Last night my wife and I were watching the episode of Boston Legal where Clarence – the otherwise shy unassuming lawyer who enjoys crossdressing in his spare time – enters a singing competition as his alter ego Clarice. We watched the dramatic transformation – his feminine persona shone radiantly with confidence when she set foot on stage. Singing, dancing and shaking her booty with freewheeling abandon. As if crossdressing psychology had dazzled her mind and switched her personality.
After the show my wife asked me a question which got me thinking about my crossdressing personality. Am I more confident and outgoing when dressed as Vanessa? Does my personality change in ways not easily explained by being more feminine?
What Is My Crossdressing Personality?
When I put on my makeup, heels and hose I become more feminine, more outgoing, more confident, more excitable, less contemplative, less uncertain and more open to being vulnerable. When I’m in male mode I’m constantly worried about what people will think of me. I try to be perfect, to not offend anyone, I shape who I am to fit into the person I believe others want me to be. When the transvestite inside of me comes out I realize that I’ve probably already offended some people. I don’t mold myself to their expectations, but find myself free to be who I am inside.
It’s a strange balance. I find myself less interested in what others think about me and more interested in them. Even a light dusting of makeup and a feminine mindset will find me chatting with cashiers in the checkout line, willing to share a piece of my day and eager to hear a bit more about theirs.
In truth I like who I am when I’m crossdressed. I think that if there was socially acceptable cross dressing more people would feel comfortable expressing a different side of themselves. We may even find that crossdressing psychology is sometimes the best kind of psychology.
What Is Your Crossdressing Personality?
Does your experience mirror mine? Think about what it’s like when you’re the woman of your dreams. Who do you become when you’re dressed?
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I become very cheerful and relaxed when i dress up as a girl as the fun I have changing into different outfits is just addicting as i love it sooo much. Trying to pick out the outfit I will wear to this years halloween party is a challenge as there are so many combinations I could put together. I also know if i go and look really cute that others might think I am a secret crossdresser as I could care less.
I feel very relaxed and more myself, im happyer more out going and full of confdince. i hate haveing to go to work dressed as a man but im still working my way out of the closet and working to become more passable.I will not be truly happy untill i am. most of my friends dont know the girl in me and im so scared ill lose them if they knew.
Likewise, it’s a struggle to present at work as someone you’re not. It’s great that you’ve found acceptance in who you are though Krisy.
Hugs,
Vanessa
Krisy – what a great phot would love to chat to you. Take care!
Kandi Gurl
Hi,
I would dearly love to live a life that recognises the female side of my nature; whether or not it involves a transition or acceptance of my true potential.
I am very open to supportive comments from my new friends. I am also 100% genuine and very chatty. Please contact me if you feel that you and I can help each other.
Please call me whatever you want as Steve seems quite inappropriate
Hello Steve, or may I call you Stephanie. You have picked a wonderful place to be open at. This site is all about supporting all our sisters, wherever you may be in this vast and varried world called transgenderism. Any time you want to chat with me , I am available to listen and share with you or any of our other friends. I have been crossdressing for as long as I can remember, and I love the total person that I’ve become. That’s really the first step in the whole process, Love yourself, no matter where you are on… Read more »
Ragina, thanks dear for being so wonderfully supportive!
Ragina – you are just lovely, great advice would love to chat more with you too.
XXX
Kandi Gurl
Hello luv,
You say that you are in Johanesburg. I’m in Georgia, USA. I’d love to chat about anything, especially cd. I’ve posted my e-mail for you to use. Please feel free to contact me.
Hello again. sorry I forgot to leave my contact. Reach me at: rswarmergi@aol.com
Hope to chat soon.
Hi Ragina, just taking a bit of a break to say hi to you. You all the way over there in Georgia. Of course there has been some very romantic songs about Georgia -‘rainly nights in etc… In fact it is pouring down here in Johannesburg right now and has been for two days. I am a 55 year old white person (not that that really means anything and I hate to be categorised). Of course living in Africa it is fantastc especially since this country has changed its horrible racist past (although some still lingers). I have two kids… Read more »
Hi again Kandi. Sorry it’s been so long since I last wrote here. It’s been crazy here of late. It actually snowed here last Friday. We got about 5″ I don’t know how that works out in the metric system. It so rarely snows here that it turns into a real event. It didn’t last too long. By late afternoon it was gone. Any way, it was great while it lasted. A good chance to underdress, to stay warm.
I need to go for now. It’s late, and I need to sleep. Talk again soon.
i want to know guys who like to dress as girls to show me how to do it i’m a very shy guy but i like to do it my self i want to meet some one to have fun together and some thing else.
I am new here so hello to all. when i dress it is by myself no one has ever known, i feel who i am supose to be when dressed even in the simplest ways i get losed in that time but when my wife comes home i must go back, and it is hard to seem like nothing is wrong but i get though it. would love to talk more. Stacy
Hi would love to chat. Have recently been through an experience with my wife which has been very fulfilling as we now go shopping together. Yesterday she bought me a dress!!!
Hey girls how do I get my photo next to my comments like some others have?
I enjoy cding too. hope to be able to dress all the way someday
I tend to be a little more spunky kind of like Riku from Final Fantasy X. But my only down fall is that I am in the United States Army right now so I really can’t be Abby unless I am in my room or at my local Gay club called Alias. I just found this out and it is also hard because I can’t find a gay guy to call my own because most of them don’t understand why I do this. it is just me, the real me… I just feel like a girl trapped in a guys… Read more »
Hello every body first time poster. Just recently came out of the CD closet with wife. She is slowly adjusting but it is still hard for her to face. Just looking for some friendly voices.
Hello Amanda. I’m Ragina. Welcome aboard and I’m glad to hear of your coming out. Yes, it’s tough for the wife at first. A shock to the system. Be patient and loving and I feel certain that she’ll come around. Also, go slow for a while to give her a chance to adjust to the new you. Don’t go whole hog into dressing up all the time. It might be hard at first, but the rewards will be worth the wait. Good luck and God bless.
Hello Regina,
Thank you, for your kind words of encouragement and support. I appreciate your advice and look foward to talking with you some more. The road has been hard and bumpy but we have muddled through o.k.. I still have some of My own questions to answer as well as hers. But like I said we’ll muddle through hopefully together. Thanks again for your support.
hi Amanda love to meet u,,,,,,am from srilanka now in jhb edenvale, love to know about u,,,mail me on sus69xxx@yahoo.com
Rob (my male self ) works with a lot of people, so confidence is a must. Also in my line of work, i have to act agrssive . I never asked my self what kind of woman i am, till i read it here. when i let my female self out… i tend to be more relaxed. not agresive at all. heck! i might even say i get maternal……Darn…..I turned into my mom!……LOL