I have been thinking about this for some time.

With that said, I hope to inspire and to encourage those who struggle with who they are and those who are discovering that there is more to being themselves than they realized.

To Begin.

Who are We?

Are we freaks?

Mentally ill?

Are we gay? TG?

What if we are none of these?

What if we are people who just see the world through a different lens on life?

For Myself, my body is male, but the essence of my soul is female.

Dressing is just my outward public display of who I am, of who I wish to be. It feels natural and complete.

Others may see it is a sexual exploration; a wish to see things from a female side.

Some want to explore their femininity; to wear beautiful clothes and express their female traits in the way they act.

Are any of these concepts wrong? Perverted? Sick?

I do not believe so. It is not for me to make that judgement.

God made each of us as who we are. We can be nothing less.

To be at peace with one’s self we must first accept that we do not fit society’s concept of the norm.

That it is OK to be who we are.

Many will not accept who we are, but there are always those who find a reason to dislike a group of people.

For those of you who struggle with who you are, think on this; you don’t have anything to prove.

We are not here to prove anything to anyone.

Nor do we need to try to force others to accept what we are.

You need only to learn who You are; to find peace with who you are.

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Many of us struggled for years trying to figure out where we fit in.

We don’t.  We are a group unto ourselves. As many others are as well.

We are just another group of the many that make up humanity.

There are many here that have SO’s that accept who they are and have wonderful and loving relationships. They have accepted who each other is.

It is my opinion that both had to first accept who they themselves were, and then to realize that the other, regardless of how they dressed, was still the person they loved.

Do not be afraid of who you are. Accepting who you are is the first step at being at peace.

There will always be struggles in life.

I argued, I prayed, and I begged God to make me normal.

Take this stone from around my neck!

Something changed.

Peace came about me.

I understood.

This Is how God made me.

This is who I am.

I can be none other.

You see; we are who WE are.

I set my soul free upon the wind.

Travel wherever it may

Until the stars up in the heavens

Upon the ground do lay


I wrote this poem years ago,

I hope it will inspire you to believe in yourself,

In Who you are







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    Haley Ann
    6 months ago

    Thank you for sharing from your heart! Questions I have asked myself about myself many times…


    Amelia Love
    6 months ago

    Thank you Catherine for sharing this lovely poem. As I am doing everything I can to embrace who I am I also struggle with the fear of accepting it. Your words are a blessing to mind and soul.
    Hugs Amelia

    Active Member
    6 months ago

    I’m thinking this is probably the single yet clearest article of self acceptance. When I was a kid. Regardless of color or age you were associated by groups. Those groups were partly by appearance but mostly by actions. For example if you were called a jock you were sports oriented. If you were a hood you probably looked and acted rebellious. If you were a nerd probably a little goofy and klutzy (not the brain child like today’s nerd) a tomboy was a girl with boyish characteristics. A sissy was a boy feminine traits and actions (not the tutu porn… Read more »

    6 months ago
    Reply to  Mae

    this is too funny, 3 weeks I met with a pastor and his elders about my being dressed in the church and would I honor them and not wear femme cloths…I told them sure-if all the women wore knee length dresses to church…and an interesting dialogue surrounding the “cultural acceptance of clothing ensued… there is a text book I recently finished reading called the sociology of cloths…it goes in-depth and is very enlightening to how I even understood clothing and social fashion acceptance

    Alicia Bennett
    6 months ago

    You said the things I never could. Thanks for writing it.

    6 months ago

    Very inspirational. Thank you for sharing your insight.

    Rebecca Leeann Allen
    6 months ago

    Thanks for the post it was a very good article, I will send it to a friend who had the same discussion a couple of nights ago.

    Isabelle O'Malley
    6 months ago

    To know God accepts unconditionally is the greatest reward to the soul no matter how others see us. One day I felt overwhelming compelled to wear my pink bubble gum leggings to the gym instead of my usual guy shorts (I did wear a normal unisex T-shirt though). My SO thought it was a really bad idea but I mansplained to her it was something I had to do. Have to say that the looks I initially received when I stepped out onto the main floor were borderline hostile (or maybe that was my fear asserting itself?) but after awhile… Read more »

    6 months ago

    Thanks for posting for all to share, I think everyone here at CDH has had a struggle with self identity, it’s always helpful to know your not alone.

    Tonya Leren
    6 months ago

    This is absolutely beautiful. I am getting myself to be who I am but still struggle daily wondering, am I going to far, is this really what I want, what if as you said in not accepted. It’s hard sometimes to push past the basics of living yourself for who you are and not trying to be who others want you to be. Thank you so much for this.

    Trusted Member
    6 months ago

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful, uplifting poem with us, Catherine.

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