Why do men crossdress?

Girl friends and wives want to know.

Why do men cross dress?

Why does my husband cross dress?

How can I make him stop cross dressing?

The unfortunate truth, is that there is no simple, one line answer to these questions. If there were, you probably wouldn’t be reading this article, and the debates on this topic would be silent.

In my personal experience, the fascination with woman’s clothes started when I was very young. I must have been about four years old, and I remember going to great lengths to procure and then wear my mom’s nightie. My most vivid memory is as a teenager, nervously buying a pair of pantyhose from a local supermarket and then wearing them home under my pants.

I felt (and still feel) a need to wear woman’s clothes, and I can’t quite explain where it comes from. The media like to think of cross dressing as a sexual perversion, and so naturally they see the desire to cross dress and purely for sexual gratification. The problem with this theory is that when I (and many others) first felt the desire to cross dress I didn’t know what sex was.

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Many cross dressers I’ve asked describe the need as ‘feeling more comfortable wearing woman’s clothes’. This is sometimes (but not always) coupled with the desire to be seen as a woman. To not just dress like a woman, but behave like one as well, to wear make-up and otherwise pass as a woman. There are others who cross dress for sexual excitement. The need to cross dress is indeed a spectrum.

That still doesn’t answer the question why do men cross dress?

Marcy proposes a few interesting answers to this questions.

One argument is that transvestism of cross-dressing is a way of offering a challenge to society’s preconceptions about gender. Some men cross-dress because they are unhappy at being men. Others didn’t mind the male state, but also like to put on women’s clothes occasionally. Some men cross-dress simply to make a passing social or fashion statement, and some because they have emotional needs that can only be met by the comfort that wearing women’s clothes gives them.

Yet the true reason why men cross dress remains somewhat of a mystery. It is intensely personal, often confusing and sometimes guilt ridden. I’m hopeful that as society grows more tolerant of diverse gender expression we will see more cross dressers and transgendered stepping forward to share their stories. Without the need to justify their behavior, and no longer shamed by society perhaps we will be better able to answer this baffling question.

Comment and let me know, I would love to hear- why do you cross dress?

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ray
ray
11 years ago

I just suddenly realised that when a girl asks a cross dresser: " Do you love me or the girl inside of you?" This is my girlfriend asked me so and she was deeply sad about my strange interests. I said, " You. I love you no matter what cost would it be, and I want to be the man for you, even if you ask me to die for you, I will say yes." If this is the interest that will constantly come back as most of you guys had said before, I will ask my girlfriend to tie… Read more »

Blake
Blake
11 years ago

To Johnny,
Not sure what you were trying to say….uhm…..

Johnny
Johnny
11 years ago
Reply to  Blake

I am really sorry that I failed to make my point clearer. In essence, I was attempting to illustrate that men who cross-dress do it for many reasons. However, what ever the reason, there will ALWAYS be the desire. I personally lost my desire PHYSICALLY for dressing up via a traumatic health problem that almost killed me 5 years ago. But, my desire MENTALLY is still there, as strong as ever. My point is that we Cross-Dressers need our wives and girl friends to accept us. Just like any heterosexual male, we desire the love and acceptance that only a… Read more »

Blake
Blake
11 years ago

Johnny,
Thanks,i understand now…

I think that people dont understand why a guy wears a skirt, they think its a arousal thing.But women do like seeing guys in a skirt.For me,i wear a skirt like i would wear socks with my shoe’s.I personally dont think it an issue for me,quite normal feeling for me.My daughter,has a black pleated skirt,she will say,"daddy,where your black skirt like mine".That was so very cool for me.

Johnny
Johnny
11 years ago
Reply to  Blake

That is so great that your daughter knows and obviously approves of your CD. This along with her mother’s participation should make you a happy CD! Million’s of single CD’s are jealous of you…

peter
peter
11 years ago

I love wearing women’s clothes. Bra, panties,boy shorts, dresses,wigs, lipstick, lotions,perfume, slips. I’m not married nor have girlfriend I’d get cought anyway and I’m happy being single as I can dress anytime I want in private at home. I dress up and wear heels as way to relax after long day and get off. Its best feeling and great way to end day. Not worth having wife or girlfriend who arn’t into crossdressing that’s why I’m single and always will be unless I find mistresses into that

Blake
Blake
11 years ago

RYAN..what did you want to talk about ?

Sarah
Sarah
11 years ago

Could it be that the men just want to feel sexy? And that womans clothing are naturally more sexy and alluring? .when you think about it womans clothes define, shape enhance curves and more lustful look.mens clothes are simply not cut to be sexy the way a woman clothes are, and who doesn’t want to feel and look sexy

lozza G
lozza G
11 years ago

hey im a daughter of a crossdresser i completely accept how my dad is and what he has achieved i feel like i have a dad to confide in and talk to but at the same time i have a girl to talk about clothes and get a womanly feel about them

Blake
Blake
11 years ago

To Iozza,

That is so cool that you have a relationship like that and
is open and supportive…hats off to ya !

Anne
Anne
11 years ago

I have been a tranny since I was 3 years old when my parents asked me to pick swimming clothes, I picked a girls costume and cried until I got it. Since then I have always felt female. I am still a virgin and have had girlfriends but the sex act has always felt alien to me. So at aged 19-29 my Mum and Dad went to work from 8 am to 6 pm and during that time I got up and dressed as a girl all day long. So I am very feminine in my thoughts and I would… Read more »

Blake
Blake
11 years ago

To Anne,
That is very cool Anne.I wonder how many female out there like
to dress manly.I dont mean cutesy manly,i mean really do it up
as a male.Just a thought

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todd
11 years ago
Reply to  Blake

to blake…Blake says:

June 26, 2012 at 4:40 pm

To Anne,
That is very cool Anne.I wonder how many female out there like
to dress manly.I dont mean cutesy manly,i mean really do it up
as a male.Just a thought

funny u ask that i think almost every1 even those who are women who dress and try to pass as a man even ejoy looking sexy …. not always wanting to look ruff and tuff as all of us males are expected to look…..

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