Time to update
At the end of last year, as I was looking at my public photos on CD Heaven, it dawned on me that they depicted my past CD journey and not how I look in the present.
They had been taken through the years, and sorry to say, I’ve aged. I’m amused at seeing a bio photo that was taken 30 or more years previously and it looks nothing like the person today. Looking at my photos, I had to acknowledge that I was guilty of the same false advertising. So, as a New Year’s resolution, 2024, I decided to switch to more current photos; ones I’ve taken in the last four years.
Ladies, the shocking truth is, that I’ve gone gray, meaning that I’ve purchased several new wigs. The gray wigs go well with my “Mature” face, and I’ve gotten nothing but compliments. They also work much better in public, as I don’t think I’m as closely scrutinized with gray hair. Some of the new wigs are shorter, and it took some time to adjust to them, as they are a new look for me.
I stopped photographing myself every time I dressed long ago. At the time, I did it for my own encouragement, but I no longer need that reassurance. I am out so often now that I can’t be bothered. I am secure in expressing my femininity anywhere that I choose to go.
However, I have found that taking a few photos of me wearing a new wig, a different look, has helped me to adjust to it. The shorter wigs show much more of my face, and so, instead of fretting about them, I’ve decided to embrace the lines on my face. Women my age, over 70, (Yikes!) have age lines.
And, with an older look, I use much, much less makeup. I can go from zero to out the door in less than an hour. (Half of that time is trying to put in my contacts!) I can honestly tell you that it is working very well.
Curiously enough, I find that some people have been acting differently around me now when shopping. On several occasions, a woman has come up to me, out of the blue, and complimented me on my hair or my clothes or said to me, “I wish I could wear that.” For the rest of that day, I’m on cloud nine. I’m never sure if they see me as a crossdresser, probably not at first, but I must look nice enough for them to approach and engage me in conversation. I’m sure the older look sends out a different vibe and perhaps they understand and appreciate the effort that I put into it.
I work at keeping a thin figure, which affects how people potentially judge me. My wardrobe has also matured and the dresses and skirts I buy now are below the knees, midis and maxis, long tunics, leggings, and pant sets. I am not a wallflower and enjoy wearing bright colors and designs, which makes me stand out, and I know this also sends out a visual message.
So, I’ve changed my profile photo to a new short gray look, and I might even venture into pure white in the future. And my longer wigs will be for winter.
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It is good to take stock of how you look and what you wear as you age. Looking back at photos of myself 30 years ago my fashion hasn’t changed a lot nor hair color but there are the tell tale lines on my face. I am in my late sixties and haven’t felt the need to go gray as my G.G. girlfriends still dye their hair and dress age appropriately so I feel comfortable, and also love those compliments especially ones that can’t believe my age.
Let’s keep living the dream Lisa.
Thank you for your story .
LisaNicole…(love your name)…you look beautiful & it’s fabulous; you’ve a lovely “altitude" on the entire subject !!! Your article is so heartening. I’d never know that you weren’t another women shopping with the rest, is just the fact of it, yet either way it’s complimentary. “Hey, you get off of my cloud 9!" Looking after yourself, shows both inside and outside, such a healthy growth of self understanding, true wisdom and looking great from healthful lifestyle. It’s interesting that you mention taking pictures, which I did at times, and at others, not so much. Lately, my gf (into photography) wanted… Read more »
Kyra, Thanks for your comments. I modeled for life drawing, painting and photography classes for 10 years. I also started doing B/W photography when I was 16. I learned how to pose in front of a mirror and the camera. I’ve incorporated my love of portrait photography, bringing out the best in someone, into my own self portraits. I know that I said that I’m going gray, but I’m not getting rid of my older wigs. I have a long, very red, wig which I was never comfortable with and never wore out in public. So, I did a photo… Read more »
Lisa, your pictures are stunning. (your face is so lovely). Oh, that’s so cool, I wish I had (now) some earlier formal experience, (spent time in front of a mirror during time with my 1st SO that supported my nature) as one can see in your pix that the work you did assisted your awareness of your poses/expression; it’s harder than I ever suspected! I get the model’s rant now! lol. (5-6 hours) She takes care of me! And yes, I feel lucky. My gf modeled while in school, so she helps w/direction, (as she adds gothic backgrounds etc.) so… Read more »
I have ventured out to Vietnam ! Rented an apartment, bought a .motorbike to get around, and started dressing in femme in my new world. At first a bit unsure but only to find out, the general acceptance of LGBTQ+ PEOPLE. I see experience gay,ladyboy people but nary one cross dresser except me ! First in house dresses in my apartment building, riding the elevator, hello’s to neighbors in the hallways. All good so far. Eventually across the street to a little coffee shop in day dress, or skirt & tee-shirt, bra, and short wig. A few looks from the… Read more »
Dear Stephanie, What an amazing story. And I thought I was brave. I’ve seen photos of lady boys in Thailand and it does seem to be more acceptable on that side of the planet. Another thought comes to mind. It’s sad that one has to leave home, family, their old life to be accepted in a new one. I did just that, left New York City and came to Arizona. I would not be my feminine self if I did not do that. I created a new life, just as you are doing now. I would never have been able… Read more »
Lisa, i love your animal’. Print jumper. Very bold.
It is a lovely article, Lisa. The relentless time gives me in wisdom what it subtracts me in appearance. You have aged well, my dear. You still look awesome. My grandmother used to say that beauty becomes refined with age.
Gisela
Still looking hot over the years is more state of mind. Looking fabulous is an art form. You my love are an artist! 😍
Thanks Fran. Sorry about such a late reply. It takes a lot of effort, but I think that part of my success is that I don’t try to look like I’m 20 years younger. I don’t use any thick makeup and am blessed with a nice complexion. I just wish that I had started using night cream when I was 20.
I can understand dressing age appropriate.I am 50 and have always dressed to try and blend in and look like a woman.Not a drag queen.I have gone with a shorter wig recently and actually really love it!I would like to stay blonde for a while and I’ve always been attracted to larger women.So much that I’ve actually put on weight and sort of become what I love.I have become pear shaped and dress everyday.Go out all over and nothing stops me!I want to slide into my 50’s as a mature gaining bbw.Thanks for listening all.
Lisa: you have recognised that you are getting older – so are we all. What you seem to have missed is that you are still gorgeous! None of us are quite what we were – quite definitely my case – but beauty is eternal and you had it, have it and will have it! Accept that – and luxuriate in the fact, seeing as you are one of the few who will be able to say so!!! Holly XXX