I saw an ad for an online university and one particular line stood out to me. The announcer’s voice was trying to be encouraging when he said, “Talent is evenly distributed, but opportunities are not.” As I heard those words, I realized that while they SOUNDED good at a glance, they were in fact, patently untrue! If they WERE, then I would have the basketball expertise of Michael Jordan, the intelligence of Einstein, the voice of Celine Dion, and the body of Cindy Crawford….all clearly NOT the case. Talents, skills, and attributes are not and never WILL be evenly distributed.

Similarly, opportunities vary widely for different people. This can be due to economic status, geographic location, family dynamics, genetic inheritances, and hundreds of other factors. We as a society strive to provide opportunities to as many folks as possible to help them overcome the obstacles they face in achieving their dreams. But there will always be inequalities here as well.

What then can we do to achieve our dreams-whether they are fame, fortune, a good job, a loving family, or being true to our authentic selves? As I thought about it, I realized that the key difference between those who succeed in their quest, despite the obstacles placed before them, and those who fail, despite their inherent advantages, is in the attitude and effort they exhibit. When faced with a disadvantaged position (such as growing up in a broken home or in a poor neighborhood or being physically handicapped…. Or being transgendered), that each could choose one of two attitudes.

First you could decide that you are a victim-of fate, of societal forces, or just plain bad luck. But that attitude just leads you to wallow in self-pity and does nothing to help you achieve your dreams. This is not limited to those who are truly disadvantaged either. Even those with a lot going for them can lose it all or fail to achieve their goals because they don’t put in the effort-choosing to seek out pity despite their favorable circumstances, feeling as if they still don’t have as much as someone else does.

OR… you can decide that you WILL succeed despite your circumstances. With effort and a positive attitude, many folks have overcome incredible hardships to capture their full potential and succeed beyond their wildest dreams. They see their obstacles as opportunities, the chance to become stronger by overcoming their struggles. In doing so, they inspire others to follow their example. No one denies that inequities exist, but by achieving your goals through hard work, you can help illuminate those inequities to the world-a world that despite what some might say to the contrary, DOES have the capability of changing attitudes for the better.

So as I navigate my journey toward an as yet unknown destination, I choose to celebrate my uniqueness, to work my hardest at overcoming any obstacles life confronts me with, and to try to inspire others to do the same. And maybe, just maybe, together we can change the world!

Cyn

With apologies to Teddy Roosevelt for re-writing his quote “It’s Not the Critic Who Counts”-one of my dad’s favorite quotes.

It’s not the critic who counts; not the woman who points out how the crossdresser gets read, or where the person who left her home dressed could have looked better. The credit belongs to the woman who is actually in the arena, whose makeup is slightly smeared from nervous perspiration; who dares go out into the world; who fails to pass, coming short again and again, because there is no venturing out without initial failures and fiascos; but who actually DOES try and pass in the world; who knows great joy at going out dressed; working hard on her outfit and deportment; who gives her all in reaching for the stars; who at the best is accepted by the world as female ; and who at the worst, if she fails, at least fails while daring to reach her dream, so that her place will never be with those timid souls who hide at home and never try.

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The Original Cyn, or OC for short. Cynthia is from Richmond Virginia, she crossdresses every day (lucky gal!) and has a knack for tracking down niggling technical issues so we can fix them. She is also on a journey of self-examination to figure out where her feminine journey will lead her, and is always willing to talk with others about their feelings and questions or her own.

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fiona moss
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Hi Cyn, I agree with everything you say. There are two types of people, the do’ers and non do’ers. Do’ers do not take no for an answer, they strive to get on and do their level best to succeed. The non do’ers on the other hand, wallow in their own self pity and expect everything to be done for them. I think most of us here have had issues in our lives that were not good, me included, but does it make you stronger or weaker? that is up to you. Life really is what you make of it. I… Read more »

Char
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Victims or Creators haha and some are workin on opening the curtains, and that’s a victory too! Doing nothing is a choice. . .until you Decide, to do something… 🙂

Mona
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Really great article Cyn – thanks so much for sharing it (and your wonderful self) with us. I particularly like your variation of the Teddy Roosevelt quote – well done and so applicable here! Hugs and kisses, Mona

Tina Caffero
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Everyone has a time. Very often there aren’t two people that have the same issues in their life. Advantages we all have, most with a large variable. Non are the same. There are things that are important to some that aren’t to others. And self-sacrifice has its own rewards. I help people every day that don’t do things right. Either they don’t know how or there lazy. or possibly they really don’t comprehend the just of the problem and don’t want to admit to it or talk about it. I did that for 40 yrs before I had a computer.… Read more »

Sidney Silver
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Lovely sentiments all around Cyn. I align closely with what you talk about.
I try to encourage myself and others to go about life joyfully, with intent and purpose.
Thank you for writing and sharing.

Char
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Beautiful Dear!! You know, I was thinking again hahaha we write here and share here an done day a year we all show up for a parade,,,I agree so much with what you’ve said here Cyn, i think that there needs to be a buss load of beautiful souls, maybe one per state, and province, like us travelling around, being seen in restaurants, road side burger joints, shopping malls and government front lawns , being respectful, dressed respectful, speaking respectful and “showing” people that they have nothing to fear of us. I think, the more we’re out there, the sooner… Read more »

Gisela Claudine
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A great article Cyn. I love it. Very inspiring. I am able to extract valuable lessons from this emotional text. Life does not feel the obligation to be fair. Never feel sorry for yourself. Never give up. Keep fighting. If you fall take it as a lesson and learn from it. When you struggle you can become strong. In perseverance, there is usually the difference between succes and failure. Have high-flying dreams and never surrender. You are unique. Thank you Cyn.
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Cynthia you are a very nice and kind person . I love talking with you , happy to be a friend . hope you are here for a long time to come . Loves and hugs

Anne Preuss
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Wonderful article Cynthia. I truly agree with all of your expressed sentiments. I think the best gift a parent can pass along to their child(ren) would be the disposition of mind that they as individuals are ultimately, in the end, mainly responsible for where they end up in life. Certainly we are influenced by external and internal forces beyond our control, but it is up to the individual to make choices, be they good or bad, that are the primary influencers of how their life turns out.

Sandi Santora
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Been there, done that! Well written.

Jackie
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Cyn you have again give us an inspirational note/article. I love it and love the new photo. I’ve said it before, you rock. I have allot of respect for you. Keep em comin, Jackie…..

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