Thoughts About Being Transgender

I imagine few come to this site by accident or innocent curiosity, but instead because they are trying to understand a complicated part of themselves. I also imagine that, without exception, we have all struggled with ourselves over the preceding years to varying extents. Even with today’s heightened media exposure, there will still be some, if not many, who still do so alone and without the recognition and support that sites like this one provide. I know I am not saying anything new, let alone earth-shattering, but my thoughts were prompted by a post I was just drawn to by an online corkboard.  The post is entitled:  ‘17 Signs I Was Transgender But Didn’t Know It’ and can be read here:  http://www.trans.cafe/posts/2016/6/27/17-signs-i-was-transgender-but-didnt-know-it

We all have our own experiences, but I’m guessing that many will find some overlaps with those related by Natalie Egan, and I certainly know some rang very true for me.  So much so, that I wanted to bring this article to the attention of others for their reassurance, as well as perhaps to help people appreciate the sort of experiences that have shaped who we are.  Please know that I do not feel for a minute that we are victims of circumstance.  Far from it, I think we are as we are because that is how nature intended and we gradually come to this realization through our life experiences.

I also think this particular article expresses many aspects of just what it is we crave and love about our femininity, for those of us assigned male at birth.  There is also a delightful part where Natalie relates how her sister was at liberty to express her love of hunting and fishing with their dad which, for obvious reasons, Natalie described as ironic.  The tide is turning though.  Parents are becoming more open to their children playing with toys and wearing clothes more typical of the opposite assigned gender.  Society is generally becoming more tolerant of gender variations and people’s desire to express them in public, and many are responding with acceptance, rather than fear or anger.

However, when all is said and done, we each have our own thoughts, doubts, and questions as to how and why we are as we are. Not one of us has the answer, but it is affirming to read other’s experiences of what led them to accept themselves. Perhaps we can also use these stories, along with our own experience, to help others who might be wondering as well.  Sometimes the best thing we can do is share resources and stories which have helped us on our journey. We might even be able to give our loved ones someone else’s 17 insights into just what helps us.

 

 

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  1. Lisa Hardt 3 weeks ago

    Great article and I appreciate your strength and courage. I am new to this so this is very helpful in my transition….thank you so much!

  2. vaishalipriya priya 2 months ago

    I wish to go out side on streets in female dress.i need seeniyar cross dressers help

  3. Kirra 2 months ago

    Oh god, thanx Linda & all of YOU!! Im sitting here cryin my eyes out , but not because of depression, but because Ive had all these feelings mentioned my whole life & was Always so alone in it! Thinkin I was the only weird freak, & Im sick, or fucked up pervert or something!! You dont know how much this all means to me to find Im not so alone after all! I will be posting on here after I calm down, cuz believe me, Ive got Alotta shit to say!! Thank you CDH, thank you so Much!!

  4. anabelle fairytale 2 months ago

    lovely article Linda! I can really relate to what you say about the way you finally came to terms with your identity, and how much time it took!

  5. Jamie's time 2 months ago

    Great article I myself can relate to what has been talked about.When I was growing up I always dreamed that I should have been a female with a lesbian partner since I have been dressing more feminine and doing more things that I enjoy like shopping for women’s clothing at stores I feel so much more comfortable with myself I am so happy to have found CDH and other girls like me.

  6. Rachel Ann 2 months ago

    I am a 71 year old 3rd, year male to female,I have finally got accepted by the NHS. After years of hiding away. I am now becoming the woman I always thought I was. With the help of
    Cheryl from the Estee Lauder make up counter in Boot’s store in Durham City. I now go out with confidence and flair. I am looking forward to the next step what ever it is.

  7. Hi Linda…..great article. All down thru history, man and woman have questioned themselves over why am I like this, why am I here, what is my purpose in life. I have done so as well, never so much as when I was participating in the Vietnam War. No answer was found there nor on my journey along the road to enlightenment. The closest I ever came was when I came across Popeye the Sailor Man…….”I am what I am and that’s all that I am”. We are what we are….and it is best to try not to analyse it too much. Accept ourselves as we are…try to improve but be happy with it. Seek the inner joy and spread same to whomever you can. Embrace the universe….for that is why we are here. Live life to the fullest.
    Be as one with the force.

    Lady Veronica

  8. Ginger 2 months ago

    My journey (like most) has had uncountable twists and turns. Some have been exciting and some reflecting shame. All are a part of the journey.

    As a born male we are groomed to push out secrets down deep, that’s it’s not manly to cry, and that anything out of the “norm” is wrong. It is easier to ignore that part of that sets us aside and makes us uniquely female.

    When all is said and done, at the end of the day, I’m most comfortable dressing in pretty things and experimenting with make up and other girlie joys. I enjoy being a girl on her way to becoming a woman.

  9. Holly G 2 months ago

    Thanks for sharing Linda. I really enjoyed your article and the linked article. Like you I was finding many similarities with her which was rather interesting.

  10. *skippy1965(Cynthia) 2 months ago

    Lovely article, Linda! I am most definitely still in the “figuring myself out” phase but enjoying the journey!
    Cyn

  11. Gisela Claudine 2 months ago

    Thank you for sharing, Linda. Although we can go in different paths, we are in the same journey.
    Gisela.

  12. Leonara 2 months ago

    Thank you Linda for the detailed analysis that I am sure we can all use..
    to quote you which is so true “when all is said and done, we each have our own thoughts, doubts, and questions as to how and why we are as we are. Not one of us has the answer, but it is affirming to read other’s experiences of what led them to accept themselves”. That is what the CDH site is all about… on behalf of the ladies here , thank you … Looking forward to more of your articles…Leonara

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