Your typical male crossdresser will occasionally wear woman’s clothes. Perhaps a single article of clothing, such as pantyhose or a bra. Or perhaps he’ll go all out and get dressed up, even wearing makeup and a wig. Some of us go to the next level in our quest to…
Pass as a genetic woman
I felt I had to write that in large font. In my mind I hear those words echoing like the booming voice of a fake god on a cheesy television show. As if passing is a judgement we must face, a test we must pass or face the crossdressing shame of ridicule.
Okay, enough melodrama for one post. I was thinking about some woman who go further, perhaps permanently or semi-permanently altering their appearance. To put forth a more convincing feminine appearance, or perhaps to feel the luscious covering of feminine silkiness throughout the day.
Personally, I have pierced my ears, and have had laser hair removal on my face and most of my body. I used to wear my hair long, before my wife lovingly convinced me that she preferred to see me as a man every once in a while 🙂 Same story with my nails, though to tell you the truth once they got much longer than a quarter inch it became tough to do everything things as easily. I get my eyebrows waxed on a fairly regular basis in a high arching feminine style, and make sure to moisturize regularly.
That’s a few of the things I do to go ‘above and beyond’. I don’t take hormones, which would probably help my femininity even more. I try to incorporate feminine movement and voice tips, such as those in this crossdressing how to, though I’m not as diligent as I could be.
What permanent or semi-permanent changes have you made to your body, voice or mannerisms to appear more feminine?
Which change were you most apprehensive about?
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I’ve moisturised for as long as I’ve been shaving. I think I tried after-shave the once, but as Golumn once said: “Aaah, it burns! It burns!" So never again 🙂 I have very short hair now although in my teenage years it was very long (it was the 80s). I’ve never had my ears done and while I think it would be a change to wear different styles of earrings, I’m in bloke mode more than not, so I don’t bother. I don’t like my nails to be too long because, as you say, they get in the way of… Read more »
Hehe, indeed 🙂
When I got my ears pierced a few years back I thought everyone would a. notice and b.freak out. Neither actually happened, and while it was a moment of courage to go into the local Claire’s and get them pierced it opened up the “world of earrings" to me 🙂
Hugs,
Vanessa
P.S. I did figure out how to type with longer nails (~ 1/4 inch) by keeping my fingers nearly horizontal to the keyboard, it made a pleasant clack, clack sound as I typed.
Hi,
I usually try to help loved ones and friends. For example, shopping can be a major issue and it’s hard to find small boutiques that feel comfortable helping “us." So, i’ve found a few sites that are welcoming and if you call their offices they are very sweet, compassionate and understanding to the taller cross dresser.
kathrynkerrigan.com for shoes
katclothing for clothes
I’m freaked out by my cross dressing bf. I’m ready to leave him
but I love him too much! help me.
Hi Wendy, Can you tell me a bit more about you boyfriend? When did he first tell you he was a crossdresser, what does he share with you? It’s only natural to feel a bit shocked and overwhelmed the first time you find out that the one you love is a crossdresser. For many crossdressers it is one of the first times they’ve told someone else, and they’re feeling both vulnerable and elated at the same time. This may mean that he will go a bit faster than you would like, perhaps showing you more of his crossdressing side than… Read more »
If you truely love him, then you shouldn’t leave him over this. At least give it a try. It may take some or alot of getting used to, but if you love him, and you take the time to get to know his feminine side, chances are that you will wind up loving him even more. Rejection is common for crossdressers and others in the many facets of the transgendered community, but what is also very commonly found is that most people, even if they are turned off by it at first or have a hard time accepting it (Friends,… Read more »
addresses same woman those help of crossdresser their ph.no.
Hi Wendy, I remember “coming out" to my wife – it was very hard on both parties and, to be honest, still is. I love her, she loves me, the bit that’s hard for her is that the me she loves incorporates the “female" part of me, without that I wouldn’t be the me she loves (hope you got that bit!!). Once the cat is out of the bag, it can never go back in and I do sometimes “assume" she’s more ok with it than she is – I realise when the caustic comments come out followed by “I’m… Read more »
Rachel, you bring up a good point on assuming that sometimes she’s more okay with it than she actually is. I find this sometimes myself, and I need to be careful not to assume it’s okay. Sometimes wearing makeup or women’s clothes in public will make my wife upset. If I’m not paying attention she’ll get upset because I didn’t notice she’s upset. I guess she has the right to expect woman’s intuition if we’re dressed as women, huh? 🙂
My wife was the first person I came out to, other than a couple of friends in high school. She was amazing and very supportive and actually loved it. I told her before we got married that I was a crossdresser and I also wanted to have a sex change and she still married me. We divorced after almost 10 years because of financial problems, not anything to do with my gender issues. I really did not think I would find anyone else like her that would want to be with me and accept me, much less support me and… Read more »
I am growing my hair long as I have straight hair and will look really good when its longer.I will have it combed back during the day and let it down at night when I dress up.I have ALWAYS wanted real long hair and now I am gonna let it grow as i love the feeling of hair running down the sides of my face.By this time next year it will be near the length I want it and may get blonde highlights as I am a brunette.Since I have been using conditioner more often it has been growing like… Read more »
Nice Kelly! I’m growing out my hair as well – blonde highlights are tremendous fun!
As I have often said, I do not even try to “pass"., I am simply a man who likes the feel of women’s clothing. OTOH, I grow my hair long, but that is because, once every two years or so, I have it cut, and send it to locks o love, to be made into wigs for children undergoing chemotherapy. I feel it is an inexpensive and painless way to give back to society, as I feel we all should whenever we can. So right now, my hair is at that disgusting lenth where it is too short to tie… Read more »
I had my ears pierced when I was 18. It was the 80’s and I was into the rock scene, so I started out under the cover that they earrings and eyeliner (and yes, even some of the clothing) was all part of the rock and roll thing, but the underliing truth is that I knew I wanted to be a girl and adopted a very feminine, yet still rock and roll appearance. (that was the wonderful thing about the 80’s was that I could somewhat crossdress right in front of people without any of them knowing I was crossdressed.… Read more »
I just feel at ease wearing something feminine
It just makes me feel so clean and relaxed.
For me it is all in the mind since the body I was born with doesn’t match who I am inside (445 COGIATI) so I dress when I can and dream about maybe coming back as the bi woman I am in the next life ( if reincarnation is a fact). Until then I do all I can to live as the woman I really am with the means available to me. I even find my self with crushes on lesbian women and have major vagina and breast envy. Best wishes to all of my sisters on this wonderful website.… Read more »