Why Do I Come to Crossdresser Heaven?

Just under two years ago a small but developing transgender site underwent a relaunch. The aim of the site was to offer something that was then very rare on line; acceptance, understanding and support. To do so however, Crossdresser Heaven (CDH) needed to be different. What it offered to the transgender community had to be something not offered effectively by other sites and it had to do so in a way that allowed members to feel safe, secure and, most of all, accepted.

There are many transgender sites on line and what they offer varies wildly. Some that are location-based offer an opportunity to meet like-minded people in the area for social get-togethers. Others offer a virtual world where people can chat in real time to others like them, including sites offering the opportunity for those to whom crossdressing is a fetish, or a sexual stimulant, the chance to engage in various conversations to meet their needs.

So where does Crossdresser Heaven fit into that panorama? In some ways it could be easier to say where it doesn’t fit. Because CDH is a support site what it offers is a safe refuge for those who have been abused, persecuted or ridiculed on other sites. Thus, it is not a site where sexual advances or suggestive comments are acceptable. If people want to chat to others about their sexual desires, fetishes or sexuality then there are myriad other places to do it. That’s not why I come here.

There are other sites where activists and advocates of various hues and causes like to voice their views on the virtual stage. For them, interaction with others is about pushing their own particular barrow, sometimes trying to force their views on others. CDH is a place where people can be who they wish to be, within the comfort of their own heart and mind. They don’t need to be harangued, lectured or indoctrinated. That’s also not why I come here.

Still other sites like to peddle particular political or social views, often in conjunction with specific agendas or affiliations. No-one has the right to insist that their view is the correct view and all others are wrong. More importantly, no-one has the right to infer that holding a different view or attitude is a sign of weakness or stupidity. That’s not what CDH is for.

If you want sex chat, or want to try cram your political or other views down my throat or use your belief system to convince me of the error of my ways then don’t bother. Your involvement is not welcome. There are plenty of other places for you to do that so please go find one of them, for that’s not what I come here for.

With all that in mind, why then do I come to Crossdresser Heaven? I come here to engage in a polite and respectful manner with others with similar interests. Here I can share my thoughts, feelings, aspirations and misgivings but only if it is in a way that is respectful and understanding of others. Crossdresser Heaven is here for acceptance, understanding, tolerance and friendship and I know that they are achievable goals.

Crossdresser Heaven is a safe virtual refuge for those who want to embrace who they are or for those who are just beginning to explore that aspect of their lives. The site provides support and understanding for those who might feel they can’t find it around them. Above all, here at Crossdresser Heaven we can be who we are, who we wish to be or who we aspire to be and we can do so in a safe, supportive and pleasant environment. That’s why CDH is different. What more do we need?

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JaneS

Also known as Doc, from Canberra, ACT (that’s in Australia) is an older crossdresser who gets to dress whenever she wants to thanks to total family support. She’s happy to share her experiences if it helps others to feel less alone.
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    Gina Vizavi 3 weeks ago

    Still exploring, but what lured me in was the Chat. It’s been a while since I was able to communicate in this way and it’s fun.

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    Kim Paige 3 weeks ago

    Thanks, this is a wonderful website. The accepting, supportive culture you are striving for is a perfect way to help the broad range of issues we each encounter as we learn more about our feminine sides.

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    Rosalind Christine 1 month ago

    Excellent, on point article. Because I’m not able to go out and about physically, CDH provides me the opportunity to go out and about with my sisters, from different mothers, and share/chat our mutual experiences of living this life of sweet femininity. Thanks to Vanessa, and all who assist her, for this place of “acceptance, understanding, and support”.

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    Jaqueline 1 month ago

    And I feel like the girl I want to be. I feel safe here.

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    Jaqueline 1 month ago

    Just giving myself a new name has been liberating

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      alyda 3 weeks ago

      Jaqueline, I feel exactly the same in how liberating it was to give myself a female name when I signed up for this site. I just feels great when I open this site up and see Alydia on the top corner of the home page.
      Sometimes I just open it up to see the name. Hopefully I can get more
      comfortable is sharing more aspects of my female side. Thanks to everyone involved for making this such a warm and comforting place to go.
      Alydia

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    Jennifergordon 1 month ago

    All I can say is that if I didn’t find cdh my life would be very difficult. I felt so alone for so long. Just slipping into something soft and pretty is just wonderful. The girls on the site have been so kind and supportive.

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    Stefanie 1 month ago

    Look forward to a safe non sexual site that i can be myself share my thoughts get advice
    I ve accepted myself and my wife has accepted me too

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    Kim Cummings 2 months ago

    I have been wearing my pantyhose and high heels for years. The first time usually is when you borrow from your mom or sister. The first time I tryed the pantyhose on I got so excited about the new sensuously beautiful and pretty feel of the smooth and silky nylon clinging to my legs. I immediately got wet and I KNEW THAT I was hooked on wearing my pantyhose and then next the hot high heels I have been wearing. The look of one’s legs in glossy pantyhose and very high heels is a very erotic sensuously sexy look.

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    Vera Jane Gonsalves 2 months ago

    Good article Jane…..
    Good start to the New Year…

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    Krisy 2 months ago

    Jane, nail firmly hit square on the head. Just one thing to add, (and it’s in your bio anyway), relief from the loneliness. It was scary opening up to my wife, but with the help, understanding and incredible advice shown by all here it allowed me to be honest with myself and my wonderful wife. There’s a long way to go, but knowing you are all here makes a massive difference, thank you

    Xxx

    Krisy

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    Lea 2 months ago

    CDH is one place where I feel accepted, supported, and I get to meet the wonderful and beautiful feminine sides of so many caring, amazing, honest, sharing people who come from diverse backgrounds and situations. CDH also reminds me that so many people have a beauty hidden deep within, once you look past what seems obvious.

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    Brianna 2 months ago

    Excellent article! Never visited Canberra. I want to see a Canberra Cavalry ABL (Australian Baseball League) game sometime. I have visited Cairns, Brisbane, and Port Douglas (Queensland) numerous times. I have to admit, I am somewhat new to the crossdresser lifestyle. I am trying to find some inexpensive panties, lingerie, dresses, etc…On E Bay I found a seller who sells women’s clothing for almost nothing. But the place is in China. Shipping can take between 1-3 months. Anyway, it is nice to know this is a site which allows a person to be who they are, without any pressure or “trolls”. I do follow Twitter for news, politics, sports, etc…..A lot of trolls on Twitter, no doubt about that! Thank you again Jane!!

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      michaela jane 2 months ago

      If I may suggest something. I buy my underwear and lingerie at Walmart. I just wander around the womens clothing section and shop just the same as the women do. I found out by trial and error that my panty size was 8, although size 9 fits reasonably well too. Then it was a matter of picking up a multipack of panties that I liked the look of. My pantie drawer is full to overflowing!
      https://www.dropbox.com/s/gjvlpu7job3bbmi/%5B000085%5D.jpg?dl=0

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        Brianna 2 months ago

        Thank you Michaela Jane! I greatly appreciate it! You have quite a collection!! Very impressive! Yes, I will have to try Wal Mart. We also have K Mart here. I was in K Mart today. I saw they have panties in packs of 3. But was not sure what size I need. Might be a size 8 or 9. So, yes, I will have to try the trial and error in regards to the proper size. Thank you again!

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    Terrim 2 months ago

    I like crossdresser Heaven because it’s not a sexual site. It’s people who want to talk to others like themselves.

  14. Muni Patel 2 months ago

    I love this site

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    Dianne B 2 months ago

    Good article Jane

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    Jackie K 2 months ago

    I don’t think that I could have said it better. CDH is a place where I can be myself without fear and without abuse. A place where I feel safe from the jerks who don’t understand me or my needs to be accepted. It seems a bit funny to me because in a way all of the places mentioned make me feel so much like a true women. All those sites make me feel the way so many women feel just walking down the street, scared, objectified, abused, and demeaned. CDH makes me feel like a women accepted for who I am, supported by other women who understand the need to be loved for who we are at our core, and not treated as a thing to be used or abused. Thank you CDH for being an oasis in a sea of hate.

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    debbie 2 months ago

    Good article Jane. I got tired of the cd sites that just have trolls and ppl trying to have cyber sex. the best part of this site is girls can talk like girls about everyday matters and problems. We can relate and talk openly as women in order to be ourselves.

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    Pinkie 2 months ago

    Great article Jane. You hit the nail right on the head with this one. I came here not knowing what to expect and found a second home where i felt safe and supported by friends. A place that Inspired me to go after my dream of transitioning and now I live that dream. This place is way more then I expected and I am very happy to be here. Thank you very much to all who made this site it is a wonderfully fantastic place and I love it and everybody here.

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