We find ourselves in the middle of a Medical crisis with everyone running scared, as if the world is about to end. We’ve tended to have the thought that we are somehow above the fray. We are just human beings and not gods. We can get sick and die from an invisible bacteria, germ, or virus like one that spreading around the world today.
But here are a few things to remember about living. We have five senses; sight, hearing, smelling, taste, and touch. Some also include two other minor senses, the sense of space and the sense of danger or fear. We take our senses for granted most of the time, but now that we are in the middle of this pandemic, you should take time out to appreciate these God given gifts. Especially now, when I wake up in the morning, I try to smell the air and take a sip of water so that I can taste it. These two senses are a key in determining if you might have the virus.
As for the other senses, sight is often taken granted; it’s easy to wake up and see things. Well, not so much if you have glasses or contacts and have to put them on, but you know what I mean. But appreciating your sight is important.
The sense of smell is really the one sense that we really don’t appreciate. Unless you have ridden a bike and breathed through your nose, you might not learn to smell and appreciate the scents or aromas around you; the benefits that come from inhaling incense or essential oils, or the scent of rain after a storm, fresh laundry hung out to dry. There was one moment when the sense of smell saved our house back in NJ. The fan behind the refrigerator was blowing out of smoke and we didn’t a fire alarm going off to warn us. I smelled the smoke and then we called the Fire Department. They came and put out the fire. So try to smell more often as it is really a good thing, most animals and mammals use this sense more than their sight.
Next is our sense of taste. We eat, but most of us don’t take the time to relish the taste. We really eat for consumption, for hunger, but if you try to eat for the taste of the food, it’s a different experience. Try to taste your coffee or OJ in the morning, or chew your food and taste the different ingredients, the spices, and the texture and the way being cold or hot makes a difference.
Last of the major senses is touch. Touching someone’s arms or cheeks or lips is such an important part to being human. We take life for granted but now that we are into social distancing, I miss this the most. To have someone there to touch me and to feel their warmth in their hug and the closeness between us is what I miss. So much is conveyed by this sense. It is truly the one sense that connects us as humans. Don’t take it for granted.
I read an article, and the link is provided below that also discusses the sense of space and the sense of fear. I’ll leave those for you to read. The point I’d like to make is that this virus has given us an opportunity to see through all the bad and to be thankful for what is good. It starts with appreciating what our senses are telling us.
This is the story of my transformation and my life as a crossdresser and how I was and who I was a girl or woman.It all started with a fight with a school bully who challenge to a fight at the park near my house and I lost the fight for he was on top on me and had me to being a sissy. I didn’t know what that meant at that time so I look it up and found it what it meant. That began my quest to find out what it felt like to be the opposite sex/gender. I started with my mother’s panties and then I got my own and then on out I started to get my own wardrobe. I have purged quite a few times and the third time being the last time and I got rid of my entire wardrobe in all. But I had all the right stuff, panties, bras and pantyhose and skirts and blouses and high heels and pocketbook and lipstick and makeup. I have wondered it felt to be a woman or the opposite sex gender and got into fantasy and Mistresses and got to services and have called phone sex services quite a few times during my time as Judy. Even written a script for the ladies on the phone out.
I have to gone to Lady Ellen’s Transformation Service to do my pictures two times. Back in the early 2000’s and it was all together I had a few girlfriends and have met a couple times with one or two of them. But have been able to connect with any of them as being mates or partners. Everyone since I have posted my pictures online has told me how good I have looked. Yes it comes quite naturally to me.Why do I crossdress? Well, it began like I said in a effort to understand the opposite sex/gender,
Then I started to feel good about my feminine self aka Judy, which then lead to aspire to be like a good secretary. I prefer blouses and skirts and heels and slips (full) under dresses and heels to anything else. Judy likes to dress up a secretary or a business woman. Even getting out of male clothing is somewhat relaxing to me. Judy is nothing like my male mode of Jay. Judy is my second self and she likes to relax with a blouse and skirt and heels and lipstick and makeup on.
Well gotten into a fight with a bully and then having to admit to being a sissy,at such young age in Jr High School, was quite a shock to the system, for I really was not into the whole lingo and didn’t know what that meant, my curiosity ran amok and I had to find out what that meant. So I did and then another factor entered into my imagination and curiosity took over again, which was what did it feel like to be a girl/woman, how was their world different than mine? So I started to explore those questions and found that women’s clothing was something entirely different and exciting and sexy. Well eventually I went out and bought my own clothes, and exploring my feminine side pretty exciting for my young blooded hormones.
Well I did have a good size wardrobe and have since purged at least three times. No more purges.
In conclusion, I even studied Women’s Studies at Humboldt State University, three different courses dealing sociology and psychology of women. The only man in the classes, they were not pleased with that, but I did all on my own.
Now at 60 yrs old and going on 61 this month, Judy has become a truly unique lady and has fans. I also ran a group project in Business Principles (Women in Management), I seem to know that women would eventually make into the management sphere and most of my working career have had women supervisors and we have gotten along real well.
Well that is Judy’s Beginning .
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Very apt, not just now, but always. We get so wrapped up in our hectic lives that the small things are often overlooked. I also like the comments about us being human, not gods. Some get so used being able to control the world around us that one forgets that we simply part of the whole, and so very mortal. Thank you for a well written article. Amy
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Wonderful words Judy , I too miss the touch , being able to kiss friends hello/ goodbye ….it’s a big thing for me. Your article is so relevant in C19 days & beyond , it’s an opportunity for us all to stop & re- evaluate ourselves …. hopefully for the better Stay safe and healthy
Definitely the lack of touch is the hardest in this time of “stay at home" orders. Can’t wait til we can again go out and I can go to league pool and hug my wonderful friends there Cyn
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Beautifully said. Thank you!
Thanks for reading it and understanding what I meant
what a great post. well written. its all true, we never think about the 5 senses, thank you for posting this well written letter
You are welcome, please do take sense of your senses
Very apt, not just now, but always. We get so wrapped up in our hectic lives that the small things are often overlooked. I also like the comments about us being human, not gods. Some get so used being able to control the world around us that one forgets that we simply part of the whole, and so very mortal.
Thank you for a well written article.
Amy
Wonderful words Judy , I too miss the touch , being able to kiss friends hello/ goodbye ….it’s a big thing for me.
Your article is so relevant in C19 days & beyond , it’s an opportunity for us all to stop & re- evaluate ourselves …. hopefully for the better
Stay safe and healthy
Definitely the lack of touch is the hardest in this time of “stay at home" orders. Can’t wait til we can again go out and I can go to league pool and hug my wonderful friends there
Cyn