What's the difference between a crossdresser and a transsexual?

It’s an old joke in the transgender community that goes like this:
Q: “What’s the difference between a crossdresser and a transsexual?”
A: “Two years”

This provides some humorous levity while astutely implying a truth about transsexuals – many of them started out as crossdressers. Unfortunately, while it makes for a fun observation it doesn’t really provide any useful insights for those who are struggling with their gender identity, or for others who hear that someone they love is a crossdresser.

It’s also easy to describe the difference between a crossdresser and a transsexual by sharing the definition of each word and describing transgender terminology.

It’s more difficult to help those struggling with their gender identity determine whether they are a crossdresser or transsexual, though I’ve made such an attempt a few times.

Five days ago I had sex reassignment surgery. As someone who once considered themselves a crossdresser, and now considers herself a transsexual woman without question of doubt I feel I’m in a position to provide some valuable insight for those struggling with a similar question. It goes without saying that each person is different, and this question is best explored together with a qualified therapist, after all you’ll make life altering decisions based on what you discover.

How Do I Know if I’m a Transsexual?

    • You consider yourself a woman: Crossdressers enjoy being woman for a time, but still consider themselves to be a man. Many are even happy being a man, and indulging their feminine persona a few times a week or month is all they need. Even if they fantasize about being transformed into a woman, crossdressers never seriously consider this to be a long term way of life.
      Transsexuals feel an intense cognitive dissonance between the genders of their mind and body. For me this manifested itself in a constant ‘mind static’ that pervaded every moment. I couldn’t enjoy the fullness of life because of a birth defect that placed me in the wrong body. For some it gets so serious that they seriously consider suicide as the only solution.
    • It’s about who you are, not the clothes: For many crossdressers the infatuation with the feminine revolves around their appearance. The clothes, the makeup, the impossibly high heels. Even for crossdressers who strive to blend in, it’s about being feminine. Being feminine feels good and exciting.
      For transsexuals the entire experience doesn’t revolve around the accessories of gender expression. Another common refrain is, “How do you tell the transsexuals at a transgender conference?”, “They’re the ones wearing jeans”. It’s about who you are, not who you appear to be.
    • You take the good with the bad: Transsexuals realize that there is no escaping being a woman. No time off for good behavior. We can’t decide to be a man for a certain circumstance just because it would be easier. While we may lament the discrimination we face as women it doesn’t factor in to whether we are a woman.
    • Womanhood is messy reality, not an idealized fantasy: If your sole experience of womanhood is as a fantasy, then you don’t have enough information to say that you’re a transsexual. Many crossdressers only experience what they consider the ‘highlights’ of womanhood (It’s another post as to why I don’t believe these are the actual highlights). Nights out feeling sensual, or safe gatherings dressed in their finest feminine attire. The truth is that womanhood isn’t quite as clean or elegant. Many transsexual woman experienced and embraced the messy reality of womanhood before transitioning. If you’re wondering, seek out every day experiences as a woman.

Embrace Who You Are

Gender Identity isn’t a game that you win by being more feminine. The only way to win is to discover where you are on the spectrum, and accept yourself unconditionally. If you’re not a transsexual, that’s okay. If you are, that’s okay too.

I’ve shared my thoughts on how to determine whether you’re a crossdresser or transsexual. What insights have I missed? If you’re a crossdresser and firm in that knowledge, how did you come to this realization?

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  1. Beckie Cannons 6 years ago

    I really love this article (not sure about the joke though LOL) – I realized I was just a transvestite/crossdresser on my first night dressed out having spent it with two transsexuals. I was just so different. But for me the difference it’s quite simple – the desire and need to dress up is mainly a sexual one for transvestites/crossdressers – if you just look at the type of clothes transevitites/crossdressers wear as they tend to be more sexually overt (short skirts/dresses etc) even when they are too old for the look – and for transsexuals try and blend with what they wear.

  2. rickey 6 years ago

    I been cross dress forever and as time goes on I want to get closer to being a woman but there one thing when i get high it bring the girl out of me big time and then i dont ever want to going back to be man so i say in joy what you have and have fun

  3. Jenna 3 years ago

    Thank you so much for the article, I thoroughly enjoyed reading it, I have always questioned my gender these last few years, and where I fit in.

    Even from the very start with cross-dressing, it had to be perfect . I had to be perfect. I wasn’t going down this path because I wanted to be some guy dressed up in ladys clothes, there was always so much more. while some dressed to go out to sex on premsises at night I didn’t, dressing cheap wasn’t what it was about/ I was becoming a woman,

    Most things in my life have revolved around this part of me. at the time though it wasn’t something even thought about, though little things through life are so obvious now,

    Im deff more fem on the inside than male, though does this change things with my gender and how I look at things, will no doubt work everthing out in time


    Jenna xx

  4. carryli servina 3 years ago

    I think the difference is different for everyone. While I have been a cross dresser and bi-sexual since I was 15 and prefer to be dressed I have never had the feeling that some transgendered have explained to me they have about feeling trapped in the wrong body.

    I enjoy the feminine feeling when dressed but I don’t have the feeling I should go any further then dressing.

    I respect those who have those feelings and support what they decide to do. Just as my transgendered friends support that I won’t take it farther then I do.

  5. Lora 3 years ago

    Very interesting article. I am a mother of a cross dresser. He started when he was very young, three years old. I had concerns and he attempted to hide it for years. I saw his struggles first hand. He has since decided to embrace his cross dressing and is completely open about it. Which is refreshing, as we discussed when he was in his teenage years, be who you are and never live in shame. Anyways, he has explained to me that for him and many other cross dressers he knows, cross dressing is like playing dress up, in a way. He says that the best way to describe his experience is that just like a preschooler dressing up like their favorite super hero a cross dresser dresses up like a woman. He also says that cross dressers have a heightened appreciation for women. He identifies himself as 100% male, never does he feel as though he is a woman, even in dress. He also considers himself heterosexual and has no interest in gay sex. He loves women, very much in every way.
    I feel as though with all the interest in transgender, trans sexual, gay rights etc. Cross dressers, like my son, have a lot of preconceived ideas, as the joke implies and it’s just not true. Just because a man puts on women’s clothes does not mean he is gay, bisexual, transgender, trans sexual or feel as though their identity is female. He doesn’t feel the desire to change his name or anything like that.
    I did recognize the part Beckie brings out regarding the sexually overt attire. He does wear short tight skirts, dresses and would never wear jeans.

    • Hope Clark 1 month ago

      This is just like my experience, the only difference being I like wearing jeans too!

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      Vanessa Law 3 years ago

      Hey Lora,

      Thanks for sharing your experience, it’s such a blessing to have you join our community. I’d love to hear more of your experiences as a mother, and perhaps feature your experiences for others on the site – I think you’d be an encouragement to many. Drop me a quick email here – I’d love to hear from you!

  6. Dianne Baldwin 2 years ago

    Very good article enjoyed . I feel I fit somewhere in between feel much more comfortable dressed as woman and it’s not really sexual. If I been from different decade would have had surgery but wasn’t acceptable in the sixties

  7. moli 2 years ago

    How true luv feeling fem as a crossdresser, a little on the gay side like making out with men,hard to find men to make out with as a gurl though.

  8. Jennifer Hopkins 2 years ago

    I have always felt that i should have been a girl. And the need to dress has always been there but i want to be blending in not stand out like a beacon. I like to dress my age and yes when i have sex i am always the submissive female but its not only for sex. I want to be female in all daily aspects good and bad.

  9. Tristan 2 years ago

    Honestly, I am a crossdresser.I don’t do it 24/7,because for me it is just sexual. I’m actually dating a mtf transexual, so I can understand the difference.

  10. Patricia Marie Allen 2 years ago

    If you’re transsexual, that OK. If you’re a cross-dresser, that’s OK.

    If you’re an androgyne, that’s OK too.

    The thing I hear trans women say is that they were born in the wrong body. Some say they reached a point where it was transition or die, they just couldn’t go on living as they were.

    I don’t believe there’s a cross-dresser in the world who would get that radical about how the feel about cross-dressing. But what about those who reach a point of not being able to go through a single day without expressing the feminine nature within, but still maintain a heterosexual male body? What about the males who have no issues with the body, only with the lifestyle?

    That me, an androgyne. Having nearly equal parts masculine and feminine within the psyche. Here I am, driven to express my feminine nature, and unwilling or not desiring to give up my male body. That leaves me in a never-never land of genders. Never fully feminine and never fully masculine.

    According to two well know tests, one scientific and one not so much though still mostly accepted in the trans community I have nearly equal parts masculine and feminine parts to my psyche with only a slight edge toward feminine.

    As a result I dress nearly 90% of my time feminine and the time I’m dressed masculine, I do so in masculine cut women’s clothes.

    How do I know if I’m a transsexual? I’m not because the idea of sexual reassignment surgery is totally foreign to me. That said, I’m also not a cross-dresser, because I dress to blend in and just do thing any other woman would do. Did I just say “any other woman” and include myself with those women? I guess I did. But dealing with this in my life for the better part of 70 years (I didn’t start really dealing with it until I was 25) I don’t think another two years is likely to put me in the TS camp, especially not since I like it right where I am now.

  11. Tasi 2 years ago

    With all due respect to my many transsexual friends, you beg the question with this constant barrage that it’s all about the clothes for the crossdresser. For some it may be admittedly, but for many of us, it’s just an expression of femininity and that doesn’t mean overtly sexual or just blending in either. Of course feeling feminine is good and exciting, but in case you haven’t noticed, what the heck do you think genetic women are doing. Some of the outfits they wear are hardly meant to blend in and in fact, I don’t think that should be our objective either. Check out my Stylish Crossdressers on Sister House http://www.sisterhouse.net/dressingroom/ These women are style icons of our community because their outfits are put together. They take the time to be womanly, not sexual, in their appearance, although I would argue that a stylish woman is very sexy too.

    I have a good TS friend that has been female for 20 years now and she loves to dress sexy, for work, for her boyfriend, and in everyday life. So differentiating yourself from crossdressers based on the clothes you wear holds little water unless you enjoy looking dowdy or like a slob. In fact, psychology tells us that we are most often judged by first appearances. and we get treated accordingly. I dress well and am treated well. What about you?

  12. Ema 2 years ago

    Well after reading this article I’m not sure what I am anymore. I have a man body but inside I know that I am a woman 100% woman 100% feminine , I been cross dressing all my life I always wanted to change my body to look like a real woman but I never had the opportunity or the money to do it and to be honest I never had the courage either so I just be happy to cross dressing living in secret and in fear. I might have a man body dress like a man pretend to be a man but in my heart I’m 100% a woman and 100 % feminine and no bodies can get that away from me when I cross dress I don’t dress to look like a sexy girl I dress to be pretty and cute it makes me feel so happy feel alive. My dream is that one day I’ll become a beautiful princess like a Disney Princess or a barbie princess I believe there is life after death and I know that my dream will come meanwhile I will have to be patient live the rest of my life as a man and cross dress every time I can. So I don’t know how you call that but this is who I am.

  13. Jenny 2 years ago

    Very interesting article and comments. I am very new to crossdressing so I really don’t know which direction I am going at this point. As far as the type of clothes I wear, heels, panty hose, bra and panties, and a dress. I think I might dress less extreme, but that’s all I have for now. I recently separated from my wife because of my crossdressing. Since I am now living alone in a hotel (for now until the divorce moves further), I dress every day and can’t wait to get home from work so I can dress. I don’t think it is a sexual thing though. It just feels good and it relaxes me. In this short time, I have been doing a lot of thinking but I still just don’t know where I am going. I have often wondered if I was transsexual. Would I go through HRT? As far as living my life wishing I was a girl, I can’t say that I did. I do remember as a child thinking that, but as I got older, it didn’t really cross my mind. I remember at about 10, trying on mom’s panty hose and skirt but I never did that again until very recently when I decided I wanted to try my wife’s panty hose. I was never the macho guy. I am somewhat strong due to my size but I never thought myself as one of the guys and never had the desire to go drinking with the guys or be interested in sports. I tried some sports in school, but I was horrible at them all. I did band and theatre instead and did pretty well I those. I am fortunate to be living in a large city so the support resources are plenty. I have gone to meetings designated for crossdressers and meetings designated with transgender or transitioning. I felt very uncomfortable at the crossdressing meetings but felt extremely comfortable at the transition meetings. Even though I cannot say I have wanted to be a woman all my life, I have identified with the people in the transition meeting much more than the crossdressers. No offense towards crossdressers (I am one for now) but I felt the people in the crossdressers meeting were acting and the trans people in the transitions meetings were real. Somehow I just felt more at home with the transitioners. I felt like I belonged there where I felt like a visitor at the crossdressers meeting. So what does all this tell me? I don’t know. I think I would enjoy being a woman. I am jealous of what they get to wear on a daily basis, casual or dress. I want to be like them. The strange thing is I have only really been thinking of this for a very short time. My wife has always said that I have kept everything inside and never expressed emotion what so ever. When I was young, I was the cry baby. At about junior high somewhere, I decided to stop crying and to do that I cut out emotion and basically did what everyone said I should in life. However, when I came out to my wife as a crossdresser or gay or who knows what, it was an uncontrollable urge to say something and if I didn’t, I felt like I would explode. Now, after the fact, I understand that I did it wrong and should have seeked counseling before I said something but I fear if I did, I might have never come out. Even though my life has been flipped upside down, I am glad I did come out. I feel like I am finally realizing who I am. Still not sure if who I am is a woman, but the thought has crossed my mind a lot in the month since we separated after 21 years of marriage. I am 52. I said at the transition group that I wish I would have come out earlier and pretty much everyone said they wished the same thing. Well, I have rambled enough here so I will stop typing. If anyone has any advise for me, I would be greatly appreciative. Thanks for listening (reading). Jenny

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  14. Karyn Lobelia 2 years ago

    The most important thing is to love yourself and have empathy for yourself and others . I feel cross dressers or femmes simply want to be feminine and live or dress in a way that expresses who they are , they are not masculine and want to live and dress as a lady . In Apache culture their were only two jobs , warrior and squaw . No Apache warrior would except a feminine man to be anything other than what he was a woman or squaw doing or having that role . We are all actors in life , femmes want simply to play the part of a lady . Transvestites seem to me to be overly sexual and enjoy dressing up for partying , clubbing , etc. I am not judging just observing . I do not want ever to look like I am in drag , though if that is your cup of tea , please yourself . I simply want to fit in and live as a normal lady . Some people would call that a SheMale if you have not transitioned , but again that is a label . Do not label yourself . If you transition or become a transsexual you will be no more a women than someone who is femme and takes hormones and tester one blockers . Nothing will ever change the fact that you will always have XX chromosomes . Hopefully , the world can except the really that some men are feminine with or without a sexual preference that fits into a label . Take exastasacy or a similar drug in psychiatric sessions and you will learn what this generation learn about empathy at raves . We all have a life story that does not fit into a box , we can all love each other , if we let our thoughts balance what makes our Body feels that makes our Mind knows that the two are one . Take the Sacred Mushroom in nature and you find that their is no separation between mind and body . Want to feel good , love people , be kind , want to have a peaceful mind , love people eat good food and exercise , stop buying the brainwashing in the media to sell you on a ideal OF WHAT YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO BE TO BE HAPPY . Be know nod , do not gossip , never be rude , learn tithe Laws of Attraction and hang out with Spiritual people that value people for THIER mind , not THIER possions or looks . Do not kid yourself that if you eat crappy industrial food that you are going to feel good no matter how much you exercise . You exercise for your mind , not just your body . Learn Blue Dragon Qi Chong and yoga , takes hikes in nature , for goodness turn off the news . Visit with old people , help the homeless , do something to make the world a better place . Giving to others is their blessing to you , never except anything in return . IN THE END ALL THAT WILL MATTER IS HOW YOU LIVED YOUR LIFE HOW YOU LOVED AND HOW YOU LEARN TO LET GO . God is Love and Love is God . Love yourself and you will know everyone else is your vision in your mind of your desires or aversions , Love everyone and accept that we all are fre to choose . Put love on as a perfume each morning . Live your life , it is the only one you have , let others live theirs without your expectations . Kisses and Hugs .

  15. Monica Michaels 2 years ago

    well… i’m 42… i have been dressing since before I could tie my own shoelaces. It started w/ my sister’s things when I was only 3 or 4 or 5. Do I feel trapped? Oh my my, oh hell yes. But trapped in the wrong body? That’s hard to say. I think when transgender men or women say that, they are referring to their genitals…

    But personally, I believe that there are different levels if that ‘trapped’ feeling… I am a smaller person @ only 5’6″ tall. But despite my small frame, compared to a cisgender woman, my body has a masculine frame. It has masculine distribution and proportions of body fat. It doesn’t have a very feminine chest or backside. Oh, and it has a penis.

    Here is where my confusion really multiplies… Do I want genital surgery? No….

    However, I should elaborate. I am 17 years married. to the love of my life – a cisgender woman. She is also bi. Which is a huge reason I told her about “me” before I ever proposed marriage.

    But I digress… surgery? No… but, if I am completely honest, I would like to be able to have a small b-cup – perfect for my frame. And some hips would be lovely. if I were not married and expected to perform ‘husbandly duties”, and I could still achieve a sexual release, I would not miss my genitals at all. I am a sexually submissive person by nature so I do not associate sex w/ being dominant and I do not feel the need to penetrate to have a very satisfying sexual experience. I do not masturbate as a “true male” would and “spank the monkey”, I suppose.

    If that is TMI, I do apologize but felt it necessary to explain my own personal brand of gender dysphoria.

    So here I am now, at 42, having made the decision 9 months ago in the summer of 2015, after a low period of complete and utter shunning of my feminine persona, that its time to “come out”. Wifey is fully supportive. In fact, during that low period, bereft of gender expression, she sat me down and told me that she missed me that way. It was a big part of why she married me, she said. “And now you killed and buried her. I feel like she was just a dream”, she said…

    My wife and I both suffered personal losses in recent years which opened our eyes to the very real fact that Life. Is. Too. Short.

    She has always supported me. It was time for ME to support ME. Its easier for me because I work from my home and do not have to see colleagues ever. I haven’t been in the same room as a colleague since 2009! (tech sector, baby!)

    I told my best friend and parents back in 2007… showed my folks a few of my best pics. My friend has never seen a pic and I don’t intend to show him one necessarily, though his g/f has. Last summer when I started “coming out”, my wife and I started getting our nails done together. We still do. Mine are now long and beautiful. But aside from that, I present as male still. But the nails are there 24/7. I even wore jeggings, cute heels and a women’s hoodie to by friend’s house once while otherwise in boy bode. He said not a word about it. I have great friends, clearly.

    So my lifelong goatee is gone for good (instead of temporarily like previously). My nails are long and pretty. Legs are shaved and brows are waxed. I no longer wear men’s jeans – haven’t since last summer.

    What does it all mean? Am I transgender? I think so. Was dressing sexual for a time? Yes, but are we not sexual beings? Do cisgender women not feel sexy in their favorite sexy outfit? I haven’t dressed for sexual pleasure in years and years now. That’s not what its about… I mean I started before I was even close to puberty, so how can it be purely sexually driven? Though I admit, I don’t feel sexy as a man… but does any non TG man (a so-called real man) feel sexy? Is that feeling exclusive to feminine human beings? I don’t know because I am who I am and don’t know what it feels like to not have a feminine nature to express…

    So I am slowly “making her real”. My hairdresser has not said word one about my nails these past 9 months so last month I finally said “OK I am done waiting for you to say something – so, do you like my awesome nails, or are you just being polite and not saying anything?”. Since I am a hard rock musician, she said she thought it was just like a Marilyn Manson thing and didn’t give it a second thought. So I showed her my pic. She was blown away (everyone is – I’ve kept her hidden so well for so long that no one would ever suspect). I said – “OK now that you know, I’ve been waiting for you to notice so I could ask you if you could style my wigs”. She is 100% cool with it. The rest of the conversation was pure girl talk. It was the first time I had ever had that “total acceptance” experience with anyone other than my wife. I was on cloud nine all day from that experience. And I was in boy mode… So again, is it about dressing or how I feel inside and interacting in a way that reflects that?

    Staying out of the closet for an extended time now, I have found my own style that matches my overall personality. I am not into super girlish attire. I have more of a “rocker-chick” look… or is that “rocker-chic”? haha. Even my nail colors, etc… reflect that. Not all cisgender women are “girly”. Think Joan Jett, for instance. That’s more of how I see myself than any of her male counterparts. Feminine, but with and edge. If those traits are OK in a cisgender woman, why not me? Just because I may be transgender doesn’t mean I am Tinkerbell. But day-to-day I am more like a david bowie or dave navarro – still a man, but unafraid to blur the lines.

    I know that was kind of all over the place… sorry. Just trying as we all are, to find my place and help others if they find my experience to be similar or helpful.

    ~Monica M

  16. Danica Ashley 2 years ago

    Thank you for sharing this. I am 54 and came out to my wife of thirty three years a couple weeks ago, although she is supporting me as I go through therapy and as I start transitioning I know she does not fully understand what I am going through. I plan on sharing this with her because it is so well written. I was one of those on the verge of suicide because I could not see a way out and did not want my wife and kids to suffer the shame of what I am. Fortunately I had enough sense to seek help and was totally wrong about everything. I did my family a great disservice by not telling them. Because now I have their love and support as I go through this.

  17. Tom 2 years ago

    I know you all are children looking for meaning in life. I want you to know Jesus loves you all and wants you to find completeness in only Him. All your confusion is due to your lack of knowing HIM. Only Jesus can give you the peace and tranquility you are searching. This lifestyle although, it may appear okay, is not okay by the creator. God made you and knows you best. If you desire true love and purpose discovery, it can only be found through your God. Jesus loves you.

    • JaneS 2 years ago

      Your post Tom shows a confusion within your own faith.

      If your god is as great as you suggest why do you infer that he makes mistakes. Are we not the products of your creator? If what we do is so wrong why did he make us this way?

      I have found the peace and tranquility I seek, I know the happiness of those who love and support me and, most of all, I have done it without the interference of narrow-minded bigots who hide behind the concept of some mystical being to espouse their own petty ideals.

      If your god does exist Tom you are the one who has not found ‘completeness’.

  18. Tom 2 years ago
  19. Claudia C 2 years ago

    Tom, apparently you do not know scripture too well. Granted that the area of CD/TS are debated throughout Christianity, how did you come to this point of view?

    Did you consider that the Bible itself tells of stories of various sexual acts. The stories in the Old Testament are stories passed down throughout generations until it was written text.It is the meaning of the words that is important.

    Granted, ultimate salvation comes from getting the wisdom and knowledge that the Lord can teach us, it is also how it is interpreted over time. How can you just outright call what we are doing is not knowing the Lord and being a sin.

    I am a Christian and have come to terms that to be the best person I can be involves my crossdressing and my family.As the Lord looks down upon us, he will see me in a mini skirt instead of shorts. Either way, I am being the best person I can become.


  20. Codille Benton 2 years ago


    I applaud that you are a man of faith and strong belief. I am also a man of strong belief, who crossdresses. Let start with the easy one, man was made in God’s image. If God didn’t want me to crossdress he wouldn’t have put it in my head to do it. God gave man free will, think that one kind of covers itself. Man is sinful. All people sin, none of us are perfect. In the Christian religion there has only been one man to walk the Earth without sin, our Savior Jesus Christ and what did he do? He let himself be crucified for the forgiveness of ALL of mans sins. Not just some, not just ones today’s society doesn’t get or agree with, all of them. I have been crossdressing for 32 years and fought with this issue for about 25 years until I realized. We are all God’s children and he loves us, he gave us free will to express ourselves and our individuality. He didn’t make us just puppet’s to be controlled by his hand, he wanted us to express ourselves. This is how I want to express myself, my individuality, my uniqueness. And God made me this way. And even if crossdressing is a sin, which based on the Bible I don’t think it is. Jesus saved us sinners. In the long run, if I am complete or not if between me and God.

    Codille Benton

  21. Kellie 2 years ago

    I love to dress up, unfortunately my spouse hates it, so I spend a lot of time “In the closet” I have often thought about suicide, but think that’s the coward in me. I don’t have anyone to confide in and have thought about joining a group like AA for cross dressers. But I don’t believe in a god that would make a “man” who abused me and made me hate men, especially myself so there you go. I guess I’m posting this looking for some help of some kind. I’m not sure if I’m trans but certainly a CD.
    I would appreciate any good feedback to lizzardman@Hotmail.ca

  22. Danielle(Dani) 2 years ago

    Patricia mentioned above several transgender identities and said “that’s okay.” Absolutely! I like to tell people that no matter where anyone identifies under the transgender umbrella, we’re like Baskin Robbins ice cream, 31 flavors chillin in the cooler together.

    I am very new to truly discovering myself. And I must yield to Vanessa’s wisdom and experience. But I once and and even still recently thought I was a crossdresser. I went through some very intense inward looking. I have in large part the wonderful environment this site provides to thank for a place with which to do that searching.

    I now know that I’m not a crossdresser. But here I don’t know if some would call me a true transsexual either. I don’t know where the road will lead. Currently I identify as gender fluid and plan on beginning HRT and more before too long. I guess my point would be that with all things transgender, it isn’t always going to be a clear either or. But, sometimes I’m sure it’s very clear cut for someone and I certainly would not tell them they are wrong. They would know best for themselves.

    But like I said, plenty of room in the cooler for another flavor to come in and chill.

  23. DawnOday 2 years ago

    I have been this way since birth. I realized it about five when I would only play with the girls. Hop Scotch, jacks, tether ball, dress-up. In the fourth grade I started playing baseball. As I migrated into adulthood I would babysit for my sister, put the kids to bed and locked myself into my sisters bedroom. Then the desire to express myself outweighed the success of my marriage. I kept trying to find ways out. I finally did after two and a half years. Keep in mind Wen was beautiful and a nympho of sorts. No amount of hetero sex made a difference in fact sex was the last thing on my mind. I would carry out the act but I was detached and distant. I worked nights, she worked days, so I would dress up in the daytime. Then I concocted the story that Wen cheated on me. Which she did. But it was my fault. I drove her into the arms of another. When we split my focus was not on getting back together it was about the freedom to dress whenever I want. About three years later I met JoAnn. She found out early that I dressed up, and has never brought it up. I continued to dress for our 30 years together. Luckily JoAnn understands and knows the reason we have not had sexual relations in twenty five years. She also knows I love her very deeply. She has been my rock through good and bad. Undoubtedly the strongest women i have ever met. I have been to therapy at least five times each with the purpose of discussing my dysphoria, but I chickened out each time instead telling the Therapist I was stressed.
    This year was mine and Wen’s 40th anniversary and I decided to start investigating what really happened to our marriage. At the same time I was having a melt down at home. I had always been angry; which my wife JoAnn does not deserve. It’s driven away my love, my friends, my family. I used to pray to be miraculously transformed into the women I always felt I was. Now I don’t really have a fem bone in my body. But I know, deep down that something is not right. I finally was truthful to the Therapist and we began discussing my dysphoria. I also said I was searching for answers why Wen and I split. It was a kick to the gut, but the therapist said, that it was I who sabotaged our relationship. It immediately made sense. It was like the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders. Two sessions later Kristi asked if I would like HRT. She has written the letter and the administering Doc has asked the department head if my health problems would interfere. He called me back to make an appointment. So far so good.
    I had been studying the causes to be transgender and most what I’ve seen is it is not something we actually choose. It is a more like it chooses us. From an early age. I have been sick for a long time as my heart was defective at birth. As I grew older I had a Tia or mini stroke. Congestive heart failure, high cholesterol, defective aortic valve, diabetes. I also did not develop a normal penis and my testes did not drop until I was a senior in High School. In my research I came across some medical information that may have changed my life. DES or diethylstilbestrol is a synthetic female hormone given to pregnant women, from 1937 to 1972, to control miscarriages and stillbirths. My Mom had a history of miscarriages. I can’t prove it because Moms medical records are long gone. But certain indicators suggest she was given this drug. My heart disease, and it’s severity, the age when the heart could not be silent anymore was my very early 40’s. My genital timeline finally made sense. DES if administered in the week 10 timeframe does reduce the testosterone that formed my body and genitals and replaces it with massive doses of synthetic female hormones 3000 – 4000 times more than required to form the brain.. In fact studies led to the banning of DES in the early 70’s. This is fine except the testosterone present during the formation of my body was not present for the development of my brain I’ve finally had the breakthrough that I believe tells my life story.
    I told my therapist that, yes, I would indeed want to take female hormones. I hope it relieves the inner turmoil I have always suffered from. But alas, I can’t do much more than hormones at my age and the time it takes to fully transition and the costs are not possible at this time.
    I guess my point being don’t deny your feelings. Don’t wait 60 years to do something about it. There is easy to access help out there that was not available when I was in my twentys. Seek a therapist for starters and be honest. What you do is not perversion it is an inner urning to be who you were intended to be. Be confident as that is the biggest aid to transitioning. Don’t worry about passing. Be worried about being accepted for the person you have become and expect nothing less.
    If you want to read more on DES go to the DESACTION.ORG website

    Thanks for reading

    • Rhae 2 years ago

      hi Dawn loved your story i lived most of my life trying to figure out why i thougt and felt different then everybody else i have a very strong female side and i ve my male side i enjoy both sides but i used to surpress my female side and because of this i suffered from self doubt and no self esteem then 6 years ago i met my wife and with bher awsome suport i found me the word i use to describe my self is pangender i never had a problem with my male side but i was hideing and supressing my female side now thanks to people like you my wife and the rest of the new friends i have met on this site i am now becoming whole i’m no longer confuseded about my identity. yes it is very impotant to be true to who you are because if you don’t have your self you ha nothing but confusion and lonelyness i would love to chat with you more peace and hugs Rhae

  24. Lola Subm 1 year ago

    Thanks for your insight.

  25. jennie jaye 1 year ago

    Over the years it seems to come and go. Right now I am in the throes of being jennie jaye…dressing most everyday…definitely panties and tops….started herbals (too scared of hormones just yet) ….I recently came to grips my sexuality with sexuality and realized that I have been gay for years. It’s very complicated because I am married to a straight vanilla lady and we have basically become roommates’. I respect her and love her like a good friend, but we have not been ‘active’ (if you know what I mean) for over 10 years . I’d love to go full time and embrace the woman I know I am inside…but she does not approve and she is still very important in my life.

  26. Robin Twain 1 year ago

    Dani I can so relate. I “just came out” recently, and instead of just enjoying the ride I’m fixated on CD or Transsexual? Maybe its both? Maybe I’m “two years away?” I love your advice – we’re all different flavors; born with complexities most people don’t have and all at different places on the female – male spectrum. One thing I bless now instead of curse is our “gift” albeit misunderstood, many times by ourselves. Every day now is a precious gift I will no longer take for granted. xxxooo Robin

  27. Well put Vanessa. I am a crossdresser through and through, although I’m definitely not in to the impossible to walk in 5″ heels category! I love “playing” a woman at times, but for me it is a part time thing – almost a hobby. I really respect those who have and are going through transition. I can’t imagine the difficulties involved.

    Anyway, vive la difference!


  28. kelly mayes 11 months ago

    excellent article… I have a cross dresser that is wondering if he is a tranny.. lol… I think after he plays in clothes and entertains someone who truely appreciates treating him like a woman and he enjoys being submissive and feeling man handled and dominated.. then for a few sprung days or weeks he may feel his feminine side is stronger .. but as the sprungness wears off.. he is happy being the man he has always been and does not feel trapped or misunderstood.. he is fine with having a feminine version of himself and enjoys the clothes and makeup and perfume and the direct sexual hands on attention it brings from his male playmates that enjoy him with the girl stuff on.. its a turn on for both of them.. so whats the harm.. we have been together for 30 years and have a grown adult daughter. I am a female… I love him either way and find it fun to see him enjoy opening his mind and body up to a world of satisfaction that I could never truely give him. We are the BEST of friends and parents and totally in love with each other. We discuss the mental aspects of all of this with open minds trying to figure out why it is he is turned on by it and I am just a tom boy type of girl.. always have been.. but love men or love bisexual men as we have all played together over the years too.. but he loves playing with men that only like gay men and only like crossdresser men or like transsexuals… he has tried being with feminine transexuals dressed up.. but it is more the role he wants to play.. and he ends up wanting them to dominate him still.. lol… so it seems to be mental role play with dressup and smells to carry the imagination and excitement further.. just a bunch of adults having fun.. no victims here… everyone basically NO strings attached fun… it works for us and his playmates..
    we enjoyed your article and think he is more of a cross dresser.. but as the years go by the enjoyment of the feminine side of him makes him more feminine in his “straight male role”.. even if he does not see it as much.. i do.. I love him no matter how he feels forever. and he loves me unconditionally.. I tell him some day he may get super sprung and fall in love with one of his playmates .. especially repeated with same person off and on for months if not years.. but he says no.. time will tell.. haha… I think we are buddies for life no matter what happens… 😉

    • Wendy L L 7 months ago

      I found your article wonderful. I hope that I can find a lady as understanding as you in my life someday soon.

  29. Saunie 10 months ago

    After reading this article I am more inclined then ever to believe that Bruce/Caitlin Jenner was in fact a cross dresser and pressured by some in the glbt community to come out as transgender. Watching KUWTK & I am Cait just didnt seem or feel authentic to me. Especially when Caitlins friends started talking reassignment surgery. I for one don’t by the story that reassignment surgery was done. No one goes from being that skeptical and at that age to boom i had my penis removed 6 months later.

  30. Kelliann Tgurl 10 months ago

    WoW….Thanks for helping me to somewhat understand my situation…..Mentally I AM 90% Female, 100% attracted to Women. I Want to Transition into a non-op Female……I AM KELLIANN!!!!!

    • Lisbeth Lacy 7 months ago

      Kellann, most transwoman do not have gender re-assignment surgery because of the high cost or for medical or personal reasons. And many cannot do HRT because of existing medical conditions. Most transgender people transition socially. Social transition includes wearing clothes that matches your gender identification, voice feminization, hair removal, cosmetic surgery, official name change, growing your hair out or wearing wigs,or hair transplant and most importantly learning to live life as a female. Dedicated crossdresser usually do all the above except for living life as an authentic woman.

  31. Zoba 9 months ago

    My bf is a cross dresser . I love him and I’m trying to accept this fact it’s very hard I didn’t see it coming at all. We broke up before he informed me and when we decided to meet up and talk he told me he dresses like a woman twice a week. I was shocked he’s very manly no one would ever expect such thing from him. He told me he had slept with men before and he didn’t feel comfortable . He likes woman and he wants a normal relationship with a woman who would accept the cross dressing part. Help me is it normal for a straight man to be a cross dresser?

    • Lisbeth Lacy 7 months ago

      Zoba, most male crossdressers are not gay. Mostly they are married and have a families. It is estimated that 4 out 10 men engage in crossdressing.

    • Shanna gurl 9 months ago

      Hello I am Shanna a CD and was in that same thing my fiancé didn’t kno about my fem side when we lived together I put that part of me away but it always comes back she didn’t want a bi cross dresser for a hubby so we broke up it was better for both of us and good for me to not have to hide it now we are great friends she tells me about the guys she dates and so do I since I’ve decided not to hide my CD ways I’ve found so many great close friends of both sexes I don’t publicize my fem side but nice to not hide it

      • Zoba 9 months ago

        Thank you so much for taking the time to talk to me about this! I don’t mind my bf crossdressing and he doesn’t want it public but what I need to know if he would in the feature be gay or transsexual or bi. He said he wants a normal relationship with a woman but wants to dress when no ones around I told him I’ll help him dress I’m supporting him but my biggest fear is him finding out later in life that he’s not straight he’s gay or bi

  32. Erich 8 months ago

    Never has someone cleared up in a few paragraphs more than I have in 10 years. Thank you and thank you for your eloquent words and kind full thoughts.

  33. Lisbeth Lacy 7 months ago

    Thank you for the post about the differences between crossdressers and transgender woman. I had underlying feminine feelings and behaviors most of my life but I never Identity myself as being transgender or a crossdresser. Later in life I felt an overwhelming urge to crossdress as a woman. I never crossdressed but my urge felt familiar.I gave in to my urge and purchased some lingerie. My first time wearing a full set lingerie corset, panties, garter belt and nylons felt awesome and very sexually pleasing. Over short period of time dressing up in women clothes including wearing dresses, make up and wig begin to change from a sexual experience to me identifying as a woman in my mind. Identifying as a woman became an obsession. I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I felt confusion and even fear. Eventually I went on YouTube and found a lot of information about being transgender and I realized how much that I had in common. I had my testosterone tested and it was low. My checked me for klinefelter which is a chromosome disorder that only effects males. Males are born having XY chromosomes but if a male has klinefelter he has XXY chromosomes which considered a inter-sex condition. Having this condition the male is usually assigned male gender at birth. However with klinefelter the male has secondary physical features that are more feminine than masculine such as having smaller bone structure, less muscle development, less body hair, wider hips, narrower shoulders, and less testosterone than the average male. My doctor diagnosis was that I have a high probability having klinefelter and scheduled me for genetic testing for confirmation. Now I identify myself as bi-gender. More feminine than masculine. And I do wear my skinny jeans mo often than a dress. But I do love wearing a dress too.

  34. HARRYFRANCESWALKER 7 months ago

    Hi everyone nice evening I hope everyone is happy tonight I think that i will go out for a while and come home and play girl

  35. Lindy Roe 7 months ago

    This is very informative, and helped to partially clear up where I am on that colorful spectrum. Since I started CD, I find myself happier, open to expressing my thoughts, full of life, and yes, even more emotional. At first when I dressed it was for short periods of time, and when I went back to my man clothes I started to revert to my old unhappy self. I am now dressing as a lady more all of the time, resulting in a happier person. I am now partly of fully cross dressed 1/2 of the week. Unfortunately, that is as far as it can go.

    • PaulaPlaytex 2 weeks ago


  36. Veronica Raines 5 months ago

    I started wearing my mother’s clothes, when I was 13. I dressed as a woman, when I was 15, and went to a party at my high school. (It only had 52 kids, in the entire school). When I was 16, I left home, and even though I still had a lot of female feelings, I never cross dressed again. That was mostly, due to the Vietnam war, and being a private investigator for 35 years. In other words, I was too busy doing dangerous work, to allow myself to act on the female feelings, I still had. When I retired, I moved to Vegas, to become a pro poker player. However, even though, I became very good at poker, I couldn’t really concentrate on it, due to my feelings, arising again. I would spend, to much time, walking around the hot spots, where the women would go and party. Was it because of the women? No, it was the clothes they wore. I couldn’t keep my mind off, of thinking how good they would feel on me. When I was young, clothes, were clothes, even most of the girls clothes. In the past twenty years, women’s clothes, have become magnificently beautiful, and sexy. For the six years I was there, all I could think about was to wear their clothes. However, I was too busy, thinking I was a real man, due to the life, I’d lead. Coming back home, here in San Diego, I started getting away from that kind of thinking. I even made myself, stop wearing a gun. Then, about a month ago, I again, started feeling a great urge, to wear some of the clothes, women were wearing. Not knowing what I was doing, I started buying lingerie on the net. Most of the clothes, were to small. The one’s that wasn’t, I started wearing, and boy, do I feel good. I didn’t know anything about, transgenders, and actual cross dressers, until I come across this site, on the internet. However, before that, I started watching porn. I hadn’t watched it for over 20 years. At first, I watched the beautiful women, and then, I found myself, watching the men, more than the women. Man, was that a shock to the nervous system. Was I gay? Am I gay? I’m 76 years old, and I couldn’t believe, what was going through my mind. I’ve never had anything against, gay people, in fact, I have a few friends in the gay community. I love wearing women’s clothing. It makes me feel whole, but I couldn’t fathom, me, being gay. After reading what the lady wrote about the difference, between transexuals, and crossdressers, only helped me to understand, that I’m too old, to go through any kind of operations, to be a real girl, even if I wanted to be one, and—– I do. So, I guess, I’m just a crossdresser, that loves to wear womans clothes, and feel a lot like one. Plus, I may also be a bit gay. I know one thing for sure. I need a lot of help, learning how to buy women’s clothes, and learning how to buy the right makeup, and learning how to put in on correctly, because nothing is going to stop me, from dressing as a girl.

    • PaulaPlaytex 2 weeks ago


    • mel 3 months ago

      Very interesting what you wrote and i would love to interview you on my podcast and also assist you. Get back to me please

  37. Lisbeth Lacy 4 months ago

    Many of once struggle with the question, “I’m I a cross dresser or I’m I transgender?”. There is no medical test available to objectively determine if a person is transgender. The current scientific studies indicate that your gender identity is form in the womb and gender identity cannot be changed after birth. It’s likely that a person is borne being transgender. And it’s unlikely that a person choose to be transgender. Scientist also speculate that there are degrees of transgenderism. Some people may experience strong overwhelming dysphoria and others may experience mild or no dysphoria. Based on the scientific studies its likely that that transgender is a genetic condition that begin during pre-natal stage of life where as cross dressing is behavior. However both crossdressers and transsexuals engage in transgender expression. Because cross dressers engage in transgender expression, cross dressing is included as part of the transgender umbrella.
    How do I know that I’m transgender and not a cross dresser. To answer this question will involve a journey of self discovery. self reflection, learning, experimentation. counseling or therapy. The answer may come quickly or may take a lot of time. Experiment with cross dressing. Learn how you feel about yourself when you cross dress. If you feel uncomfortable that may indicate that you’re not transgender or a cross dresser. I believe that there is no bright line that separates cross dressers from transgender folks. The main difference is what’s going on in the mind. Our true gender is hardwired in our brain. For most of us our gender clearly aligns with our biological sex. For some of us gender disconnect is clearly felt and for others we experience gender confusion.

  38. Celeste Able 3 months ago

    I’ve been dressing since I was in my teens. As with most cross dressers I would buy cloths then after awhile throw them away but would always get the urge to dress again and start the cycle all over again. After a very long time I couldn’t hold back anymore. I came out to my wife finally. Over the years she had found stuff and thought I was having an affair. Now that she knows she is very supportive. We go shopping together and she picks out outfits for me. Life has never been better

  39. colleen 3 months ago

    thank you for all these stories, they are so familiar and sweet to read, ide love to spend some time and post my cross dressing history for all the silk loving ladies who read this.

  40. EliseMichelle Michelle 2 months ago

    Thank you so much for these articles. I know this is an old one, but I’m new to the site and it is still so relevant. It reinforces my belief that I am a CD and not transexual. For the most part, I’m comfortable in my male body, but there are times I prefer to be “en femme”. But its not all the time, and i don’t feel uncomfortable or “wrong” as a male. It’s weird, cause I kind of feel like I’m two people in one body. Maybe I’m just crazy. Anyway, thanks for your insights.

  41. […] จริงๆแล้วเส้นแบ่งระหว่างการแต่งหญิง (Crossdressing) กับการเป็นคนข้ามเพศ (Transsexuality) อยู่ตรงไหนกันแน่ เพื่อความไม่เยิ่นเย้อ ขอเขียนเฉพาะเจาะจงไปในกรณี ผู้ชายแต่งหญิง vs ผู้หญิงข้ามเพศ แต่งหญิง แต่งไปเพื่ออะไร ก่อนอื่นต้องขออธิบายก่อนว่าการแต่งตัวข้ามเพศไม่ได้เป็นสิ่งที่มีแต่ในการ์ตูนหรือสังคมญี่ปุ่น มีผู้คนในประเทศอื่นๆทั่วโลกที่มีความสุขและสนุกกับการแต่งตัวข้ามเพศ ในบางกรณี การแต่งตัวข้ามเพศเป็นพฤติกรรมสะท้อนปัญหาภายในใจ (อย่างเวลาเป็นผู้ชายไม่ได้รับความสนใจ แต่พอแต่งหญิงก็มีคนเข้ามาชมว่าน่ารัก) แต่ในหลายๆกรณี การแต่งตัวข้ามเพศเป็นเพียงแค่-ความชอบส่วนตัว-ในระดับเดียวกับงานอดิเรก เป็นความชอบส่วนตัวที่อาจไม่ได้มีจุดเริ่มต้นมาจากปัจจัยอย่างหน้าตาที่ค่อนไปทางผู้หญิงมากกว่า หรือการที่แต่งหญิงออกมาแล้วน่ารัก อย่างในแฟนฟิคชั่นตะวันตก แง่มุมที่เราพบอยู่เรื่อยๆคือการแต่งหญิงในแง่ของการเพิ่มความตื่นเต้นในเรื่องเพศสัมพันธ์ หรืออารมณ์ทางเพศที่มากขึ้นเมื่อถูกทรีทเหมือนผู้หญิง (feminitization) ทีนี้มาถึงเรื่องคนข้ามเพศ (Transsexuality) ในประเทศไทยเราเห็นคนข้ามเพศกันทุกวัน เราเรียกคนเหล่านั้นว่า ตุ๊ด กะเทย ทอม เรามีมุมมองและความคิดเห็นต่างต่อคนเหล่านั้นที่ถูกหล่อหลอมมาด้วยสังคม แต่คนเหล่านั้นคือใครกันแน่ คนข้ามเพศหรือ trans คือกลุ่มคนที่มีจิตใจและความรู้สึกตรงข้ามกับเพศสภาพของตัวเอง เช่นเกิดมาเป็นผู้หญิงแต่จิตใจเป็นชาย เมื่อความรู้สึกนี้เติบโตขึ้นจึงเกิดเป็นความรู้สึกอยากให้คนรอบข้างมองว่าตนเป็นผู้ชาย และปฏิบัติเหมือนกับที่ปฏิบัติกับผู้ชายทั่วไป กลับมาที่คำถามของเรา ผู้ชายอยากแต่งหญิงกับผู้หญิงข้ามเพศจริงๆแล้วเหมือนกันหรือไม่ คำตอบคือ ไม่เหมือน แต่ไม่ได้แยกออกจากกันโดยสมบูรณ์ การที่ชอบหรืออยากแต่งหญิงอาจจะเป็นความรู้สึกโดดๆ หรืออาจจะเป็นความรู้สึกที่มีรากฐานมาจากความอยากเป็นผู้หญิงในใจ ผู้ชายคนหนึ่งอาจชอบแต่งหญิงโดยไม่อยากเป็นผู้หญิงก็ได้ และในทางเดียวกันผู้ชายคนหนึ่งอาจชอบแต่งหญิงเพราะลึกๆแล้วมีจิตใจเป็นหญิงก็ได้ เว็บ Crossdresserheaven ได้ให้คำแนะนำสำหรับกรณีนี้อย่างน่าสนใจว่า การจะพิจารณาว่าตัวเองเป็นคนข้ามเพศหรือไม่นั้น ให้สังเกตง่ายๆว่า     1. คิดว่าตัวเองเป็นผู้หญิงและอยากให้สังคมมองว่าเป็นผู้หญิง     2. อยากเป็นผู้หญิงด้วย ไม่ใช่แค่อยากแต่งหญิง     3. เมื่อเรียกตัวเองว่าเป็นผู้หญิงข้ามเพศแล้วก็พร้อมที่จะยอมรับผล(และความอยุติธรรม)ที่ตามมา จะไม่กลับไปเป็นชายเพราะเป็นเพศที่ง่ายกว่า     4. อยากเป็นผู้หญิงแม้การเป็นผู้หญิงจะมีความยุ่งยากในการใช้ชีวิต แม้ว่าการเป็นผู้หญิงจะไม่ได้แปลว่าจะได้ใส่ชุดสวยๆแต่งหน้าสวยๆตลอดเวลา […]

  42. Lynne Wilson 3 weeks ago

    Oh wow, even though this article is over 2 years old, it resonated within me. I’m a CD, but in the past couple weeks I’ve been researching this intensely as I have come out to a supportive wife. However, it’s been humbling to learn that I’m in fact somewhere along the transgender spectrum. It initially scared me to think that I migh in fact be TS. But upon reflection and research, I have discovered that although I do have a hidden female within myself, I am completely happy with my normal male role, particularly as a husband and father, and don’t feel the slightest bit disconnected from my male body. For me though, I’m 5% girl, and that 5% of the time I want to be 100% woman. However, my desired level of feminity is fairly narrowly defined in terms of dresses, heels, body shaping, wigs, and makeup. I have zero desire to live as an “everyday” woman in yoga pants or hair in a pony tail.

    It’s reassuring to hear that I’m not the only person going through this.

  43. Gracie Ann 2 weeks ago

    I think this is where i might be the most confused with myself bc i dont dress much, I fact i hardly ever dress other maybe some eye liner and nail polish but i don’t Necessarily feel l need to. I always feel like i should have been born a girl and yes I do put in the male fisade and portray myself that way but on the outside but I know its just not me. Being a father if 5 can have that affect i guess lol. I know ill never chose to live my life as a female or even go as far to go out in public dressed as on but i know in my soul who I should have been. Wow, I can’t believe im even admitting any of this. I guess this is a big first step for truly loving the perosn i am.
    This article has been very helpful

  44. Sally Bibrary 6 years ago

    Very well said, Vanessa – it’s a hard line to draw, and an even harder one to explain to others, but I think you did an amazing job.

    While I’ve always know I was more crossdresser than transsexual, it was a night out with our local transgender support group that provided the ultimate revelation. It was there, looking around at my sisters, that I recognized the difference between ‘being female’ and ‘expressing femininity’ . . . and realised the two are not the same.

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