A number of years ago, I got over the idea that I could only express my feminine nature by wearing only skirts and dresses and added women’s trousers to my wardrobe. It only took a few styles to convince me that there was a world of difference between men’s and women’s trousers. The texture of the cloth and the cut are decidedly different. One of the things about wearing pants is that many styles are masculine cut and can be worn when my presentation is masculine. I started wearing women’s jeans exclusively and then found a pair of slacks that would look nice with my blazer or a sweater.
By adding pants to my wardrobe, and certain styles of blouses, I can go anywhere and be around anyone, even those to whom I’m not out, dressed in totally women’s clothes. Thus, I fulfill my need to express my feminine nature and yet still interact with my friends as a man. What’s more, my wife, who’s very cautious about me expressing my feminine nature, is quite OK with this.
Now here’s the interesting part. A couple of years ago I broke my leg and had to wear shorts everywhere. I only had women’s shorts to draw on. Actually, only two pair and only one of them had the masculine cut criteria but the other really pushed the envelope. The first pair that I wore to church had a faux fly and had the look of men’s. However, my wife had worn them to the church picnic the previous summer. My wife and I decided that if someone noticed that I could point out I had the broken leg and use the “temporary” need of shorts as an excuse to “borrow” her shorts. But no one even blinked. Well, you can’t wear the same clothes all the time, so I pressed the other pair into service. They had not the evidence of a fly and had hidden in seam pockets but most damning of all was the fabric. It was a kind of knit that would never be seen in men’s clothing. Relying on the “excuse” I boldly wore them to mid-week service at church. Again, no one blinked.
After that my appetite for more feminine pants was wetted. I did away with all my men’s slacks and began to wear only my women’s pants everywhere. I tried out wearing my pants that had no hip pockets at all and purchased some that had the fly going to the distaff side and got no reaction. To cut to the chase, I determined to push the envelope to what I felt was the max. I purchased two pair of side zip slacks. NO FLY. One pair is khaki, the same color as the slacks that I’ve been wearing most often to church on Sundays, and the other is black. I had been wearing the black pair with the feminine fly to midweek service most often. The khaki pair has the zipper inside the left pocket with a button on the left hip and the new black pair has the zipper hidden in the left seem and only has decorative small patch pockets on the front. Since we are a bit casual at our church, I don’t have to wear a tie to fit in, so I’ve worn either a sports shirt or a masculine cut blouse, both un-tucked to make the lack of fly less noticeable.
Well, I’ve got to tell you, wearing a pair of pants that make no provision to stand up in the restroom, is very satisfying. There’s just something about that aspect of femininity that makes me feel whole. I think that’s part of the attraction to skirts and dresses. Yet wearing women’s trousers, I get the same satisfaction.
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I too love the fit and feel of women’s pants and jeans. But I will tell you the most comfortable leg coverings in the world are leggings!! You can’t wear those to church though of course!!! 🙂
I love the Leggings.
Wearing feminine pants makes the CD! Really enjoyed this article. Women’s pants are really comfortable, even the tighter fitting ones. I too ignored them during those initial stages of crossdressing, mainly in private. I discovered women’s pants when I started to want to go out in public. Nice details on the various differences of women’s pants. Most guys wouldn’t notice those differences, and women wouldn’t expect that guys pants are different. Luckily, even pant colors and lengths are crossing the gender divide. Pants are a nice solution to express that feminine side, subtly. If only women’s pants had deeper front… Read more »
Patricia-great article! I found that the women’s stone khakis (named Felicia" by Bandolino) are androgynous enough that can wear in place of regular men’khaki pants to work so now at work i’m wearing undies,cami, leggings or tights, trouser socks and women’s slacks–only guy clothes to work are shoes and polo shirt! I love it!
Cyn
Thank you for a wonderful article Patricia, I wear female slacks as well with no fly but have an elasticated waist, i have done the same with jeans as i wear jegging’s or boot cut skinny jeans. Truly liberating is all i can say and takes the pressure off as no one seems to notice, as they are not too obvious. i love the excuse to carry a bag as most slacks and jeans have no pockets, Yeah.
I get really annoyed with tranninazis who try to tell me I can’t wear pants and have to wear dresses or skirts. I find that just as narrow-minded as cisgender people who try to tell me I can’t wear dresses or skirts.
Let’s all have the freedom to wear whatever we like. If that’s a cute pair of women’s slacks with a Empire Stormtrooper vest and helmet, then So Be It!
Well said! Everyone should have the freedom to wear what they want.
I started wearing side zip pants to the office and in public after my hair was shoulder length and I was usually wearing a ladies jacket in a men’s style . Sometimes I wore a shirt or tunic like blouse over the top of my pants . I n the summer I wore Capri pants Bermuda shorts or clamp diggers often all in ladies styles . It was a big jump for me because my legs are waxed . Recently I often wear a tunic and leggings with ballet flats to work . I really love leggings with tunics or… Read more »
In all my adventures, I haven’t dared wear women’s clothes to work. I’ve worn women’s sneakers, but those are hard to tell. How do your coworkers react?
I wear women’s jeans exclusively. And that’s a problem, since I need at least one pair of black pants before August. Any suggestions? I’d like belt loops and a hip pocket big enough for a wallet. Front zipper optional. Thanks!
I wear women’s jeans and slacks exclusively
No one notices the difference in the office and it’s so much easier and cheaper to get my size in the ladies wear department
Most of the women in my office wear pants or leggings but dress professionally for the job . The total outfit is what gains attention and my lady friends respected me because I always try to be helpful . Actually wearing a diamond tennis braclet and gold braclets made me more femme to n their eyes than my side zip pants . Women did notice but more because of the silk and softer materials , men did not really notice . However , when I started wearing 3/4 ballet tunic tops and leggings with ballet flats I felt very femme… Read more »
Great article The only thing I retained after my purge were a couple of pairs of women’s trousers (a pair of jeans and a pair of faux combats) which I’ve not tried to wear again. They fit fabulously so I need to dig them out. I did buy a pair of girl’s Capri length cycling shorts recently and I was a bit dubious of wearing them to ride to work in. Then I tried them and realised how fab they fit and feel on. Normally when I get to work on my bike I go through emails and do a… Read more »