have a huge Adam’s Apple, wear turtle necks. Learn to adapt.

18.  We all want to have our own set of 52 DD tits but if you wear 52DD tits you are going to attract attention and you will therefore be noticed.

19.  Be self aware. Know your limitations. Unless you have practiced dancing like a girl you probably won’t do it like a girl.

And there you have it – nineteen practical tips for crossdressing that don’t require night classes or intentisive training. Don’t stop now, there is so much more to learn about crossdressing – learn how to pass as a woman.

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Laura Lovett
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Laura Lovett
5 years ago

Great artivle and very useful tips. I would say from experience that you can do what you like within reason and the realms of decency! Be your female self. People nowadays really don’t care about seeong an eccentric man in drag. If that drag is carefully considered, like something a woman would actually wear, then all you need is to enjoy it and let it show that you are enjoying it. You don’t need a ton of confidence if that isn’t something you have, but you do need to let go of fear completely. What’s to be afraid of? What’s… Read more »

Robert Marsini
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3 years ago
Reply to  Laura Lovett

Dear Laura,
Right on, I wear girl jeans, panties, pantyhose or thigh high’s, camisole, sometimes bra & inserts, toe rings & anklet, girl sneakers, I dress feminine, just to go out to the store ( grocery shopping etc.) no make up but I “feel 100% femme. Once I was wearing black flats with white bow, was asked about it & shrugged it off. I am ( Robin Jennifer) I still go to that same store, but like “Popeye” once said “ I am who I am”. Amen to that!

Lisa Walling
5 years ago

I work with many male clients teaching them how to care for their skin to get the softest and smoothest look possible and how apply makeup that flatters and feminizes without looking harsh. These suggestions are spot on and I will highly recommend your site to my clients! I feel that everyone deserves to feel beautiful!

Amelia walker
Active Member
5 years ago

I must admit to dressing younger. I was out on Saturday at the mall in my strappy dungarees shorts I am 68 so dressing my age would be rather boring. Looking forward to going to Patong in three weeks and “trolling round the gay hangouts in my most outrageous outfits. Thanks for the advice.

Annie Sometimes
Lady
Member
5 years ago

Your advice is on point, and even though I’ve been dressing and taking walks outside for years, I still avoid getting too close to anyone in public. I guess I’m just fearful of being found out. But who is really going to give a damn, anyway?

Evelyn
Lady
Member
3 years ago

What a useful and interesting item.
It really comes down to using common sense when we dress to pass as female.
However, as from my own experiences over the years, it’s so easy to break all the rules and go over the top when prepping to go out.
It’s so easy to try too hard.
Xx

Mollylynn Williams
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Member
3 years ago

Valid tips! Thank you, Vanessa, for pointing up what has taken some of us several years of watching and imitating real women before we got it right. I’m in my eighties, but still dress stylishly in contemporary fashion. It helps that my male earning years were productive. Once I got over stage jitters, I’ve found I can go almost anywhere in confidence. Yes, I’ve been read a few times…by other women, who, each time, complimented me on my attire and then enjoyed a conversation together! On day at a restaurant, a ten year old girl was staring at me. I… Read more »

Pinkflower
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2 years ago

I would like to join this club

Sky Woods
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Sky Woods
2 years ago

I really liked this article. I pretty much have figured out a lot of this by trial and error. But it is so great to read it and reinforce it. And the comment about being a mechanic hit home. I am a mechanic and scrub my hands religiously. But my nails will never be nice enough to not wear fake nails. Thank you so much for posting this.

Gina Hanson
Lady
4 months ago

hello all, new to this,, so want to be female any tips on how to enlarge breasts and feel more feminine.. gina

Joananna Howe
Lady
4 months ago

Great advise

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