Pam, a dear reader of Crossdresser Heaven asked me a rather insightful question over email last week. When does a lady move from being a crossdresser to being a transgendered woman?
Now, many of us use the term “transgender” as an umbrella term to cover many points along the gender spectrum. I covered some of the terminology in an article that helps readers understand crossdressing. For the sake of the question though, I’m going to assume that Pam is referring to transgender as a step somewhere along the journey to full womanhood.
When I first started Crossdresser Heaven I thought of myself as a crossdresser. A man who enjoyed dressing in woman’s clothing and expressing as the feminine gender. Over the last two years I’ve started thinking of myself as transgender. I no longer think of myself as male, at least not fully male. Rather than an occasional activity I consider presenting as a woman the true expression of my gender identity. There is a joy, peace and rightness I experience when I present as a woman in the world. The seductive thrill of escape has been replaced by a freedom – a musical symphony of the soul – that I have never experienced before.
In my opinion one moves from being a crossdresser to being a transgendered woman when they consider themselves a woman – they identify as a woman. What do you think? When is a crossdresser no longer a crossdresser?
Bringing out your feminine Voice?
Your participation in the regular polls on Crossdresser Heaven always brings me joy! I love hearing your thoughts on all sorts of topics related to the transgender community. If you have a poll you’d like to run on Crossdresser Heaven get in touch and let me know what you’d like to ask the lovely ladies in the community. You could be featured on the next Crossdresser Heaven poll 🙂
In last week’s poll you shared your secrets for sounding more feminine and expressing your transgender voice. Almost half of you talk softly to mask your masculine voice, with a quarter keeping your voices even softer and trying not to speak unless you absolutely have to. I can well understand the fear of speaking as a woman, and how easily it is to out yourself. It requires a lot of practice to develop a passable voice. Talking softly can help you get by if you occasionally crossdress and find that many hours spent practicing just aren’t worth the payoff.
I’d also encourage you to be confident, smile and be yourself. There’s nothing like a pleasant disposition to lift another’s chance of acceptance (if not the tone of your voice…). If you avoid speaking at all costs you could very well seem stranger than a woman with a full bodied voice 🙂
Until next time – may your life song sing with a voice as sweet as the divine feminine within you.
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