Hi. I’m Robin. I’ve been crossdressing off and on since my early teens and only recently have I come out about it to a few select friends. I’ve never fully understood my desire to be girly. Part of it, I think, is that women’s clothes always seem to be more vibrant and sexy than anything I’ve ever found in the men’s department. That and that I’ve never felt quite confident as a man.
One of those with whom I recently shared my secret with is my fiance. I was sure that it would be the end of things, yet felt she needed to know. Much to my surprise and delight, she likes this about me and has even begun helping me to perfect my look. While I still have a long way to go so as to be the woman I want to be, it is so much easier now that I’ve got such a warm and caring woman in my life to help me. I’m thinking that this site will also be of great help to me, so thank you for creating it.
Isnt it funny how initially our SO’s often support and are interested enough to participate in our dressing, but after a short while they freak out and say they dont like it anymore. I wonder if they either see us as somehow diminished or is it their own persona that they are worried about (“I love my husband, he wears a dress and looks like a woman so does that make me a lesbian?" sort of thing). Does the idea that they love a part time woman scare them? Or is it just the coming to terms with their multi… Read more »
I wonder with time do they start to accept it or does the idea push them away from acceptance?
Hi Sarah! I have had a similar experience. I told my wife of my crossdressing shortly after we started dating. She was very supportive and even bought me a skirt and blouse as a wedding gift, We had a girls day out on our honeymoon, but being young and fearful, I limited our outing to driving around and private places. We have been married for 30+ years, but she has been unsupportive for the last 20 or so years. so I am more in the closet than before we met because now my dressing is limited to sheer support hose… Read more »
That’s what worried about. Will she run from acknowledging what she liked about me now that I have given it name? Desiree. I’m still waiting.
My wife loves when im Kylie our housemaid. She has just purchased a beautiful see through frenchmaids dress for me to do my chores in . My beautiful wife buys all my underwear ,make up ,shoes, wigs dresses ect.ect. I love my life since i came out to my wife. I am much more relaxed in body and mind when kylie is here.
Just told my wife she has been supportive
We ll see in the long tun what happens
Thank you ladies for sharing your experiences. I am bi/gender fluid and have been on and off dressing for a number of years (10+). I have always struggled with why I want to dress and struggle more finding acceptance when I dress. Finally I recently started finding on line communities like this one. Ready through each of your experiences (positive and negative) and relating to so much of it I have stopped trying to deny how much I love to be fem. One of the take always from these forums is that the longer people waited to accept themselves and… Read more »
Chrissy be patient with her. It may be that its a lot to take on and quite and adjustment. Take it slow and steady. If she comes round it may take years, or it may only take months. She may appreciate a shopping buddy or maybe she wont. Either way take the moments you can for you and invest the others in her. If it works out you win and if not you have no regrets for having not tried.
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Thanks for the words of encouragement/support Sarah.
This was a nice and wonderful article. I am glad your future wife is so understanding. Sadly, in my experiences and travels that is not always the case. Many women i have encountered don’t like there men CDing. This makes them uncomfortable and in some ways betrayed. I understand the betrayal feelings. Many women marry men to be with men not a man in women’s cloths, many women would say. I don’t hold it against any gender woman that feels this way. I understand there doubt and confusion. For me, my wife doesn’t know. I dont think she would accept… Read more »
she’s a keeper. I was married to a wonderful woman who I shared my secret with for 38 years. She too was understand and supportive. Because I open up to her it made us grow even closer together. She was my soulmate.
You are a very lucky girl to find such a woman. My wife is tolerant of my dressing but not supportive. I am semi retired and spend about two days a week at home being a housewife. Although my wife would prefer I didn’t dress she likes the fact that I like to go shopping, exercise to keep my weight off and much appreciates that the housework is done. Sometimes she shows her appreciation by buying me little things like lip stick or nail polish. You definitely have a keeper there.
Glad you came out to your fiance. My girlfriend turns out to be dominant while I am the submissive. I told here that I like to wear womans clothing after 30 days and she has always been supportive. Very few bisexual women can have their man and be a woman too, its a treat. She is helping me through my transition as she see the androgynous side to my figure. Hope everything works out. Cheers!
Hi, i have a similar story. I was with my girlfriend for 1.5 years when i told her i would like to try out pantyhose just to see what it feels like. She was surprised about my wish but was ok with it. Note that i tried pantyhose the first time when i was 13 and this was not actually my first time. And after another 2 years with the same gf i wear pantyhose and tights all the time and i am not ashamed of it. But the thing is, when nobody is arround i like to wear pantyhose… Read more »
i have been very careful to let my girlfriends/wives know who and what i am from the start. My first marriage did not stand up well to that and my current partner is tolerant but not really accepting. most of that is from my bisexual side as that comes out strong when i dress and although we played together many times early on after some bad expieriences where the guys i was dating wanted her to the point of obsession she set boundaries which we do not cross. i get to do my thing but do not tell her or… Read more »