Last night my wife and I were watching the episode of Boston Legal where Clarence – the otherwise shy unassuming lawyer who enjoys crossdressing in his spare time – enters a singing competition as his alter ego Clarice. We watched the dramatic transformation – his feminine persona shone radiantly with confidence when she set foot on stage. Singing, dancing and shaking her booty with freewheeling abandon. As if crossdressing psychology had dazzled her mind and switched her personality.
After the show my wife asked me a question which got me thinking about my crossdressing personality. Am I more confident and outgoing when dressed as Vanessa? Does my personality change in ways not easily explained by being more feminine?
What Is My Crossdressing Personality?
When I put on my makeup, heels and hose I become more feminine, more outgoing, more confident, more excitable, less contemplative, less uncertain and more open to being vulnerable. When I’m in male mode I’m constantly worried about what people will think of me. I try to be perfect, to not offend anyone, I shape who I am to fit into the person I believe others want me to be. When the transvestite inside of me comes out I realize that I’ve probably already offended some people. I don’t mold myself to their expectations, but find myself free to be who I am inside.
It’s a strange balance. I find myself less interested in what others think about me and more interested in them. Even a light dusting of makeup and a feminine mindset will find me chatting with cashiers in the checkout line, willing to share a piece of my day and eager to hear a bit more about theirs.
In truth I like who I am when I’m crossdressed. I think that if there was socially acceptable cross dressing more people would feel comfortable expressing a different side of themselves. We may even find that crossdressing psychology is sometimes the best kind of psychology.
What Is Your Crossdressing Personality?
Does your experience mirror mine? Think about what it’s like when you’re the woman of your dreams. Who do you become when you’re dressed?
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I cross dress in stockings and heels and have a fantastic wank, thats all there is to it, I love standing there in stockings, high heels, basque….I do this in the garden, has to be out doors, exposed although not ultimatley risky, the sensation is intense… Im straight as straight can be, my girlfriend doesnt know about it, although funnily enough a few months ago she said she would like to see me in stockings…..its kinda personal though. I have another friend (female) who has actually stated that she wants to fuk me while I wear the stuff so that… Read more »
same with me also
Thanks hon – welcome to Crossdresser Heaven! *hugs*
I think it’s why men crossdress . And call it a crime. It’s why women can dress up in any clothes she wants and get away with it. What I mean is go to any major city or college. Look around for several hours checkout . What men and women wear, I’m guesting this part that half the women wear male style clothes. But if a male dresses in a nice skirt, top and nylons and heels or flats and he looks okay in the outfit. How many will say what is wrong with him or something like it?
I started early with putting on my sisters clothes and underwear. Although I am bisexual I enjoy releasing the girl in me when with a man. I have yet to wear make up or wig but I can see that happening one day.
Go at your own pace dear, and do what’s comfortable and right for you 🙂
looking for a g g in okc area that would like to meet an artest type crossdresser !
Would love for someone to get togeather and dress up with in San antonio Tx
Hi Diana,
I am a crossdresser from San Antonio. Maybe if we start some form of communication we could eventually meet and crossdresser together .
Love to hear from you.
Hugs n kisses,
Delores
Diana,
Would like to meet sometime. Would like to dress up and go out also. Live on NW side.
looking for help on my first date as a crossdresser with a man ginger
Then there is a bladerunning balance between the respect you owe to the man you date and your need to pass as woman. Does him know? And what are your intention with him, are you only interested in girls, boys or both?
hi i’ve been dressing as a girl since i was 3yrs old i also had boy clothes,which i was told to wear at times,however,the older i got ,the more i prefered the girl clothes..they were (are) way more comfortable ,at least to me! i’ve worn nothing but panties for 30+ yrs,all my jeans are misses sz 5/6,and it be a rare day when i’m not wearing a bra w/forms…90+days now,and nobody has noticed…sweet…i can only hope that white america will become more relaxed in their ideas and their notions as to “whats correct"or “whats right"to wear. i myself am starting… Read more »
I dress to satisfy how I feel. I don’t care what anyone elce thinks I know i feel good. They have there own hang up . They are more tense then we are. I don’t try to chase anyone I just want to be myself and share my life stile with my lovely wife that knows me and loves me for who I am. I just wish every one had the chance to do something thay always wanted to do and enjoy it like we do. clothes are clothes mens wemons or what ever. They are made to be wore.… Read more »
I dress like a man b/c that’s what society demands of my physical body type. I cross dress when I can because that is what my personality prefers. But I don’t want to abandon the man. I enjoy who I am … All of who I Am.