Last night my wife and I were watching the episode of Boston Legal where Clarence – the otherwise shy unassuming lawyer who enjoys crossdressing in his spare time – enters a singing competition as his alter ego Clarice. We watched the dramatic transformation – his feminine persona shone radiantly with confidence when she set foot on stage. Singing, dancing and shaking her booty with freewheeling abandon. As if crossdressing psychology had dazzled her mind and switched her personality.
After the show my wife asked me a question which got me thinking about my crossdressing personality. Am I more confident and outgoing when dressed as Vanessa? Does my personality change in ways not easily explained by being more feminine?
What Is My Crossdressing Personality?
When I put on my makeup, heels and hose I become more feminine, more outgoing, more confident, more excitable, less contemplative, less uncertain and more open to being vulnerable. When I’m in male mode I’m constantly worried about what people will think of me. I try to be perfect, to not offend anyone, I shape who I am to fit into the person I believe others want me to be. When the transvestite inside of me comes out I realize that I’ve probably already offended some people. I don’t mold myself to their expectations, but find myself free to be who I am inside.
It’s a strange balance. I find myself less interested in what others think about me and more interested in them. Even a light dusting of makeup and a feminine mindset will find me chatting with cashiers in the checkout line, willing to share a piece of my day and eager to hear a bit more about theirs.
In truth I like who I am when I’m crossdressed. I think that if there was socially acceptable cross dressing more people would feel comfortable expressing a different side of themselves. We may even find that crossdressing psychology is sometimes the best kind of psychology.
What Is Your Crossdressing Personality?
Does your experience mirror mine? Think about what it’s like when you’re the woman of your dreams. Who do you become when you’re dressed?
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What an interesting question. Since I’m “new" to the whole “going out while dressed" thing, it’s hard for me to gauge but so far I think I’m more empathetic than what my guy self would normally be. I think someone in the thread already came up with the best label so I’m going to borrow it – “perky idealistic Southern girl." Two instances – first, I was out dressed one evening in our city at a local music festival and on the way to the boulevard from the parking lot I spotted this family – dad, 4 or 5 kids… Read more »
That is such a heart warming story. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you!!! 🙂
Hi Kristy I loved your story and it made me think about if I am a different person when I’m dressed en.femme and I can honestly say that I am I’m more concerned about other people and their needs. Although I have never given money to homeless people I look for people who might need a kind word or a smile to brighten their day One thing that I did was I was walking out of a ladies room and saw a girl trying to get a tampon out of the tampon dispenser. She was really stressed and the dispenser… Read more »
I crossdress 95% of the time inside outside out in public I no it’s risky but inside me it makes me feel like a real women
My personality definitely changes when I dress as Harriet. My male side, Les, is more dominate (not the kinky dominate, get your mind out of the gutter.) I’m more passive. Les is more of an extrovert and outspoken than I am. I handle stress better than Les does. Many of my likes & dislikes change also. My wife likes horror movies and Les refuses to watch them because he scares easily and hates them, but I will watch a horror movie with my wife and they don’t bother me.
I have been dressing on and off for 60 years, Now almost every day. Dressed with a few girls, other gurls and dressed up for a few men too. Always the submissive girl once I slip into my nylons, heels and makeup. Like so many others, turn into sluts in a skirt.
I’ve been dressing now for about 40 years and i always seem to be a much milder sort of person when I’m dressed as Rozalyne all my worries seem to disappear although I’ve never been out in the big bad world yet only dressed at home for myself witch seems a shame hopefully that will change soon ladies xx
Hi Kristy, what a good question. Although I have not been out in public as a woman yet (I hope to soon when I pluck up the courage), I do change when I shop for ladies clothes. I become more smiley and relaxed. In short I allow myself to become girly and I love it. The girls in the lingerie shop chat a lot with me as they would a with a girl friend. When I get dressed up my body language changes and I definitely feel womanly and I feel much more relaxed. I just wish I could dress… Read more »
Yes, I am definitely less irritable when I’m Christine. I normally get bad road rage if there is a lot of heavy traffic. However, the first time I drove as Christine I got caught in one of LA, Ca’s famous traffic jams and didn’t get angry at all. I was way more patient.
I been dressing sense I was a teenager and now I am 35 most of the time I only dress for 20 to 30 mins at most affaid of getting discovered while dress and I may only get 2 or 3 time in the year to do so but I feel more a live and happy while doing so. So I may not have developed a full alter side but it so much fun
Being in a situation where it doesnt feel safe to dress up can be so tough. I so desperately want to be able to wake up in a sexy nighty and start the day by putting on make a nice dress and a little make up. It doesnt seem like the world we live in should make that so difficult to achieve, but here we are.
Being Selyne is about 180 degrees different than my drab self. She likes to talk to people, way more relaxed and happier. She has a devil may care attitude and the mentality of this is who I am and if you can’t accept me well that’s your loss. Defiantly way more confident and graceful. Every time She comes out (which is every night) it is always more enjoyable.
Serenity and harmony to all you ladies
Selyne Phoenyx
I have never gone out as Jessica. But i know the feeling of being her and seeing her reflection in the mirror completely changes me. When Jessica is in control, i feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I compare it to always being short of breath (when I’m not dressed up) vs. Being able to breath perfectly clear (when I am dressed up).