I have to admit, I’ve been going full speed ahead with my research into how best to take care of my relationship, how best to show my love and affection for my guy and how to ensure we are both getting our needs met.
I’ve been reading articles on here for inspiration and information (many thanks to all you ladies) and looking at the adverts, which are giving me some really fun gift ideas for the future. I’m also in the middle of reading a book called “My Husband Wears My Clothes” by Peggy J Rudd, and I am really enjoying it.
I was in a quandary regarding names, but I wasn’t sure how to bring the subject up because I’m really bad at being subtle; I feel like it all came out seeming rather weird because of my nervousness. I seem to recall that we were getting ready to go somewhere, or maybe we were making breakfast, but it just kinda came out and I asked, “Am I supposed to be calling you another name when you are dressed up?”
I could tell it was a bit of a shock, coming out of the blue like this, but he recovered quickly and it started a wonderful conversation.
It turns out he had picked a name that was close to his own boy’s name, but he felt it was not really what it ought to be, it just didn’t feel right; he wasn’t even entirely sure a name was necessary. He talked about how he’d read a lot about it, but wasn’t sure if he, all dressed up, was a whole other person, or if it was just him dressed up.
He knew the logic of why guys choose a feminine name and it interested him, but I felt like it was a big step that he wasn’t quite ready to make, because until I came along, ‘she’ was completely hidden and scared. With lots and lots of love and encouragement, she (the gender we’ll now use) now wears more feminine clothes out and about and she is so confident and happy, it brings such warmth to my heart.
We started talking names. I got my internet up we started looking at lists of baby names. We would both throw them out in turn and say them a couple of times to get a feel for them. Although she didn’t fully land on one, I think the seed is planted and she will be trying some of them soon.
Now I guess I wanted to ask anyone else who stumbles upon this post: Is a name necessary? How did you pick yours? Did you ever struggle with picking a name or did you think it unnecessary? Is there a certain meaning behind your choice?
As William Shakespeare wrote, “What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.”
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@Clara Frye just came accross this, I am new here, joined yesterday after finding out two weeks ago about my husbands cross dressing. Its been a rollercoaster but i am so happy to have found this group. This article is so me right now, because i had this exact convo with hubby earlier, i said ummm so do you have a name? he said yeah you know my name, i was like ummm no the other part of you? He said he doesnt know what i am talking about. However, he clearly did know what I was talking about because… Read more »
@Clara Frye just came accross this, I am new here, joined yesterday after finding out two weeks ago about my husbands cross dressing. Its been a rollercoaster but i am so happy to have found this group. This article is so me right now, because i had this exact convo with hubby earlier, i said ummm so do you have a name? he said yeah you know my name, i was like ummm no the other part of you? He said he doesnt know what i am talking about. However, he clearly did know what I was talking about because… Read more »
I completely owe that understanding and my asking because of my 24 hours on this site and learning more, someone commented earlier today to one of my replies to say have I asked his name, and thats why i did it, and it went very well. The power of this group for people like me trying to understand and support cannot be put into words. I hope you get that special moment from your wife soon.
I completely owe that understanding and my asking because of my 24 hours on this site and learning more, someone commented earlier today to one of my replies to say have I asked his name, and thats why i did it, and it went very well. The power of this group for people like me trying to understand and support cannot be put into words. I hope you get that special moment from your wife soon. Thanks. I hope so too, but I will take progress forward in whatever form it takes. She has slipped and called me girl or… Read more »
@Lindsey Davis that is very true, always a positive…… I bet i do that by accident with hubby, i will just have to style it out, and say yeah its our little joke, dont ask….