Crossdressing is an incurable disease

Search the Internet for “cure crossdressing”, and you’ll find a plethora of web pages telling you that there is no cure for crossdressing. They’ll have this statement in bold, italics, capitalized, as if it were some golden truth to center your life on.

The next thing they’ll do is lambaste anyone for suggesting that it is something that needs curing (surely only diseases need curing?!). I’ll address the second point in a later post. As you can see by my previous post I don’t believe that crossdressing is ‘evil’, ‘wrong’, ‘sin’, or anything of that nature. These judgments are distracting and only serve to allow one group of people to feel superior to another, and cover over flaws they perceive in themselves.

I’ll tackle the question of being ‘incurable’ first.

We have a mistaken notion that because we do not know how something is cured, that it is not possible for there to be a cure. You hear stories every week of people who have been cured from cancer without undergoing any treatment, and often just months after the doctor diagnosed them.

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Hold on, isn’t cancer ‘incurable’? Or at best there is some chance that the treatment we give (chemo) could facilitate a cure (with no guarantees). How then , could these people be cured without any treatment?!
I don’t know how, but I do know that it happened.

If you are a Christian, I have another challenge for you.
Jesus healed the blind man, and he could see again.
Jesus healed the lame man, and he could walk again.
Jesus told us (John 14:12) that we would do even greater things than this if we have faith in Him.
How trivial it must be for Him to cure crossdressing.

Yet in all our ‘wisdom’ and power we prevent this cure. We have more faith in the incurable nature of crossdressing than we do in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Jesus told us (Matt 17:20) that even faith as small as a tiny seed will allow us to move mountains.
It seems it will take much less faith than that for us to cure crossdressing.
So what can you do right now?

If you believe a cure to crossdressing is right for you (see post below):
1. Ask God to cure you
2. Believe that you are being cured
3. Picture who you will be when you are cured (don’t think ‘not a crossdresser’, bring to mind those qualities of your masculinity you’ll treasure when you’re no longer a crossdresser).
4. See yourself as this person. Be this person.
5. Give thanks to God for your new life. Receive the healing.

It may take a while for the cure to manifest itself in your life. Maybe weeks, or months. Continue picturing yourself as the person you’ll be when you are cured. Continue giving thanks to God for your new life.
Don’t keep asking to be cured, you’ve asked once, just believe that you’re receiving the cure. If you keep asking, you’re expressing doubt that you’re actually being cured.

If you need encouragement or support, please leave a comment.

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Mark Freeman
Mark Freeman
13 years ago

Hi, I came across your blog when doing a completely unrelated search on net. I am an ex-crossdresser. Not sure how many of there are as of course once no longer a dresser you tend not to come to these sites. Don't know if cure is the right word but I haven't dressed or thought of dressing for over 11 years now. I managed through self taught, and couple of therapy sessions, in cognitive behavior therapy and also reading a lot on sexual addictionstop thought technique. The reason I went through this process is that I come to point where… Read more »

Sophia Grace
Sophia Grace
13 years ago
Reply to  Mark Freeman

I made it to 11 years too. After the 3rd major depression (first started within 9 months of “quitting") I realized what was missing was bringing me down. My femme side dying was killing me. Now I’m nurturing her I’m feeling a lot better. I wasn’t cured, just in prolonged denial.

Mark
Mark
11 years ago
Reply to  Mark Freeman

Hi Mark
Can you please provide me more details. I find it facinating you seriously contemplated a gender change and have gone 11 years without dressing. Is the urge there at all? I would think its like alcoholism..you don’t beat it…always fighting it.
Mark/Marissa

Emily
Emily
13 years ago

I wouldn't say there is a cure as such, kudos to Mark Freeman who overcame his desire to dress through willpower and therapy sessions, he is right it does take a lot of courage mentally and physically, also thinking about friends and those you love that you could end up leaving behind whichever path you take.
Choose wisely for if you go down the wrong route you could end up not feeling happy with yourself and feel depressed as a result.

Kind regards

Emily

Racquel Lynn
Racquel Lynn
13 years ago

There is no cure for Crossdressing, because Crossdressing itself is a cure. Crossdressing cures Gender Identity Disorder (hate to use the word "Disorder" because that gives a negative implication but that is the term that is given, so…)
Sometimes it may only be a temporary relief from malehood (or femalehood if you are F2M) but think about this. If we all have had these feelings of being feminine and wanting to express that but never once dressed in anything feminine, how tortured would we be by the questions that would go unanswered?

Racquel Lynn
Racquel Lynn
13 years ago
Reply to  Racquel Lynn

When we crossdress, especially in the early stages, we realize the identity that we truely connect with. For some, an occasional dressing up in private is more than enough, for others an occasional day out as the opposite gender will do it. For others the need to live and be recognized as a female is imperative, and then for those, like myself, it is clear that we were meant to be female and need surgery to cure us. Crossdressing can be a cure for some and a treatment for others. By crossdressing, we get to know ourselves by matching visually… Read more »

Racquel Lynn
Racquel Lynn
13 years ago
Reply to  Racquel Lynn

By crossdressing, we each learn what our own individual degree of femininity or transgenderism is. With time we can realize if it is just a fetish/turn on or if it is something deeper and more meaningful. For some, it can be both. Crossdressing can be very relaxing and theraputic if you identify as the hopposite sex, no matter what degree of transgender you are or how far along when you are able to spend a little time as the person you feel you truely are instead of what the world expects you to be, even if you are in the… Read more »

Robert (melodie)
Robert (melodie)
13 years ago

First of all there cannot be a cure for crossdressing as it is NOT a disease caused by some virus or bacteria. It is a state of being and confusion. Some are in denial and are really transgendered. Some may be intersext, but don’t bother to have it checked out medically for fear of the unknown. This last statement I know is true. I have been transgendered since I realized it at age 7. I started wearing dresses at age 11, even though I knew physically I was a boy. I just felt right dressed this way, the way God… Read more »

Ellen Cade
Ellen Cade
13 years ago

I do not believe there is a cure. I have been crossdressing since I was 12. I started with my sisters clothing. It has progressed over the years. After 40, I started going out in public late at night. It feels good to feel the feminine side after trying so hard to stay masculine. It is just hard trying to find the right clothes and wig to make me look presentable.

Thorin25
Thorin25
11 years ago

I believe it is very possible to stop crossdressing. But a cure for it? It depends what you mean by cure. I think you can live a healthy fulfilling life without crossdressing (and without suppressing it and harming yourself). But you may still have the occasional desire for it that you would resist.

I talk about that in this post, that the desires might never leave, but we can still resist them and live a happy life.
http://healingcd.wordpress.com/2012/02/05/healing-doesnt-mean-no-more-temptations/

In this post, I talk about some beginning steps one could take to stop crossdressing for good.
http://healingcd.wordpress.com/2012/03/18/12-steps-to-stop-crossdressing/

Wilson
Wilson
10 years ago

Great article!

Trish
Trish
10 years ago

Thank you for this article. I’m a Christian in my mid-30s and a former cross-dresser. I’ve struggled with it since I was 12 years old. My routine was very odd compared to the usual cross-dresser’s lifestyle…I only dressed fem so I could film myself as I re-enact or mimic a sexy woman being objectified. Bikini contestants and exotic dancers were my favorite role-playing subjects. Since I’m a virgin–yes, it’s true–this was how I justified my lifestyle: if I can’t be with a woman, I’d be my own woman. Admittedly, a lot of my dressing was due to a bit of… Read more »

Staci Andrews
Lady
8 years ago

I went 15 years without cross-dressing and thought I was cured. LOL But once my children left the nest the cross-dressing came back and stronger than ever. In fact I am now thinking of transitioning to living as a woman full-time and have started therapy analysis to see if it is right for me. One may think they are cured but I assure you there is no cure. It will always come back!

Stefanie
Member
Stefanie
7 years ago

Cure I agree its not a disease What is it? I m not sure because its not the same for all. I ve always thought about Deut where it says women and men shall not wear the clothes of the other but that never stuck fir me once I looked deeper in to that scripture. There are all sorts of things that were in that chapter that we no longer adhere to. But something recently has caught my eye… its the sin of sensuality. For me this is way more relevant since i like dressing for the feeling i get.… Read more »

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Kim Paige
7 years ago
Reply to  Stefanie

Stefanie, I’ve arrived at same conclusion, if I’m looking for a religious rationale to suggest cross dressing is wrong; I can’t subscribe to it simply on basis of “a man cannot wear women’s clothing". Not sure about sensual aspect as making it “wrong" either…sensuality is part of the human condition…to me the issue comes back to the the challenge I face embracing a side of me that is “wrong" only in context of how the society I am part of at large perceives it. If there is a sin in this, it’s rooted in deception; I deceive those closest to… Read more »

Stefanie
Member
Stefanie
7 years ago
Reply to  Kim Paige

dear kim
you are right its not that sensuality is wrong but overindulgence in sensuality is a sin
and i had that problem
i think i m doing better because
1 i ve accepted that i am not a freak or a monster because i like wearing clothes that society feels is weong but i feel good in
2 acceptance eliminates shame and self loathing so i dont just dress for erotic pleasure to feel good (because i feel guilty about dressing)
thanks for your comment

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