Hello everyone. My name is Kris, and I am a crossdresser.
I know it sounds like an introduction that one might give at a 12-step program meeting. Where a person might go to overcome the demon of addiction. Some have even gone so far as to refer to their crossdressing inclination as an addiction that they wish they could cure. I am not one of them. For me, crossdressing is very much an integral part of my psychological wellbeing. I am also very much a beginner, a newbie-having only begun my CD journey about a year and a half ago…
…at age 69.
When others discuss their CD journey, I mention my late start, and I often hear the response, “What a late bloomer!” or “What took you so long?” I suppose it seems like that, and for a time, I thought my story was well outside the norm, but I know now that it is hardly unheard of.
The vast majority I’ve talked to have related tales of their dressing going back to their childhood. For whatever reason, I had no crossdressing experiences as a child or teen, and I can honestly say the thought never even crossed my mind. In fact, I did not have any experience at all until age 29. One evening I “jokingly” tried on one of my wife’s nightgowns. We both got a good laugh out of it, and she asked if I liked it. I said no, but I was lying big time. I loved it! Exhilarated and yet taken aback by my exuberant reaction, I did not do such a thing again for several years. I will confess that during this moratorium I often desired to explore my awakened proclivity, and after a few years, I had several private skirmishes with some of my wife’s pantyhose and a particularly lovely yellow dress. It would soon stop though, as I felt I had fallen into a kind of fetish and was behaving in a manner that was way over the top.
Ah, where is that nightgown and yellow dress now that I can fully appreciate it!
It would be at least 30 years before I would experiment again while my wife was out of town. This time I acquired some garments of my own; pantyhose, panties, some inexpensive heels, and a kimono robe, which I still have. The fact that they were my own garments seemed to seal the deal. I experienced the sensual pleasure and euphoric release described so accurately by many, except as a retired 69-year-old educator, father of two adult children with a wife of 41 years rather than as a teenager. Still, there seems to be a common a pattern that many of us share no matter when we began. The early beginnings and attractions (my wife’s clothes, she was and is a very stylish dresser), a period of clandestine and sporadic experimentation (with some of my wife’s garments), a period of denial (30+ years in my case), followed finally by full acceptance of active crossdressing (for me when I acquired garments of my own).
At last I had embraced what was in my psyche for many years, probably implanted long before the nightgown incident. As I analyze it (in an amateur, armchair way of course) it seems my experiences are much the same as those who began as youngsters. The only difference was age and the time in between. In short, it just took me a longer time to come around… a lot longer.
Some might regret the time lost, squandering the years when one might have the best possible physical appearance and the best “canvas” upon which to “paint” a persona and presentation. I am not in that number either. Despite FaceApp showing me what the possibilities might have been, I am undaunted. In fact, I seem to have found a very significant positive. I have not experienced the guilt/shame syndrome which plagued so many of us in their younger years, some for their entire life. My only significant concern was how my wife would react, but I came out to her right away-well, within a week or two, as I could not handle the stress at all. As such, I avoided most of the deception, which appears to be the most damaging component to marriages. My wife had a period of adjustment to be sure, but it was not a contentious one. She has become quite accepting, even participatory up to a point, and has done much to tutor me in the dark art of makeup application.
I know I am one of the lucky ones, and as she puts it, as long as I don’t try to pass myself off as a female at the local police officer’s ball, everything should be fine.
There also have been some positive side effects. I have found crossdressing has a wonderful “youthening” quality, which I experience every time I dress. In many respects, I’m like an exuberant little kid who has found something totally new, exciting and, yes, a bit edgy. I am devoid of a “been there, done that” attitude that can sometimes seep into the things we enjoy as we become older. Learning how to use makeup is a big one for me. The experimentation with mascara, eyeshadow, blush, and techniques such as a 12-year-old girl might partake. I also enjoy selecting outfits that match not only in color but in aesthetics, perhaps even pushing the boundaries of “age appropriateness.” Crossdressing has also rekindled an interest in photography, which I enjoyed many years ago. I want to present the best image possible visually. Combining crossdressing with photography adds another layer to what I and many others consider being an artistic pursuit. For me, the most exciting aspect of this has been in applying my fledgling skills by going into the community En-femme, thus bringing my alter ego–my fantasy persona–into the real world. Even as my male self (a good 99% of the time or more) all of this has given me much more motivation to stay in shape, and the positive benefits for my physical and mental health have been notable.
Soon, I will attend my first conference at Keystone in Harrisburg, PA. I am looking so forward to meeting many of the persons with whom I have been talking and sharing with online, exchanging stories like I have here, and making new friends within our common interest. Perhaps best of all is the fact that I know that the next time I choose to dress, I will experience the sensual euphoria once again.
So, even though my journey has begun late in life, it’s a part of me now, and I’m the better person for it.
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Good for you! Hope you enjoy Keystone and our wonderful sisters. Great to read about your experience.
Thank you Lorraine, and I’m glad you liked my article. Keystone was great, and meeting many of our sisters in person added such depth to our experience!
What a great read Kris, hope you had a fantastic time at Keystone.
Thank you Sherri – glad you enjoyed the article. Keystone was great – I’m looking forward to next year already!
Wonderful story Kris. I too am the VERY late bloomer. My bloom is still trying to open so to speak. Mine is for very different reasons. But I look to hear more from you about Keystone.
HI Gwyneth – and thank you. I’m glad you enjoyed the article. Keystone was incredible, an experience not to be missed. I’ll NEED to go back next year!
Beautifully written Kris. I loved it. You by the way look great. I enjoyed your description of the makeup component of cross dressing, a step I’ve yet to attempt. I’m just a few years older than you so I can easily relate to your mature approach to our beautiful addiction. I don’t mind describing my need to crossdress in those terms. For me it is an itch that must be scratched. Feliz
I’m glad you enjoyed the article Feliz – and could relate! I’m getting more and more into the makeup thing, I’d say try it – it has a great youthening quality as well!
I loved your story, Kris. Thank you for taking the time to write it. I certainly can see a lot of myself in this article, but that’s what makes it so interesting and well written.
Hi Jenn – and I’m glad you enjoyed my article. I’m especially glad that you could relate, and it looks like many could. Such a difference from what I thought just a short time ago – there are many of us late bloomers out there!
That is a stunning photo! Better late than never I would say.
Thank you Eva – and you know, when I’m dressed it doesn’t seem like it’s so “late” at all!
Yes Kris you did start at a young age as most did but your life took its twists and turns which kept this in the background. For most of us there is a time when it becomes something we have to do and yours is at the young age of 69. Your dear wife accepts it and I am sure others in your family will follow as you are still the same person and you look really nice. No matter how long you have waited the time is right to make up for those lost years and enjoy the new… Read more »
I think you are quite right Angela – all of this did start a long time ago, but there ws so much going on I couldn’t address it until recently! I know I’m one of the lucky ones, and I don’t really feel like I’ve lost time – just an increased joy and interest in what is to come! Thank you so much!
Oh kris that was such a lovely story I’m so glad you shared it. I can relate to a lot of the things you talked about. I’m so glad that not only did we get to meet at keystone I felt like we really connected and got to know each other!
HI Alex – I’m so glad you liked the article, and especially glad it had resonance for you! Keystone was wonderful wasn’t it – especially the part where virtual friendships like ours morphed into real world ones. Hope to connect again real soon, all the best to you my friend! ❤
Congratulations, better late than never.
Thank you Roberta – it’s good to be here at last! You know, when dressed it doesn’t feel like it’s so late -I’m too focused on the joy that is to come!
The overwhelming happy atmosphere at Keystone is utterly amazing. It’s like everyone is floating on cloud 9.
hello and good for you. nice to have you here. i am the same way with cross dressing, but i started at age 14 at a school play had to wear tights i was hooked, from there i wanted more, then off and on again then on since then i love dressing up like a female. i do every day i get out of bed is dress up in female cloths then my male cloths over them so no one sees me in a dress or skirt and blouse, but when home i am dressed up, wife knows and is… Read more »
Thank you Lucinda, I am glad you found my article something you could relate to. Although all of our stories are different there still is a commonality between them, that’s what makes them so interesting for all of us!