Interesting thread and answers, what a spectrum we embrace!
I spent a lot of time wondering about my own thoughts over the years. I wasn’t into fetish or wanting to attract men sexually and so for a long time was confused. A year or so ago I came across a definition for me that might fit for you: dual role crossdresser. When I am my male persona I am fully that person in thoughts, behaviour and appearance. When I am my female self I become 100% that person. I feel like I have a twin sister I adopt the role and body of, and it gives me both peace and let’s me appreciate life from both genders. I don’t feel the need to transition, equally I would miss my female side if I didn’t embrace her. Having said that, I have no attraction to men when I am in my female persona. The final piece for me was a woman friend who I asked once about the thrill of nice, classy lingerie. I worried about it being fetish and not feminine. She said as a woman she LOVES wearing classy (not slutty) lingerie, “You think we buy it only to show men?”. When she goes to the office or a meeting wearing drab office gear she loved the idea of “You don’t know what’s under this conservative outfit!” In other words it was fine to get a thrill from, and not kinky.
What I have found also is that women I have been involved with often said “You’re so different than most men, you seem to understand what it’s like being a woman, you feel like my best friend as well as my lover!”. They said they felt closer and warmer with me than other lovers. Maybe that ability / desire to be a woman at times helps to appreciate what being a woman entails, the good (compliments, nicer clothes), the bad (wolf whistles and so on) and the ugly (groping and pawing).
So…embrace that side and be a better man & woman!
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