I heard a newscaster ask one day “Just who are crossdressers we hear about from time to time?” It started me thinking about that very question and the more I thought, the more I decided it might be a good idea to put it down on paper. Here are the results.

To start with, let’s first make it crystal clear who we are not.

We are not those people you see regularly on the Jerry Springer show. Yes, they put on a dress and profess to be crossdressers. But they’re a far cry from a real crossdresser. The problem is that this tiny group of people are the very ones who are in the limelight and produce all the negative images that are so degrading to those of us who aren’t that way at all. We are not the perverts, child molesters, murderers or sensationalists seen on TV, internet news and read about in the news every day either.

So Who Are WE?

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We’re the doctors who have performed life-saving operations upon you and your loved ones. We’re the airline pilots who have taken the responsibility for your safety at 600 mph going up to 40,000 feet. We’re the dentists who relieved your toothache or attended to your braces so you would have a pretty smile and healthy teeth. We’re the policemen who risk our lives daily to keep you safe from the criminal element that is so rampant in our society today. We’re the soldiers who have gone to battle and returned home missing a foot, hand, arm, leg, or worse yet come home in a cold steel box. We’re people in the trades such as carpenters, electricians, and plumbers who built the house you live in. We’re the politicians all the way from the mayors of the smallest towns to senators, congressmen, and high-ranking military leaders.

Some of us were at Pearl Harbor on Dec 7, 1941. Or in the World Trade Center on 9/11 when tragedy struck home. And some of us were the fireman and emergency medical technicians who were inside those three buildings when they collapsed. Yet others were those of us who faced the gruesome task of recovering the bodies we could find and mourning those we couldn’t.

We’re the truck drivers who sacrifice weeks at a time away from home delivering your goods and services. We’re the farmers who work to keep food on your table. We’re the teachers who educated you and who are now educating your children. We’re your pastors and Sunday school teachers. We’re the common citizens who rolled up our sleeves and gave blood when disaster strikes. We’re the ones who cared enough to donate our organs in order to save lives. When that tornado or flood or whatever other disasters come along, we were the ones who neglected our own needs and dug in to help everybody else. We’re the ones who were out in the cold, rain and lightening the night that awful storm came through and knocked out all the power just so you wouldn’t freeze to death. We’re the mechanics who fixed your vehicle; the construction workers who built the roads you drive on everyday. We’re the waiters who served your meal when you went out to dinner last week. We’re the ambulance drivers who got you to the hospital safely after that bad crash. We’re the friends and neighbors who supported you and gave you a shoulder to cry on when a loved one passed away. We’re the drivers who cared enough to stop and see if we could help you when your vehicle quit and left you stranded on the roadside that cold and rainy night.  Remember that star quarterback that scored the winning touchdown in the biggest football game of the season? That’s right, he is a crossdresser also. And let’s not forget about his teammates and coach. Football isn’t the only team we’re members of.

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Who Are We? We are everybody and everyone. Crossdressing crosses all barriers of race, creed, age, national origin and social status. Realizing that 10% of the male population crossdresses to some extent makes it pretty obvious that you know several of us. You just aren’t aware of it because society has not yet educated itself about us. There remains a great deal of ignorance within society about crossdressing. Until society Does acknowledge that we are no more abnormal than any of the rest of its average members, we are forced to maintain our anonymous position.

Crossdressing is not a disease and it’s not something to be fearful of. It’s not contagious so you won’t have to be concerned about someone passing it on to you. It’s something one is born with. The primary reason for crossdressing is to provide an outwardly visible outlet of expression to an invisible inward feeling and emotion. It has nothing at all to do with one’s sexual persuasion; (I just find crossdressing relaxing from everyday stress).

The next time you see someone pointing an accusing finger at a crossdresser, poking fun at them and proclaiming them to be a freak/pervert/fag, stop and think about this. What if that crossdresser happened to be one of those people listed above who possibly did something in the past that saved your life or that of someone you love. Just how perverted was that person at that time?

Going a step further, what if this person is one destined to save your life next week? When we were born we didn’t have a choice about being that one in every ten who would become a crossdresser.

With this in mind. I leave you with the following. What if the person pointing their finger had been that one in ten who was born a crossdresser? Something to think long and hard about. Isn’t It.

Missie Cook

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    Faye Lambert
    Faye Lambert
    5 years ago

    Awesome read!! I loooove it!

    gaicrossdress
    gaicrossdress
    5 years ago

    thank you for what you wrote.
    i am sure that it can be a minestrone to be able to get off our fears, our shyness, our pania…
    Love it and thanks for all of us who believe in ghermir choices!
    Gaia

    Leonara
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    5 years ago

    Thank you Missie “The primary reason for crossdressing is to provide an outwardly visible outlet of expression to an invisible inward feeling and emotion. It has nothing at all to do with one’s sexual persuasion; (I just find crossdressing relaxing from everyday stress)”.
    That sentence says it all .. thank you from all of us for sharing the “why” of who we are.

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    Trina
    5 years ago

    Thank you Missie, that is the best, and most concise article I think I’ve ever read! I happen to be the mechanic. I would love to work on a forklift in a skirt, and heels

    linda smith
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    linda smith
    5 years ago

    First class article you defined what a crossdresser is and is not

    Geena Stevens
    Geena Stevens
    5 years ago

    A thought provoking article Missie,you’ve obviously thought long and hard about this . Well done,and I just so happen to be a carpenter
    Geena.

    Geena Stevens
    Geena Stevens
    5 years ago

    A thought provoking article Missie.youve obviously though long and hard about this,well done,and by the way I just so happen to be a carpenter.
    Geena

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    Peggy Ann Culpepper
    5 years ago

    Hey, thanks for telling it like it really is for most of us. If only 10% of the population could or would try to understand us as you have so aptly described us. I have been grossdressing for about 75 years. 74+ years i’m ashamed have been in the closet. This past Christmas I decided (Dr’s have given me a couple of years due to heart trouble) to come out to my family and friends and really anyone that wants to know. I have found only 1 (one) lovely person that has been 100% supportive out of all those that… Read more »

    skippy1965 Cynthia
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    5 years ago

    Missie-this would be an excellent “letter to the editor”
    For one brave enough and open enough to send . I’m not QUITE there yet but I’m close! (Still figuring myself out). It reminded me of a letter often posted in newspapers around Memorial Day or Veterans Day called “what is a veteran?” Just as you wrote here they and we both are from all walks of life and doubtless most of the people we encounter in our day to day lives have no idea of our “other” side. Thank you for a lovely and thought provoking article!
    Cyn

    Marianne
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    5 years ago

    Thank you Missie for a wonderful reading in the middle of the night. I am a chemical engineer doing emission monitoring to ensure the air you breathe stays healthy. I also happens to be one of those who really should have been born with another body, as I have identified myself more with the girls throughout my life. Unfortunately life situation and now also medical issues keep me from making reality of my life-long wish to truly become one of them, and CD-ing is the second best choice.

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