I heard a newscaster ask one day “Just who are crossdressers we hear about from time to time?” It started me thinking about that very question and the more I thought, the more I decided it might be a good idea to put it down on paper. Here are the results.

To start with, let’s first make it crystal clear who we are not.

We are not those people you see regularly on the Jerry Springer show. Yes, they put on a dress and profess to be crossdressers. But they’re a far cry from a real crossdresser. The problem is that this tiny group of people are the very ones who are in the limelight and produce all the negative images that are so degrading to those of us who aren’t that way at all. We are not the perverts, child molesters, murderers or sensationalists seen on TV, internet news and read about in the news every day either.

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So Who Are WE?

We’re the doctors who have performed life-saving operations upon you and your loved ones. We’re the airline pilots who have taken the responsibility for your safety at 600 mph going up to 40,000 feet. We’re the dentists who relieved your toothache or attended to your braces so you would have a pretty smile and healthy teeth. We’re the policemen who risk our lives daily to keep you safe from the criminal element that is so rampant in our society today. We’re the soldiers who have gone to battle and returned home missing a foot, hand, arm, leg, or worse yet come home in a cold steel box. We’re people in the trades such as carpenters, electricians, and plumbers who built the house you live in. We’re the politicians all the way from the mayors of the smallest towns to senators, congressmen, and high-ranking military leaders.

Some of us were at Pearl Harbor on Dec 7, 1941. Or in the World Trade Center on 9/11 when tragedy struck home. And some of us were the fireman and emergency medical technicians who were inside those three buildings when they collapsed. Yet others were those of us who faced the gruesome task of recovering the bodies we could find and mourning those we couldn’t.

We’re the truck drivers who sacrifice weeks at a time away from home delivering your goods and services. We’re the farmers who work to keep food on your table. We’re the teachers who educated you and who are now educating your children. We’re your pastors and Sunday school teachers. We’re the common citizens who rolled up our sleeves and gave blood when disaster strikes. We’re the ones who cared enough to donate our organs in order to save lives. When that tornado or flood or whatever other disasters come along, we were the ones who neglected our own needs and dug in to help everybody else. We’re the ones who were out in the cold, rain and lightening the night that awful storm came through and knocked out all the power just so you wouldn’t freeze to death. We’re the mechanics who fixed your vehicle; the construction workers who built the roads you drive on everyday. We’re the waiters who served your meal when you went out to dinner last week. We’re the ambulance drivers who got you to the hospital safely after that bad crash. We’re the friends and neighbors who supported you and gave you a shoulder to cry on when a loved one passed away. We’re the drivers who cared enough to stop and see if we could help you when your vehicle quit and left you stranded on the roadside that cold and rainy night.  Remember that star quarterback that scored the winning touchdown in the biggest football game of the season? That’s right, he is a crossdresser also. And let’s not forget about his teammates and coach. Football isn’t the only team we’re members of.

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Who Are We? We are everybody and everyone. Crossdressing crosses all barriers of race, creed, age, national origin and social status. Realizing that 10% of the male population crossdresses to some extent makes it pretty obvious that you know several of us. You just aren’t aware of it because society has not yet educated itself about us. There remains a great deal of ignorance within society about crossdressing. Until society Does acknowledge that we are no more abnormal than any of the rest of its average members, we are forced to maintain our anonymous position.

Crossdressing is not a disease and it’s not something to be fearful of. It’s not contagious so you won’t have to be concerned about someone passing it on to you. It’s something one is born with. The primary reason for crossdressing is to provide an outwardly visible outlet of expression to an invisible inward feeling and emotion. It has nothing at all to do with one’s sexual persuasion; (I just find crossdressing relaxing from everyday stress).

The next time you see someone pointing an accusing finger at a crossdresser, poking fun at them and proclaiming them to be a freak/pervert/fag, stop and think about this. What if that crossdresser happened to be one of those people listed above who possibly did something in the past that saved your life or that of someone you love. Just how perverted was that person at that time?

Going a step further, what if this person is one destined to save your life next week? When we were born we didn’t have a choice about being that one in every ten who would become a crossdresser.

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With this in mind. I leave you with the following. What if the person pointing their finger had been that one in ten who was born a crossdresser? Something to think long and hard about. Isn’t It.

Missie Cook

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    Sara Marie Franklin (SMF)
    Active Member

    Thank you Missie you hit it right on the head.

    Active Member
    3 years ago

    Thank you Missie for that great article. I started going out in the late 70’s. Over the years I have met some really interesting people. Like you wrote we come from all different professions. With the internet we find that we are all over the world. We are not alone.
    Yours Terri

    Dame Veronica Graunwolf
    Active Member

    Missie…..hi there girl. WOW….that is a great article you wrote. You know….it is too bad that it could not be published as a lead article in a major newspaper. The world of people, in general, are afraid of those who would be different. They usually gather in groups to point fingers….alone they would say nothing due to fear of being challenged or put in their place. Typical mob mentality, I remember landing in San Francisco coming back from Vietnam. A mob scene of people throwing bottles, rocks, curses and bodily fluids at us who went there. Full of false courage… Read more »

    Barb Encourt
    3 years ago

    Such a good post Missie, thanks for all the trouble taken to provide that perspective.
    It comes at a time when I have been having difficulty with what I am and what CD means.
    I am trying to come out to my Wife who is/was my best friend, but all I hear are the words f****** pervert or f****** transvestite etc.
    Suddenly I am an object of hate.
    I don’t really care what anyone else thinks but I do/did love my Wife very much.

    Your post inspired me to stand my ground.
    Thanks again.


    Charlotte Deneice Windham
    Charlotte Deneice Windham
    3 years ago
    Reply to  Barb Encourt

    I’m sorry you’re going through this. It isn’t right. I’ve been a Crossdressing all my life. My wife gave me the last resort or else to. I threw my clothes out,& I am so sick I did. Loving you for telling your story. You are right!!!

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    Christine Stephens
    3 years ago

    That was such an intelligent written thought out post that I have ever read on this subject. You alone have said what most of us have thought but couldn’t put into a well written and good statement. I only wish my wife was able to think along those terms or at least come to an understanding of what it means to me. When I told her several years ago I too was told a lot of hurtful things that I never thought I would hear from her, as a result I have never brought it up again, even though she… Read more »

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    3 years ago

    ‘Re a strange world we live in! In my corner of the world, I am well accepted in a dress. It’s so nice to wear what I feel like each day. The worst I’ve seen is a raised eyebrow from a gray haired man. The women usually compliment my outfit or ask where I got an item. It’s a shame that other places are so mean. We are only people living our lives in search of happiness. I point out the taboo against women wearing pants back in the “good old days”. Clothing choice wise, women have fared better than… Read more »

    Jackie Del Pozo
    Jackie Del Pozo
    3 years ago

    Wonderfully written.. thank you. I am one of the lucky ones who has a wife who supports me. We shop, dine and hang out together as women.. It is so liberating. I am blessed.

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    3 years ago

    This is informative, thank you. This message allows me to accept my own desires. I would like to wear a mini skirt but only around the right people.
    We all have a hidden something that we are afraid to let others see. Why can’t we be who we want to be. We dress everyday the way we feel in society accepted gender specific cloths, but it’s not always an accurate match. We are who we are.

    Lucinda Hawkns
    Active Member
    3 years ago

    it was a pleasure reading it and i could not think of any thing to add to it, you are one special gf and love hearing from you know and then, we all have things to do now that the weather is warmer. you take care. your BFF Lucinda

    Veronica Raines
    3 years ago

    Missie Cook,

    What you wrote, is beyond beautiful. I’ve never thought of it in that way, but I can say, I’m one of those people, many have come to, for help, when no one else, will help them. Of course, now I’m retired. Or maybe, just tired. smile.

    Veronica Raines

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