Why does my wig keep falling off?

I love long, flowing sensuous hair – there are few things that make me look or feel more feminine, and few things I enjoy more than spending an hour or two in the salon. I used to wear my hair long, but as with any marriage compromises are agreed upon. In my case I agreed to wear a wig instead and cut my hair short after my wife expressed her (quite vigorous) dislike for my long hair. It was a sacrifice I made out of love, though part of me was looking forward to the plethora of styles and lengths that would become available to me overnight. I could also be a bit more adventurous in my choice of style, as I had made a (somewhat half-hearted) effort to avoid too much suspicion in male mode. Feminine face-framing bangs (fringe for those across the Atlantic) were now available to me – oh joy!

Crossdressing with a Wig

What I didn’t bargain for is the hereto forth unknown fear of falling off. This dreaded disease is caused by a gnawing fear that your wig is going to fall off. Symptoms include an obsession with keeping your hair far away from anything it could catch in, a reluctance to experiment too much with the hairbrush and a near constant maneuver I call ‘check the hair is still there’. So my journey begins to find out how to keep my hair on my head.

I found a few articles on the Internet such as how to wear a wig and crossdresser wig care.

The first step is to find a style that you like, and that suits your face. Ideally you would do this in person to get a look that works, but if you’re still not comfortable trying on a wig in public many websites have good return policies. Reputable stores such as Amazon have a large wig selection that is worth looking at as well.


Wig Styles

How To Wear a Wig

  1. Choose a wig that fits. Many wigs have straps that can be adjusted to achieve a better fit, just make sure there isn’t too much space left inside the wig that will leave a bubble.
  2. Wear a wig cap if you don’t want your hair to show through, or blend your hair together with your wig for a more natural look
  3. Center the wig on your head before putting it on. Many wigs have a parting or some indication of the center.
  4. Put the wig on by pulling it over your head and then pulling the back of the wig down to secure it
  5. Make sure the front of the wig aligns with your hairline and that the wig is snug on your head
  6. Secure the wig with bobby pins to ensure your hair doesn’t escape

And viola! There you have it. If you’ve put the wig on correctly it should both look and feel natural, and you shouldn’t be worried about it falling off (at least not most of the time). This takes a lot of practice, I still struggle with wearing a wig, but the more I wear it the easier it gets.

Tips For Securing Your Wig

Bobby pins are your friend, as this video shows.

Share Your Wig Secrets!

Do you have any tips to share on how to wear a wig? How to find one that looks natural, or the best way to keep the wig from flying away? Comment and let us know.


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I’m passionate about creating a safe space for everyone in the transgender community to find laughter and friendship on their journey. I completed my physical transition in 2011 and through it I lost everything, and gained everything. I am blessed that I was forced to gaze inward and embark on the journey to discover and live my authentic self. My deepest wish is that all who wander here may find peace, happiness and freedom.

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15 years ago

When I was wearing a wig, what I feared most was someone trying to pull it off. I was the Queen of Bobby Pins. =) The one thing I miss, though, is being able to just pull on a wig and walk out the door. As far as finding one that looks natural, I think it’s easy to spend too much time worrying about it. Before I transitioned, it seemed like no matter how great the wig was, I *never* looked natural to my own eye. I think I just wasn’t used to seeing myself with a feminine hairstyle. I’d… Read more »

15 years ago

I love wigs, I have 7 & it seems they are hard to resist. I found that beauty supply shops that cater to Afican-Americans usually stock tons of wigs. If you go in late they usually don’t mind fitting you, I even told the young clerk that I cross-dressed & she said her uncle did it too. I find the lighter colored wigs are no problem as there are 100s of styles. No one has looked funny at mine, they usually sell for $20-40 & look quite good. They cost more on the web than locally. Two brands I like… Read more »

Lynn Jones
Lynn Jones
15 years ago

By curious coincidence, a local news show was highlighting the fun of wigs for women. If only they knew the rest! 🙂

Jane McArthur
Jane McArthur
13 years ago

A good way of finding a wig that suits you is to stand in the sun with a mirror and look at your own hair colour. If the reflection of your hair in the sun is quite a light, warm colour you'd suit blondes, reds and light colours. If it reflects dark, cold colours you'd suit blacks and browns.

11 years ago

I know this post is ancient, but here’s a tidbit. I love toupee clips at the nape of the neck. And my wig lady suggests a quick squirt of hair spray on your natural hair at the back of your head. When you pull your wig on the now stiffer hair kind of grips into the cap.

6 years ago

I go mad and throw a fit when it comes to buying jeans. I am a 42x 35.

When I shop for jeans I can’t find a sales girl that knows how to convert men’s sizes to women’s sizes. Please help. Nothing can be worse then no having a pair of women’s jeans that fit

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