That moment, the one where when that special someone, who mentioned they don’t have a problem with you when you’re in a nice dress and heels, comes over unexpectedly while in said dress and heels. They just kiss your lipstick right off without hesitation.
You spend the whole evening together in endless conversation all the while enjoying the meal you prepared while dolled up. You move with the feminine traits that now come so naturally to you. Just before they are about to leave, they realize they may have caused you to get a run in your nylons. They can tell you’re a little upset, but it doesn’t matter because your head is spinning with joy.
The evening has ended, and you’re dancing in the kitchen while cleaning up. Still in the heels you started the evening with, and your feet hurt, but it doesn’t matter one bit because you’ve been your true self all evening. It feels absolutely amazing; now doesn’t it?
A week later they stop by again. This time they bring dinner and a present for you. A pair of nylons to replace the ones they put a run in. There is no stopping the tears. This is the first time someone has seen the girl you truly are. Although, you believe the best part is in the acknowledgment that you are a girl. After so many years of solitude, rejection, and fear; there is someone who sees you for you, and it so happens they have no problems with you as you are.
The journey has started. Where you will go is up to you. The discoveries you make may surprise you while you are on the journey of self-discovery. Changes will take place. Some you will like while others you won’t. The changes vary from simple to not-so-simple. You may prefer a particular brand of nylon. You allow yourself to be more expressive at trying different brands of nylons. You now prefer a more expensive brand. Oh my! What has happened to me?
Maybe you weren’t careful with your male clothes in the past. You now have all you dresses neat and ironed, hanging in the closet, and when you’re dolled up, you’re a bit more careful in your mannerisms; the way you eat in order to avoid getting your clothes stained or damaged. You are trying different styles because your love wants you to look best in what suits you. You swore as a girl you’d never wear pants. Now here you are cleaning your house wearing capri leggings, tunic, and pantyhose while in kitten heels. Those kitten heels that you now have the same style in eight different colors, and still you swear you don’t have a problem.
Yes, the changes come whether we care to admit it or not. Changes because we have grown into who we are, and because of that one special person in our lives. Somehow in the midst of all this, we’ve come not just to accept who we are, but like the person who we’ve become. Those are only a few of the changes that happen. What happens on the inside? Well, maybe that is for another time. Why spoil your adventure…
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It’s a really nice feeling when this happens. All the years I spent as my old self, I was an incredible romantic who doted on women. Now that I am living as my true self, I feel the need to be with someone who wants a genuine romance and wants to do all those things I want to do. Â
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Most definitely you should expect those things as we just want to be wanted for who we are.
I’m not at that point yet but it sure is something I am looking forward to.  Full and unconditional acceptance of my most authentic self would be an amazing thing to experience.
One of the things that helped me was just being honest with myself and anyone who wanted to be around me. Was too long all locked up, very unhappy, and decided to make a change. A few ladies didn’t care for it, so I said later. Some were not happy about it, but it isn’t my job to make them happy.
Such a wonderful experience having the friends over to the house as I know. Understand all those feelings as well and the thrill never goes away after so many years. A wonderful feeling even with the tears we show when so happy being who we are
Once you accept the person you’ve become, expressing your femininity becomes much more joyful and more fulfilling.
What a wonderful adventure… it would be my dream come true.
Thank you for sharing your experience. What a wonderful story and inspiration for all of us. I’ve had the pleasure of spending the day dressed with my wife and it felt amazing. I just wish it would happen more often but I will take what I can get.
XOXOSuzanne
Oh Patricia, I can only imagine how satisfying this must be. Finally someone else besides yourself honestly recognizing the woman you are. My therapist and I were just talking about this this evening. My wife has joined me for some therapy session as we work together to “figure out" where my being a trans fits in our relationship. We talked about how sincerely I desire to be understood and treated not as her man dressed up as a woman, but as a woman simply being my authentic self. At this point she understands I am trans, but has mot yet… Read more »
What a wonderful article! I’m debating whether or not to tell my wife and reading your words certainly tips me a little towards me revealing the deep, dark secret. I’m almost certain that she would be very, very supportive – but what happens if she isn’t? I hate the fact that I’m being deceptive to her, but the possible consequences are so horrible… All in all, however, your article tells me that a beautiful outcome is at least possible; thank you for letting a bright ray of sunshine into my darkness… Holly XXX