I imagine few come to this site by accident or innocent curiosity, but instead because they are trying to understand a complicated part of themselves. I also imagine that, without exception, we have all struggled with ourselves over the preceding years to varying extents. Even with today’s heightened media exposure, there will still be some, if not many, who still do so alone and without the recognition and support that sites like this one provide. I know I am not saying anything new, let alone earth-shattering, but my thoughts were prompted by a post I was just drawn to by an online corkboard. The post is entitled: ‘17 Signs I Was Transgender But Didn’t Know It’ and can be read here: http://www.trans.cafe/posts/2016/6/27/17-signs-i-was-transgender-but-didnt-know-it
We all have our own experiences, but I’m guessing that many will find some overlaps with those related by Natalie Egan, and I certainly know some rang very true for me. So much so, that I wanted to bring this article to the attention of others for their reassurance, as well as perhaps to help people appreciate the sort of experiences that have shaped who we are. Please know that I do not feel for a minute that we are victims of circumstance. Far from it, I think we are as we are because that is how nature intended and we gradually come to this realization through our life experiences.
I also think this particular article expresses many aspects of just what it is we crave and love about our femininity, for those of us assigned male at birth. There is also a delightful part where Natalie relates how her sister was at liberty to express her love of hunting and fishing with their dad which, for obvious reasons, Natalie described as ironic. The tide is turning though. Parents are becoming more open to their children playing with toys and wearing clothes more typical of the opposite assigned gender. Society is generally becoming more tolerant of gender variations and people’s desire to express them in public, and many are responding with acceptance, rather than fear or anger.
However, when all is said and done, we each have our own thoughts, doubts, and questions as to how and why we are as we are. Not one of us has the answer, but it is affirming to read other’s experiences of what led them to accept themselves. Perhaps we can also use these stories, along with our own experience, to help others who might be wondering as well. Sometimes the best thing we can do is share resources and stories which have helped us on our journey. We might even be able to give our loved ones someone else’s 17 insights into just what helps us.