I have to admit, I’ve been going full speed ahead with my research into how best to take care of my relationship, how best to show my love and affection for my guy and how to ensure we are both getting our needs met.
I’ve been reading articles on here for inspiration and information (many thanks to all you ladies) and looking at the adverts, which are giving me some really fun gift ideas for the future. I’m also in the middle of reading a book called “My Husband Wears My Clothes” by Peggy J Rudd, and I am really enjoying it.
I was in a quandary regarding names, but I wasn’t sure how to bring the subject up because I’m really bad at being subtle; I feel like it all came out seeming rather weird because of my nervousness. I seem to recall that we were getting ready to go somewhere, or maybe we were making breakfast, but it just kinda came out and I asked, “Am I supposed to be calling you another name when you are dressed up?”
I could tell it was a bit of a shock, coming out of the blue like this, but he recovered quickly and it started a wonderful conversation.
It turns out he had picked a name that was close to his own boy’s name, but he felt it was not really what it ought to be, it just didn’t feel right; he wasn’t even entirely sure a name was necessary. He talked about how he’d read a lot about it, but wasn’t sure if he, all dressed up, was a whole other person, or if it was just him dressed up.
He knew the logic of why guys choose a feminine name and it interested him, but I felt like it was a big step that he wasn’t quite ready to make, because until I came along, ‘she’ was completely hidden and scared. With lots and lots of love and encouragement, she (the gender we’ll now use) now wears more feminine clothes out and about and she is so confident and happy, it brings such warmth to my heart.
We started talking names. I got my internet up we started looking at lists of baby names. We would both throw them out in turn and say them a couple of times to get a feel for them. Although she didn’t fully land on one, I think the seed is planted and she will be trying some of them soon.
Now I guess I wanted to ask anyone else who stumbles upon this post: Is a name necessary? How did you pick yours? Did you ever struggle with picking a name or did you think it unnecessary? Is there a certain meaning behind your choice?
As William Shakespeare wrote, “What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.”
I use my real first name. I just changed the last letter to I because it’s a more feminine spelling.
so pretty
I used the letters in my real full name to come up with a female name, but still used the the original first letter. I thought it important to decide on a feminine name to match my persona.
you are beautifu
Diana Urge. One month ago, this was a one night, like, I just bought panties, tried them on, loved it, and want the next step. Today, it is tights, bra and high heels too. Loving it all
@Diana Urge It’s a slippery slope Diana. No point in fighting it. Enjoy the journey hun xx.
you understand, i am falling into it, quick
Today, all day in undergarments and heels, excited and scared
Really enjoying it tonight, totally girlled out, silicone fake breasts and all, I am all decked out, loving my pretty self
Valid question, Sweetie. I chose a femme name because I felt she was a total person – part of my male personna but an entire person on her own. I originally went with “Julie New-Ma’am", a tribute to my FAVORITE actress and icon, Julie Newmar. But I soon felt that was more of a “drag name" and I felt Julie was a true person, not a character. So I chose a last name similar to my actual family name, but different enough to keep Julie under cover from my guy-side associates. I’m happy to see you be so enthusiastic and… Read more »
At first, I considered using a different sir name, too, but so long as we don’t friend ourselves on social media and different e-mail accounts, etc., it is really difficult to tie ourselves to each other. But I know what you mean.
If you use your original sir name, it is a bit easier to get credit card accounts with your en femme name, though.
@Harriette Valid point, but as my family name is VERY ethnic (Italian) it would be a dead giveaway to my male personna. And since I do not plan to fully transition, I see no need for credit cards or ID or stuff like that.
@Julie Shaw Modern surnames are not related to gender, but if you only use your new one on-line, it won’t matter.
@Harriette – sorry, I didn’t mean to imply my surname has gender. I meant that it’s very unique and one of a kind, so if a female appeared with that same surname, my male-side friends would get suspicious.
My last is pretty rare, too. The last time that I checked, there were maybe 6 in our whole province with it. One day, I was surprised by reading a newspaper to find someone with it in trouble with the law. Fortunately, we were not related. 😇
Took my name from a lovely girl i knew from high school, just changed the spelling a bit.
Me too Ruth orozco to me Ruth Orosco
I used another name that looks feminine.
It took me several times to make a name fit who I felt like the person I am. I don’t know why, but I always liked the name Susie, but it just did not fit. I tried it out for several years but felt it did not reflect me. From there I settled on Jan as it was close to my male name, but again, it did not feel right to me. I kept it as a screen name on a couple of sites that belonged to at the time, but it just wasn’t for me. After awhile, I came… Read more »
@Janice Doe I was originally going to call myself Janice, after the only 6′ tall lady I ever met, over 30 years ago now. Then I decided I was going to be Fiona and Janice became my middle name 🙂 Hugs, Fiona xxx
@Clara Frye Hi Clara. I picked Tia from looking into my family history and it just hit me. I had thought of another name first, but I want to reserve that one for my writing. I chose Wells for a surname because cross dressing makes me feel well. For me, a name is necessary because some of my family is UBER judgmental and I will keep Tia for my friends, both here and the ones I meet in person.
Hi Clara, I picked Jennifer because I have always been enamored with that name. When I was in kindergarten, we sat 2 chairs to a desk. My desk mate was a girl named Jennifer and at the time, I thought she was the loveliest thing on God’s green earth and not only that, I absolutely loved her name. Don’t know why I did, but I did. So, when I got to the point in my life that I wanted to choose a female name, I naturally picked hers and from then on, I was off and running!!! Thanks for the… Read more »
It’s always intresting finding out the where & why of the names people choose for themsleves. Everyone seems to have a different answer.
I guess i’m in the minority with keeping my real birth name.
I was fortunate to be christened with a non-binary name & for it to have a more trationally female spelling (though I have come across one other male named Lea).
The biggest advantage is that I never get misnamed whichever way i’m presenting!
Lea xx