Crossdressing success story in dessert storm

I’ve retitled this week’s crossdressing success story since it involves people who both identify with two different places on the transgender spectrum.

If you have a story to share you’d like to share with the readers of Crossdresser Heaven, please email me at and let me know you’d like me to share with others. If you identify anywhere else on the gender spectrum (transgender, transsexual, etc.) you are also welcome to submit a story. Readers of Crossdresser Heaven are at many places on their journey through gender self-discovery. I know that I would personally love to hear from more ladies who have found a different answer to their gender questions.  Please include:

  • Your femme name
  • A brief introduction (1-2 sentences about where you live, how old you are and such)
  • Your story (if you go over 700 words I’m going to edit you down 🙂 )
  • Optional – A photo of you (no nudity please)

Meet Steve

Steve is a 50 year old cross dresser who lives in the beautiful Pacific Northwest (Washington State).

Steve’s Transgender Success Story

I remember I was about 12 years old trying on some of Mom’s old swimsuits I found one day. Then I can remember being about 14 when I got an pair of my sister’s panties.   Little yellow polka dot ones of yellow nylon/white dots.


I used to spend a lot of time looking at women’s underwear pictures in newspaper ads and Sears Catalog and such before I finally got up the nerve to buy some granny panties. This was when I was 15 or 16, and I can tell you I did not like those as much and threw them away. The next time I got panties was when I was 18 and ordered some from a department store. They were white bikini panties, that I then started buying regularly from department stores – the boxed Playtext panties. This went on for several years – I would buy them from department stores by filling out the order form and waiting for delivery (Ed: Ahh, the Internet is such a blessing for the modern crossdresser)

When I got married I told my first wife and she hid all my men’s underwear to force me to give up panties.  Alas I had to throw them all away, I was in the military and could not wear them 24/7. That did not last long and I went through several buy and purge cycles before finally getting a divorce and being able to keep my underwear. I got remarried few years later (you would think I would learn) and told her up front. The marriage lasted a couple of years and when I wanted to wear woman’s jeans we got a divorce. She said I was not “Man Enough”.

Anyway when I retired from the Military I decided to wear what I wanted.   I kept both men’s and women’s underwear.  I met my partner at local Crossdress Social Club meeting.  She was Pre Op Transsexual and we got married after she had the operation. I have been wearing panties and women’s clothes (jeans, some shirts) since then. Heck, I don’t own any men’s underwear or jeans.   Lane Bryant “Right Fit” are my favorite jeans.

I tried the whole dress up thing – Wig, dress, heels and such.  It just was not me.  I’ve been out in public dressed (to dinner with a group), but I realize that I’m a guy who likes to wear woman’s clothes.

I now have a very supportive wife and live quite happily.  I do the housework (I got hurt in Military during Desert Storm and get VA Disability, SSA and CRDP Pay) so I can do what I want and have enough money to live.

Steve – thank you for sharing your story. It may take a while, but we can all find love and acceptance if we look hard enough.

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I’m passionate about creating a safe space for everyone in the transgender community to find laughter and friendship on their journey. I completed my physical transition in 2011 and through it I lost everything, and gained everything. I am blessed that I was forced to gaze inward and embark on the journey to discover and live my authentic self. My deepest wish is that all who wander here may find peace, happiness and freedom.

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14 years ago

Hello Steve. I’m Ragina. I guess that we could say that we are both brothers and sisters. Brothers in arms (Operation Iraqi Freedom) as well as sisters. My story is pretty similar to your’s I am reitred and on disability so I’m home most of the time and able to dress during the daytime. I enjoy being en femme as much as I can. I’ve never been out as Ragina as yet, but I do plan to soon. Best of all to you and yours this new year. Ragina.

12 years ago

Thank you for that story Steve, I to served in the Gulf, Desert Storm & Desert Shield. I just now found this site, I will have to see about putting my story together. I now work for a School District, that knows I am Transgender (I prefer Androgynous), they don’t mind that I blur gender boundries while at work, and have nominated me 3 times for employee of the year.

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