How far apart are your worlds?

Every workday when I get up, I get dressed into my company supplied clothes and the last thing I put on, before I walk out the front door, are my steel cap boots. And off to work I go, in my company 4×4 Ute (very manly these days). Sometimes I am wearing panties underneath, and occasionally matched with a camisole and if really cold like it is now I will wear pantyhose as well. Of course this is all well-hidden underneath the corporate drab. So I feel partly femme, but mainly a bloke, as this is the world I live in. This is where the confliction begins.

I am a manager in the auto industry which is totally male dominated and the only women you interact with are generally the office girls in the accounts department, whom I get on really well with. Most of the men that I work with are stereotypical males who are homophobic, sexist and bigoted, but pretend to be tolerant of everyone. But that is the industry, all macho and testosterone. I try not to fall into the same trap, but to be honest, I am probably as bad as they are, as I condone what they do by saying nothing. I have to conform to their version of society while I am at work, but outside of work I can be who I really am, which is one of the reasons why I enjoy my time as Marie so much.

Don’t get me wrong as I do get on well with the team that work for me and we have a lot of laughs during the day, but quite often it is at the expense of someone else. The more that I am Marie, the less comfortable I am at work because we have different views on things and my Marie views are getting stronger. I don’t know how much longer it will be before she starts getting me into trouble. With all the pressures that come with businesses these days and the corporate BS that I have to endure, I dare say that it will be sooner rather than later!

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When I am Marie I am pretty much the opposite of my work self. My femme side allows me to be gentle, kind, nurturing, caring and it makes me feel good. Like really good. To the core of my body good. When I do a reasonable job of my makeup and hair I feel pretty and sexy, which is great for your self-esteem. Having your wife say that you look very sexy is also pretty good for your confidence. So overall, I am a better person when I am Marie and I like that person!

I just completed the gender quiz which was posted here a while ago and it said that I was 75% feminine. It is a personality quiz so I am happy with that. But just because I think like a woman, dress like one and try to act like one as much as possible, it doesn’t help me in the real world where acceptance by your peers is never going to happen. So the reality is that I have to suppress my real self and conform to a world, which let’s face it, is pretty messed up at the moment.

There doesn’t seem to be a lot of conversation around work/life balance or the strain it can put on you emotionally. We all discuss what is going on with our SO’s, family and friends, and the trauma that could arise should they find out about our crossdressing, which is very real to all of us, but for me the biggest issue is having to be someone I am not anymore. So hopefully if you are reading this you can relate to my predicament. As each day goes by I am disliking that side of my life more and more and I can’t wait until the time when I get to walk away from it.

My wife is really supportive even though I know she doesn’t fully understand why I want to be Marie, but she certainly understands the work side of my life so perhaps she is being more tolerant with me because of it. She was reading this over my shoulder last night, having a giggle as I typed with long nails on, hitting multiple keys at a time, and she asked did I really feel like that. “Yes” was the answer, so we had a talk about it and she can now understand why I feel that way. It certainly makes it easier to get though life having her support and love.

As she walked away she quipped, I go to bed with another woman in the house and I wake up with a man in my bed. I guess that sums it up!

So girls, to answer my question, how far apart are my worlds? I would say a million miles! How far apart are yours?

Thanks for reading my story and feel free to answer my question above if you work in a macho job with a bunch of macho men who you can’t ever expect them to understand your thrill of cross dressing.

Sincerely, Marie

EnFemme

 

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    Krystal Wheeler
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    2 years ago

    Great write-up! Thanks for sharing!

    Krystal Wheeler
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    2 years ago
    Reply to  Marie Law

    And I feel you were right on in so many areas. For me, it started as a fetish for heels and seeing them on the female form as such an attractive accessory. I just had to try them and loved how they made me feel and be able to associate with a woman by literally stepping into their shoes! It just grew from there with makeup, clothing and further emulation. For so many, it just seems like such a great attraction and appreciation of the female form, you want to experience it directly in so many ways. Would not want… Read more »

    Krystal Wheeler
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    2 years ago
    Reply to  Marie Law

    Thank you! 🙂

    Elizabeth Mead
    Lady
    2 years ago

    Thanks for sharing this Marie! Sometimes I wonder how many other “macho” men I interact with daily are also hiding a secret…

    Kathryn Lynn Peters
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    Active Member
    2 years ago

    I fully understand. Kathryn brings out the qualities in me that make me a better person…not that my male side is not a decent fellow. Just embrace Marie and enjoy your life! Hugs, Kathryn

    Sybilla Valesian
    Sybilla Valesian
    2 years ago

    I used to work in the car industry and understand every word you have written, thankfully I’ve moved into classic car parts and mainly work from home. Giving me the possiblity of being much more like Syb everyday (dressed or not). I went for a drink with some of the people I used to work with and they all noticed I was ‘different’, I just said all my customers are really chilled and it’s rubbed off on me – a few ‘funny’ comments and we moved on. Getting out of industry and the macho culture was possibly a reason in… Read more »

    Wilma
    Wilma
    2 years ago

    Marie
    That is a wonderful piece.
    I work at a military firing range with 5 former Marines and a former Army officer and I’m a former Submariner that’s the team then there are all the military users so I thoroughly understand the Macho surroundings, I wear panties at work but as i need to change tops occasionally so that’s as far as I go.
    The wife is currently unaware of my new fashion interest so I am not at finger nail and wig stage yet.

    Thanks again for the write up/review

    Take care.

    Leonara
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    2 years ago

    Marie, what a wonderful, thought provoking article. although I am retired and presently not goin through the stress of balancing your feminine side with your “macho” experience at work. my world is 500,000 miles apart as I balance Leonara with my male alter ego.. although my wife knows but is processing my revelation. but has adopted “don’t ask don’t tell” . Since she prefers that she doesn’t want to see me dressed, twice a week plays cards with friends to affords me the opportunity to be me I am miles apart from Family and Friends meeting Leonara… Marie, thank you… Read more »

    Leonara
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    2 years ago
    Reply to  Marie Law

    I can understand…

    Sarah Lane
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    2 years ago

    Hey Marie, Great article. Being on the road each week I rack up the KM’s so have to take the car in for a service every 2-3 months so get to see the male dominated Car Industry. I also often wonder as I have read that 1 in 10 males have or will crossdress in their life. Based on that there has to be a few in your industry that are keeping the same secret you are. I visit many different customers each week and get to interact with so many different people. Although I do not know any Transgender… Read more »

    Sarah Lane
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    2 years ago
    Reply to  Marie Law

    It is not even just about Understanding and Compassion. For most of us it has no impact on our daily life, people just like to share their opinion because it is so easy now. Personally, I don’t really care, Someone else has made that decision to allow her to compete and for me to comment would be ignorant as I have no idea about criteria, process and standards required to be apart of this sport. My Grandmother used to say " if you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing at all" and I think that speaks more volume… Read more »

    Natalie Elizabeth
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    2 years ago

    Thanks Marie! In much the similar situation with my work – complete opposite worlds. So good to know I am not the only one with this “balancing act” to manage.

    Best,
    Natalie

    Heather Jameson
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    Heather Jameson
    2 years ago

    Hi Marie, I can relate to this completely. I worked in a steel factory and my day started as you described to a tee and the guys at work same thing, the place oozed testosterone. The part that used to get me was when they would stand and berate gays and trans people and I could say nothing. Many times I wanted to tear a strip off a couple of them but I knew for my own personal safety and sanity to shut up. Your very lucky to have such a great wife. You should go wrap your arms around… Read more »

    Caroline OBrien
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    Caroline OBrien
    2 years ago

    I work at a mine They put testosterone in our coffee here. Feminine dress or actions would be dangerous.

    I dress at home only

    Caroline OBrien
    Member
    Caroline OBrien
    2 years ago
    Reply to  Marie Law

    It’s the only choice. I do however have my toes painted just so a little bit of Caroline is with me at work.

    C

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