Although we love women’s clothing, we know that we can’t always wear them – especially when we’re away from home and in environments where crossdressing is taboo …
An interesting tip for outwear is to wear satin shirts – a very feminine fabric but that is not taboo for men.
But there is a type of women’s clothing that you can wear discreetly and secretly in (almost) all environments … lingerie!
Yes, unless you go through a demanding metal detector and do not take certain precautions, no one will know that you are wearing panties and bra under your men’s clothing.
Let’s talk first about how you can replace monotonous underpants with beautiful panties in your day-to-day.
Since you are a man, at least in those moments, you wear baggy pants – that is, the risk of panties marking your pants is less. But you need to be careful with the fit of the pants – very wide pants can expose your panties, either because the pants are “falling” or if you bend down (to catch an object that fell on the floor, for example).
To avoid this, wear pants with a perfect fit and a belt. Also avoid bending over. The easiest panties to wear without anyone knowing you have then on are any panties made of microfiber. The fit just like a second skin, are sexy, and extremely comfortable.
Now, let’s talk about the bra.
When I first tried a bra at age 12, I even went to school a few times wearing a bra on very cold days and with a couple of layers of clothing on top.
A bra is a hard part of feminine clothing to hide. Of course, you won’t be able to wear T-shirts with any transparency or ones which are very thin, unless you want them to discover your “secret” under men’s clothing.
Color is important if you are trying to conceal a bra as well. You should prefer colors close to your skin tone.
Lace bras also deserve care. See if your blouse is not marking the relief of the lace.
The ideal is to wear simple bras (bralettes) without hooks and that the strap adjusters are in a place where they cannot be seen or touched.
If someone eventually embraces you they may not be able to feel the bra so try to check in the mirror to see which is the best position for the adjusters.
The pandemic at least prevents physical contact and can help with that type of situation.
There are even bras with straps without adjustment which can also be an option.
On colder days, you can even risk a model with adjustable straps and hooks – the various layers of clothing that you will wear over the top will help you.
There is also the possibility that you may have an accident or become sick outside the home. If doctors and nurses need to take your clothes off and discover your secret, they may even think this is funny, but never ridicule it in front of other people. Health professionals must follow a strict code of ethics and violating it has serious consequences for them.
In fact, these days you can even wear pantyhose, it will be amazing!
On very hot days, you will have to look for a very discreet color of hose or just wear panties, which is already a way to practice underdressing.
Before leaving, check in front of the mirror if you can see any detail of your bra.
When you are dressed in men’s clothing, remember that these are wider than women’s and therefore hide the lingerie better.
Try to use beautiful pieces that you like. The important thing is that YOU know what you are wearing, and that can make your day more beautiful and happier!
There is nothing better than wearing a beautiful lingerie, wearing much more beautiful panties than your underwear and feeling the permanent embrace of a bra.
Have you ever worn lingerie outside the home?
Do you have a habit of underdressing inside and /or outside the home?
How do you feel wearing panties and bra under men’s clothes?
I hope you enjoyed this article and I’m curious to know what you think and your answers.
Sincerely
Marie Claire
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@Marie Claire I dunno. I paint toenails, wear pretty socks and undies, not really lace, but I also have to wear very hardy outerwear.Satin shirts would never work for me. I don’t judge anyone, I wish we could all dress how we need to anywhere we want. I just think that I, personally, just dress in what the day demands, and I shed it when I get home as fast as possible to wear what I need to wear for myself. I sometimes, and this is illogical, think about getting my clothes cut of if I’m in an accident. I… Read more »
I understand your opinion.
@Siobhann Finnigan Overthinking everything like I do. I have worn lingerie below a top layer, but also was worried what happened if I was in accident. Nevertheless, I still do it, even if it is just for minutes when shopping groceries.
Am really enjoying this topic and wearing my favourite panties is helping me have a good day despite the dreary weather!! Love to all x
I’m glad you enjoyed it!
Thanks!!
I havve no male underwear just lots of panties and thongs and most with lace. i do wear bras too daily if not going somewhere where I will have to underdress like the gym. In cool weather have nylons (pantyhose or thigh hi under pants just for comfort and staying warm. all good tips Marie about being careful who you hug with a bra on under that skirt
Congratulations!
Thanks!
It is important for me to wear feminine items that are externally visible to everyone so that they can see that I am a feminine male.
Not everyone has reached this “nirvana" yet – neither have I!
@Jamie Johnson I’m still waiting to take a big step outside, but when I wear a bra under my shirt for work I’ve started to leave a strap exposed, it may not seem much but I couldn’t have done this 6 weeks ago without the help and love of the wonderful ladies ok this forum
Hi everyone
I wear panties or Japanese style bloomers underneath my guy clothes almost every day depending on the weather and season. I know many are “all or one” when it comes to crossdressing and I respect that.
I prefer to undress as I can dip into both my masculine and feminine sides as I don’t really consider myself a crossdresser
I wear Japanese style PE Bloomers in the fall and wintertime because of how they retain heat especially in the stomach area.
I wear panties especially in the spring and summer months when it’s warmer
@Ichiro Kobayashi That’s wonderful Ichiro!! I am happy that you enjoy it.
Good! Try on a bra too!
@marieclaire2
thank you and I have however bras aren’t for me. I’ve tried wearing bras with panties but they don’t work well for me(and yes I had the right size for me). Oddly enough bras make me feel fat (I’m a pretty fit person) and uncomfortable. I’m just a panties (and Japanese bloomers) type of person, but thank you for the suggestion….
If you want to wear women‘s underwear, like panties, but are concerned with something peeking through or giving it away, you can always go with women‘s briefs or thongs from Calvin Kline (or similar). They share fabrics and design elements with the versions for men, and therefore not immediately distinguishable. They are not satin or typical lingerie, but I still feel the difference, feel the femme, feel the joy 🙂
Nevertheless, if possible I go all in with stockings and a belt 😍
Good idea!
Underdressing for me is the only opportunity I have to gain some idea of what it is (or perhaps was) like to spend a long period and do a lot of things while wearing women’s underwear. I have been able to do this mainly when away from home and staying in hotels. In winter, with sweaters, jackets, raincoats, etc. there is zero chance of anything showing and, apart from being hit by a bus, nothing much to worry about. In those circumstances i have worn all kinds of girdles – high-waist, very firm, corselettes,panty girdles etc – with stockings or… Read more »
Very good!
Since you travel, is there any chance that you could dress and go exploring while at a hotel? Quite a few members describe doing just that while out of town.
@Harriette That’s my goal when I go to France next week , just a bit nervous if they open my bags at eurostar for a search !
Not any more. Age – and appearance – are definitely against me!
You might surprise yourself what you can do. Give it your best shot. What are they going to do? Deport you? 😄
@Paula Dene You are so right x
@Marie Claire Great topic. I myself am a daily underdresser outside the home. My entire wardrobe from the waist down is from the ladies section. I think the key to being stealth/unnoticed, is how one blends traditional male clothing with our more feminine wear. For instance, I typically wear women’s skinny high rise jeans with a male polo top. The advantage to the guys polo is, that they are generally a bit longer so the crotch area and approximately 1/2 of my tush is mostly covered. I never worry about panty lines and I pretty much wear whatever I like.… Read more »
So interesting!
@Audrey W I take things a bit further and wear whatever androgynous looking tops that I can find in the women’s section. The choice is limited, true, but, given enough time, you will find something that works.
@Harriette Hi Harriette I’d love to do that myself. Unfortunately for wearing anything other than women’s athletic tops like something from Under Armour or Adidas which I actually do wear and can get away, my shoulders chest and especially my arms are just too muscular to fit into most women’s tops. Anything that would fit my upper body would be way to large in the waist area and just not look right. Lately I’ve been contemplating cutting back on the weights and letting my upper body atrophy a bit, but I’m not sure I want to go that route at… Read more »
In the last 34 years I have worn male underwear less then 5 times. I daily wear panties and most days I wear a bra at least part of the day. I just discovered women’s tank tops that I wear when I can’t get away with wearing a bra. Get out there and underdress. Once you start you won’t want to or be able to stop.
Tracy
@Tracy H Totally agree with that last sentiment! X
Good idea!
Marie, Thank you for your 2021 article on underdressing. As a newby lady here, have just had the delight to read it! For the past week and one half I have been underdressing most days and thrilled to do so. At home I unbutton my shirt down so that there is a hint of my bra showing and my ‘pearl’ necklace shines. I also unbutton my drab cuffs and fold them back to give a more girly feel and look. Love, Dee