Just under two years ago a small but developing transgender site underwent a relaunch. The aim of the site was to offer something that was then very rare on line; acceptance, understanding and support. To do so however, Crossdresser Heaven (CDH) needed to be different. What it offered to the transgender community had to be something not offered effectively by other sites and it had to do so in a way that allowed members to feel safe, secure and, most of all, accepted.

There are many transgender sites on line and what they offer varies wildly. Some that are location-based offer an opportunity to meet like-minded people in the area for social get-togethers. Others offer a virtual world where people can chat in real time to others like them, including sites offering the opportunity for those to whom crossdressing is a fetish, or a sexual stimulant, the chance to engage in various conversations to meet their needs.

So where does Crossdresser Heaven fit into that panorama? In some ways it could be easier to say where it doesn’t fit. Because CDH is a support site what it offers is a safe refuge for those who have been abused, persecuted or ridiculed on other sites. Thus, it is not a site where sexual advances or suggestive comments are acceptable. If people want to chat to others about their sexual desires, fetishes or sexuality then there are myriad other places to do it. That’s not why I come here.

There are other sites where activists and advocates of various hues and causes like to voice their views on the virtual stage. For them, interaction with others is about pushing their own particular barrow, sometimes trying to force their views on others. CDH is a place where people can be who they wish to be, within the comfort of their own heart and mind. They don’t need to be harangued, lectured or indoctrinated. That’s also not why I come here.

Still other sites like to peddle particular political or social views, often in conjunction with specific agendas or affiliations. No-one has the right to insist that their view is the correct view and all others are wrong. More importantly, no-one has the right to infer that holding a different view or attitude is a sign of weakness or stupidity. That’s not what CDH is for.

If you want sex chat, or want to try cram your political or other views down my throat or use your belief system to convince me of the error of my ways then don’t bother. Your involvement is not welcome. There are plenty of other places for you to do that so please go find one of them, for that’s not what I come here for.

With all that in mind, why then do I come to Crossdresser Heaven? I come here to engage in a polite and respectful manner with others with similar interests. Here I can share my thoughts, feelings, aspirations and misgivings but only if it is in a way that is respectful and understanding of others. Crossdresser Heaven is here for acceptance, understanding, tolerance and friendship and I know that they are achievable goals.

Crossdresser Heaven is a safe virtual refuge for those who want to embrace who they are or for those who are just beginning to explore that aspect of their lives. The site provides support and understanding for those who might feel they can’t find it around them. Above all, here at Crossdresser Heaven we can be who we are, who we wish to be or who we aspire to be and we can do so in a safe, supportive and pleasant environment. That’s why CDH is different. What more do we need?

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45 Comments
  1. Sheryl Johnstone 12 months ago

    That’s exactly why I come here too Jane, to meet lovely people like you.

  2. maddie whitman 12 months ago

    Hi Jane and all the lovely ladies here at c d h . I would like to start off by wishing everyone a happy holiday season, and a great new year full of wonder and excitement. Jane although i have not been here long, i have made new friends,and learned some new things. i enjoy the articles but most of all i enjoy the fact that i can be my true self,if you don’t like what i have to contribute that’s fine we are all different and that is what makes us special.anyway i feel safe here and am glad i joined keep up the great work! so to all my sisters stay strong,stay safe,and most of all i hope that we all have a wonderful 2017. HUGS Maddie, PEACE and LOVE to you ALL.

  3. Maria Darlov (KGB) 12 months ago

    I come here because I feel safe here. I’ve been to other sites, only to be bombarded by countless sexual advances, or people calling me rude names, wanting me to post nude and vulgar pictures. That’s not who I am or why I CD.
    I’ve not been here long, but I fell in love after my first visit. The ladies here have been absolutely wonderful. I have met some amazing people here who have gave me some much needed confidence. I have never been out fully dressed, but I feel that day rapidly approaching.
    Thank you CDH for everything you do.

  4. Madalaine 12 months ago

    Hi Jane I totally agree with what you have said its a very important place for me to come to. It helps me understand and come to terms with my other side and reading about others in my situation makes life much easier. if you want to reach out for help and advice there is someone here who will help and if you just want to be left alone then this is also what CDH offers.
    Thank you all

  5. Delbra Dawn cordry 12 months ago

    amen ! very well said love to all. and may you all reach your goals in 2017

  6. Jillian M. 12 months ago

    You nailed it, Jane. Exactly the way I feel. I come to be able to express myself and for a little while at least, be Jillian. I only joined a week ago but feel so accepted. It’s wonderful and I love it
    Jillian

  7. skippy1965(Cynthia) 12 months ago

    Brava JAne! you describe well why so many of us feel like we have finally found a HOME. I am proud to call you my friend!

    Luv,
    Cyn

  8. Samantha G..... 12 months ago

    Great article Jane. I think you nailed it !!
    When I first signed on here I could tell it was a decent place to be.
    I’m amazed in the short amount of time how CDH has grown
    and continues to get better. Hoping 2017 is just as great.

    Hugs….

  9. April (Pacific Princess) 12 months ago

    Well said Jane. I first came to CDH out of curiosity 9 months ago, but I kept coming back for the acceptance and support I received in an oft times meandering journey exploring who I really am. It’s friends like you and many others who are helping me along the way and supporting me, even when I misstep and do something foolish.

    I love you all for that.

    April

  10. Jenn 12 months ago

    Well said Jane! I often contemplate what I enjoy about coming to CDH. Initially, it seemed like such a relief and a thrill to finally tell SOMEONE about my female side! Now that it seems normal to me to converse with the ladies on this site about me being Jenn, I’ve actually found that I don’t feel the need to look at CDH daily. I enjoy emailing back and forth with a few friends, looking at new pics and articles, but the chat feature is typically not something I enjoy for long periods of time. It often ends up being conversation about normal everyday things that I can chat with anyone about en male, which is not why I’m here. I’m here to be feminine, talk about makeup, clothes, hair, breasts and all those other things I can’t talk about to anyone outside the internet. Short of becoming female, this is my opportunity to feel like myself and be beautiful.

  11. Stephanie Cross 12 months ago

    Hello Jane,
    Thank you for conveying my feelings as to why I come here to CDH. Every thing I have been involved with concerning crossdressing has been on the positive side. This site in particular continues that trend and I am very greatful to be a part of such a great place where people like you can help the rest of us put into words how we feel. Having the safe feeling and support of such a wonderful group helps all of us to be better at finding our own feelings and being able to let those feelings be expressed. Some of us have withheld our feelings for so long that it can be a struggle to express them when we feel safe in doing so. It’s part of our learning and growing experience. Thank you for being here and making this contribution. I hope you had a great Christmas and that you have a good New Year.
    I hope everyone else here had a Merry Christmas and that you all have Happy New Year!

  12. Kayla Jameson 12 months ago

    Thank you Jane. Your article well explains why so many of us keep coming back day after day. I appreciate you being one of our ambassadors who help keep CDH a safe site for all.

  13. terri m 12 months ago

    One of the benefits of belonging to the TG community is meeting others like yourself. Many of us at points in our lives have felt completely alone. Crossdresser Heaven takes away that feeling. I love hearing stories from other girls thousands of miles away from me. This site is a godsend for many. Also the site is not a sex or fetish site. There are enough of them. Keep up the good work
    Terri M

  14. Rosalind Christine 12 months ago

    Thank you Jane for such a wonderful article. You’re on point. Like others have said, I too feel safe, accepted, and even more special with the friends I have made. Keep up the good work and, HAPPY NEW YEAR to you and all CDH staff and members.

    Hugs, Rosalind

  15. Stephanie Green 12 months ago

    Jane, thank you for your insightful comments. Because of the love and support I find at this site I was able to finally tell my wife about Stephanie after almost 30 years of marriage. I am able to share my self as Stephanie with the other girls here at CDH and it is such a beautiful feeling to present myself to others as a woman, and to be accepted as a woman. The Articles and Forums offer an unending source of encouragement and different perspectives. Women need girlfriends and here at CDH this girl has found her friends.

    Stephanie

  16. dynette 12 months ago

    i see that in the adds it looks to me like cd’s are not used in the pictures . I believe most are real girls . Now I know that a lot of these guys want to look like those real girls but lets be real ,very few can . I was just wondering why dont you use the dressers ,i would guess probly because they cant put forth the absolute image needed

    • JaneS 12 months ago

      Dynette it is an unfortunate reality of running a website that, unless everyone who wants to be a member is required to pay for it, site ownership relies on advertising. Most of the ads that appear on CDH are placed there by third parties as part of contractual arrangements and CDH has no say in the format of them.

      I too would love to see products marketed towards CDs having ads that feature transgender people but it’s something beyond CDH’s control.

      CDH management is working on gaining advertising that is more in tune with the aims and principles we promote.

  17. ABCDEF 12 months ago

    I need your help to be crossdressing outside the home in our society

    • JaneS 12 months ago

      Join us at CDH and I am sure that you can find the help you are looking for.

  18. Lesley 12 months ago

    Thank-you Jane. I too came to CDH and continue to come because of the love and support that is offered here and the wonderful articles and inspiration, like yours.

  19. Georgia Lane 12 months ago

    Totally agree. There are plenty of places on the Internet for sex/porn. I love coming to CDH to act like and be treated as a lady. I can ask questions, meet new people, and just be myself. For someone like me that is still in the closet, that keeps you sane.

    Happy New Year to all! May you find that perfect look in 2017.

  20. Sallysim 12 months ago

    Hi Jane, great article, you echo the feelings of the majority of members here. CDH is indeed a safe haven for all, it is also an informal and informative place for people to relax be who they really are and be happy with themselves and others. It is quite simply the best site of its kind anywhere. I’m only sorry that at the moment I can’t play my full part in this amazing place, hopefully my problems will be resolved soon and I’ll be back in the fold with my sisters where I belong. Thanks Jane and CDH for helping me through
    Hugs.
    Sally

  21. Pinkie 12 months ago

    Great article Jane. You hit the nail right on the head with this one. I came here not knowing what to expect and found a second home where i felt safe and supported by friends. A place that Inspired me to go after my dream of transitioning and now I live that dream. This place is way more then I expected and I am very happy to be here. Thank you very much to all who made this site it is a wonderfully fantastic place and I love it and everybody here.

  22. debbie 12 months ago

    Good article Jane. I got tired of the cd sites that just have trolls and ppl trying to have cyber sex. the best part of this site is girls can talk like girls about everyday matters and problems. We can relate and talk openly as women in order to be ourselves.

  23. Jackie K 12 months ago

    I don’t think that I could have said it better. CDH is a place where I can be myself without fear and without abuse. A place where I feel safe from the jerks who don’t understand me or my needs to be accepted. It seems a bit funny to me because in a way all of the places mentioned make me feel so much like a true women. All those sites make me feel the way so many women feel just walking down the street, scared, objectified, abused, and demeaned. CDH makes me feel like a women accepted for who I am, supported by other women who understand the need to be loved for who we are at our core, and not treated as a thing to be used or abused. Thank you CDH for being an oasis in a sea of hate.

  24. Dianne B 12 months ago

    Good article Jane

  25. Muni Patel 12 months ago

    I love this site

  26. Terrim 12 months ago

    I like crossdresser Heaven because it’s not a sexual site. It’s people who want to talk to others like themselves.

  27. Brianna 12 months ago

    Excellent article! Never visited Canberra. I want to see a Canberra Cavalry ABL (Australian Baseball League) game sometime. I have visited Cairns, Brisbane, and Port Douglas (Queensland) numerous times. I have to admit, I am somewhat new to the crossdresser lifestyle. I am trying to find some inexpensive panties, lingerie, dresses, etc…On E Bay I found a seller who sells women’s clothing for almost nothing. But the place is in China. Shipping can take between 1-3 months. Anyway, it is nice to know this is a site which allows a person to be who they are, without any pressure or “trolls”. I do follow Twitter for news, politics, sports, etc…..A lot of trolls on Twitter, no doubt about that! Thank you again Jane!!

    • michaela jane 12 months ago

      If I may suggest something. I buy my underwear and lingerie at Walmart. I just wander around the womens clothing section and shop just the same as the women do. I found out by trial and error that my panty size was 8, although size 9 fits reasonably well too. Then it was a matter of picking up a multipack of panties that I liked the look of. My pantie drawer is full to overflowing!
      https://www.dropbox.com/s/gjvlpu7job3bbmi/%5B000085%5D.jpg?dl=0

      • Brianna 12 months ago

        Thank you Michaela Jane! I greatly appreciate it! You have quite a collection!! Very impressive! Yes, I will have to try Wal Mart. We also have K Mart here. I was in K Mart today. I saw they have panties in packs of 3. But was not sure what size I need. Might be a size 8 or 9. So, yes, I will have to try the trial and error in regards to the proper size. Thank you again!

  28. Lea 11 months ago

    CDH is one place where I feel accepted, supported, and I get to meet the wonderful and beautiful feminine sides of so many caring, amazing, honest, sharing people who come from diverse backgrounds and situations. CDH also reminds me that so many people have a beauty hidden deep within, once you look past what seems obvious.

  29. Krisy 11 months ago

    Jane, nail firmly hit square on the head. Just one thing to add, (and it’s in your bio anyway), relief from the loneliness. It was scary opening up to my wife, but with the help, understanding and incredible advice shown by all here it allowed me to be honest with myself and my wonderful wife. There’s a long way to go, but knowing you are all here makes a massive difference, thank you

    Xxx

    Krisy

  30. Vera Jane Gonsalves 11 months ago

    Good article Jane…..
    Good start to the New Year…

  31. Kim Cummings 11 months ago

    I have been wearing my pantyhose and high heels for years. The first time usually is when you borrow from your mom or sister. The first time I tryed the pantyhose on I got so excited about the new sensuously beautiful and pretty feel of the smooth and silky nylon clinging to my legs. I immediately got wet and I KNEW THAT I was hooked on wearing my pantyhose and then next the hot high heels I have been wearing. The look of one’s legs in glossy pantyhose and very high heels is a very erotic sensuously sexy look.

  32. Stefanie 11 months ago

    Look forward to a safe non sexual site that i can be myself share my thoughts get advice
    I ve accepted myself and my wife has accepted me too

  33. Jennifergordon 11 months ago

    All I can say is that if I didn’t find cdh my life would be very difficult. I felt so alone for so long. Just slipping into something soft and pretty is just wonderful. The girls on the site have been so kind and supportive.

  34. Jaqueline 11 months ago

    Just giving myself a new name has been liberating

    • alyda 10 months ago

      Jaqueline, I feel exactly the same in how liberating it was to give myself a female name when I signed up for this site. I just feels great when I open this site up and see Alydia on the top corner of the home page.
      Sometimes I just open it up to see the name. Hopefully I can get more
      comfortable is sharing more aspects of my female side. Thanks to everyone involved for making this such a warm and comforting place to go.
      Alydia

  35. Jaqueline 11 months ago

    And I feel like the girl I want to be. I feel safe here.

  36. Rosalind Christine 11 months ago

    Excellent, on point article. Because I’m not able to go out and about physically, CDH provides me the opportunity to go out and about with my sisters, from different mothers, and share/chat our mutual experiences of living this life of sweet femininity. Thanks to Vanessa, and all who assist her, for this place of “acceptance, understanding, and support”.

  37. Kim Paige 10 months ago

    Thanks, this is a wonderful website. The accepting, supportive culture you are striving for is a perfect way to help the broad range of issues we each encounter as we learn more about our feminine sides.

  38. Gina Vizavi 10 months ago

    Still exploring, but what lured me in was the Chat. It’s been a while since I was able to communicate in this way and it’s fun.

  39. Veronica Raines 3 months ago

    Jane, I just read, why you joined this site. It was very well written, and helpful. I’m new at this, and believe I’ve found the right site, to learn what I need to learn. But, I do need a lot of help. 🙂

    • JaneS 3 months ago

      Help is just a few keystrokes away Veronica. Enjoy your time here.

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