Last night my wife and I were watching the episode of Boston Legal where Clarence – the otherwise shy unassuming lawyer who enjoys crossdressing in his spare time – enters a singing competition as his alter ego Clarice. We watched the dramatic transformation – his feminine persona shone radiantly with confidence when she set foot on stage. Singing, dancing and shaking her booty with freewheeling abandon. As if crossdressing psychology had dazzled her mind and switched her personality.
After the show my wife asked me a question which got me thinking about my crossdressing personality. Am I more confident and outgoing when dressed as Vanessa? Does my personality change in ways not easily explained by being more feminine?
What Is My Crossdressing Personality?
When I put on my makeup, heels and hose I become more feminine, more outgoing, more confident, more excitable, less contemplative, less uncertain and more open to being vulnerable. When I’m in male mode I’m constantly worried about what people will think of me. I try to be perfect, to not offend anyone, I shape who I am to fit into the person I believe others want me to be. When the transvestite inside of me comes out I realize that I’ve probably already offended some people. I don’t mold myself to their expectations, but find myself free to be who I am inside.
It’s a strange balance. I find myself less interested in what others think about me and more interested in them. Even a light dusting of makeup and a feminine mindset will find me chatting with cashiers in the checkout line, willing to share a piece of my day and eager to hear a bit more about theirs.
In truth I like who I am when I’m crossdressed. I think that if there was socially acceptable cross dressing more people would feel comfortable expressing a different side of themselves. We may even find that crossdressing psychology is sometimes the best kind of psychology.
What Is Your Crossdressing Personality?
Does your experience mirror mine? Think about what it’s like when you’re the woman of your dreams. Who do you become when you’re dressed?
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yes , i am totally the opposite of my male side .When i get dressed up i become Pippi ! She is more free spirited and a little more on the daring side ! And yes i do know the feeling of trying to be perfect , trying to keep it all a secret but not really caring if found out lol seems silly if you think about it .
Interesting article Vanessa! Thank you for bringing it up. I have been studying psychology for a while….in particular….female psychology. I want to know what makes females the way they are and what avenues led them down the path. Men and women are physically quite similar. Change a couple of body parts, add some hormones and voila you have an opposite, at least in the physical end of things. Mentally…..not so easy! I hope to gain enough insight to be able to become a successful cross dresser. I want to walk the walk and talk the talk as it were. I… Read more »
I live in a small southern town and crossdressers are not tolerated what do I do
You said you only wanted to do this when your high!!!…so what’s really going on caus I wanted the husband I married and I’m in love with
When I’m Louisa I am much more relaxed and content. I also feel slutty,When I am dressed in male clothes I conform to what’s expected of me.
When I am Lisbeth I feel like perky idealistic southern girl. Lisbeth is a feminist liberal. She dislikes men for the most part. But Lisbeth likes to look attractive but not slutty. She feels that a woman can be attractive and modest She enjoys wearing tight fitting skirts and dresses that either knee length or below the knees. She prefers pencil skirts because she loves to show off her slender feminine figure
What a thought provoking topic.. In male mode , I am always looking for “how am I doing"? As Leonara , she is shy and the woman within seems so natural but still lonely. Although this may seem vain, My pending makeover will show how the woman within is as pretty in public… The ladies here are so supportive and I thank you….Leonara
That is such a good question, How do we feel when Dressed, Actually I am fairly confident either way, As Julie, damn do I look hot. So many guys and girls tell me I am the hottest girl in the club. I am very confident as Julie because I know I have it going on. When I first started I kind of dreamed that I could walk down the beach all dolled up and would get catcalls. Well I have no achieved that on the beach but going out to clubs, WOW do the guys compliment me. With the ladies… Read more »
As a red head Julie I want to discover my feminity as a woman and have fun as a woman I like being a guy.
whenever i get to put a pretty dress bra panties hose and heels i start to feel happier and after i domy hair and makeup i totally forget im a man i dont have the weight of the world on my shoulders.being dressed up just makes me feel better
Hi everyone, i’am like Michele , very submissive when dressed up. I have a boy- friend i would love to come out to , hes said he supports the gay and trans people and won’t put up with anyone downing anyone for this .When dressed up i have this feeling of wanting to be soft and girly.I would love to have someone to love and , yes obey , i love this feeling , i love being Leslie.