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If you are reading this my heart goes out to you. It is likely you are here because your husband, boyfriend or significant other is a crossdresser. Whether you have known for a while or just found out recently you are probably going through an emotion rollercoaster while turning over a thousand questions in your mind.
Does he want to become a woman? What does this mean for our relationship? Who else knows? What about the kids? Is he gay? Is there something wrong with me?
Please know dear that your apprehensions and concerns are normal, and that you don’t have to go through this alone. We have a number of resources here on Crossdresser Heaven to help you, including articles about crossdressing, relationships and family; a safe and supportive community; and a group especially for significant others where you can talk to other ladies going through the same thing you are at the moment.
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Groups for Significant Others
We have dedicated groups and forums for significant others. Please send a private message to Eleanor Holborn to get access.
Wives and Significant Others – This is a private group and forum only for SOs. It is a safe space to share any concerns or frustrations and get advice from other women who are in a similar situation.
Ladies with Accepting Wives or Partners (and their Wives or Partners) – This group includes significant others as well their partners who are transgender or crossdress. It’s a great place to meet other couples who balancing the masculine and feminine in their relationship.
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After joining the groups above you will see those groups available to you in the chatroom lobby. This is a great place to chat in private with others. You are also always welcome to participate in the public chatroom.
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We are blessed to have so many share their experiences in the Crossdresser Heaven Author Program. We would love to have you share your journey – how you found out, the challenges you faced and how you overcame them. Whether it’s a deeper love or heartbreak you are going through we would love to share your story to encourage other women going through a similar situation.
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We have a number of resources here on Crossdresser Heaven to support significant others, including articles about crossdressing, relationships and family; a safe and supportive community; and a group especially for significant others where you can talk to other ladies going through the same thing you are at the moment.
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Articles for Significant Others and Family
Mindfulness and Crossdressing: Relax and feel the present
Crossdressing: Significant Other Perspectives 54 Mindfulness is the practice of consciously focusing on the present moment, noticing sensations, feelings, thoughts, and the environment without judgment. It is a technique that promotes personal development and helps to deal with stress and anxiety and other disorders. You probab...
I have always known my husband was a crossdresser. I think it makes my whole perspective a lot easier to deal with. We met online, and for months we did window shopping online, together. We would look at dresses and female clothes. At first, I thought it was weird. But… it beca...
At the recent Keystone Conference, it was my pleasure to take several of their wonderful workshops, including the one entitled “Telling Your Children and Family Members” moderated by Dr. Michele Angello. More of a discussion than a “how to” workshop, I found it fascinatin...
First, I wish to say how thankful I am to everyone here at CDH. Just being here and sharing with one another has been a large part of my therapy over the last few years. I know I am not alone, as so many are afflicted/blessed with this desire to CD. THANKS!!! Around four years ag...
Mirror on the wall showing my time spent preparing for my venture out; to maybe getting my nails done and a quick shopping run. Stop by for a quick lunch at a nearby restaurant before heading back home… before I get caught in my crossdressing. The only problem is that even thou...
Coming out to a spouse is no easy task. It requires courage, thought, and honesty. It is risky, at best, even when the perfect plan is seamlessly executed…and how often is a plan perfect? How many of you give tidbits of information, tell half-truths, get annoyed at the question...
The picture above is the first one I have submitted to this forum without any alterations. On the previous two, I used a SnapChat feminization filter that made me look younger and prettier than I actually am. I used it for two reasons: I liked the way it made me look, and my wife...
As some of you may know from my past posts, I have been slowly introducing myself en femme at work since the beginning of the year. About 2 months ago, I started dressing full female (make-up, clothes, nails, wigs, etc.) every day. It felt liberating, exciting, and it simply felt...
Growing up in the 60s and 70s was a different realm than the more modern world of today. Access to such things as my mother’s clothing was simply a matter of walking into her room, opening the “treasure chests” known as her drawers containing the objects of my d...
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Until recently, I believed that my husband dressed, on occasion, as a woman because it was a kink of his that I didn’t quite understand. Now that he has come out, we have Michayla Rockwell in our lives. Michayla was very unwelcome in my life and our home in the beginning. ...
I took the picture accompanying this article with the Snapchat My Twin filter. It makes me look decidedly younger and prettier than I really am. I start with this because I did the same with my previous Crossdresser Heaven article and received flattering responses. I do not want ...
Stephanie: I am putting pen to paper to share a recent milestone and life changing experience. I had a full weekend planned to celebrate my 60th birthday, but it became much more than that. My 60th birthday celebration included a lovely open house party on Saturday and time with ...
In the movie “City Slickers” the character played by Billy Crystal asked his friends to talk about their best day ever (other than the birth of their children). So, this is the story of my best day ever as a crossdresser. A few months ago, through the wonders of social media,...
This article turned out rather long and had to be split in two due to submission limits. Hint No. 2 About two years ago, I decided to wear a clip-on earring on my left earlobe whenever I was away from the house. I even started to wear a simple one around a circle of my friends, w...
I’ve been faithfully married for over twenty-five years. My wife and I share a great relationship. Like most dating and newly married, young couples, we had sex often in the beginning. The sex has grown less frequent, now, but whose hasn’t after that many years togeth...
“You’re not a girl, but you are girly,” said my wife. I looked up from my crossword, puzzled about what had motivated her comment. She was pointing at my legs. In accordance with our negotiated rules, I wore guy clothes in front of her, but I had absentmindedly double-c...
As I sit here (in my LBD, wig, light make-up, and my favorite heels) on the cusp of my 68th birthday, I’ve come to the place, as I explained to my grandkids, known as the fork in the road. Which road do I take? I’m in relatively good heath, have been married for 35 year...
My wife has known about my cross dressing for almost 2 years now, and although she is accepting, I know at times she still has her doubts. One of those doubts came when she saw the ad for Transgender Heaven on the CDH website. She freaked out, thinking that I was looking to trans...
So I’m a long time crossdresser who has decided to come out to his wife after 23 years of marriage. So why now you might ask. There are two reasons, the first being me going through a health scare which caused me to accept my mortality and the second being that I retired e...
Love Yourself for Who You Are Ladies, Everyone loves a good story so I hope you find this one fulfilling and helpful. I will share a few thoughts on my journey from being a lifelong crossdresser to now accepting that I am a transgender woman (who cannot transition or come out to ...
Like most boys, I started cross-dressing by wearing my mom’s panties and nylon stockings. Doing so was both erotic and enjoyable, but being a pre-puberty 8 year old child, I was not sure of the reasons why. Eventually, with puberty, came the desire to wear my quintessential i...
As a kid, I was always fascinated about what women wore, including dresses and makeup. I was born in an Indian family that settled in Australia long ago. I have always been a straight guy until a moment changed everything. It was 3 years ago when I was at home with my then girlfr...
When I was 12 or 13, I convinced a very stubborn and old-school mother that girl jeans fit better than boys did. We argued but I got my way because I absolutely hated boy jeans and shirts and refused to wear either, which meant I wouldn’t be going to school, which also led...
I started Crossdressing in my teenage years. I would sneak into Mum’s room when she was not home and try on some clothes; loved the feel of Satin and Silk clothes. This Continued when I moved out of home, but I am ashamed to say (now) that when I lived with female flat mates, I...
It is comforting to know that we are not alone in our desire, this need to feel or present as feminine. Whether it is occasionally, regularly, fully, or partially. For some, their fem persona is the opposite of their male persona. For others such as myself, the only difference...
This is a story of the first time I met my wife, how she found out about Bobbi and what she did when Bobbi came out. It started when I was living in Sacramento. I was bored one day and ended up calling the LiveLinks date line. At first it was just to kill some time, but then I he...
Have you ever gotten the best of both worlds, without even knowing it? That’s what happened to me when I met my husband nearly two years ago. I’m a straight woman who loves men, but I’d had my heart broken twice: once when my husband of 21 years died suddenly an...
Hi ladies I wanted to share a brief history of where I was and where I’m going. My journey started around age five, I spent a lot of time with my female cousin. We would always play dress up. I loved it; the joy of being able to try on all her amazing clothes. This went on unti...
Why I Kept my Cross Dressing Hidden
Advice and Encouragement, Coming Out, Crossdressing: Significant Other Perspectives 97 To tell or not to tell........such a difficult question. Should we be open about our crossdressing to those we love, or keep our proclivities hidden?
Nearly every crossdresser I’ve had the privilege to meet since I joined Crossdresser Heaven has expressed at least some level of insecurity about their femme side. Why do I need to dress? Am I weird? Will I find someone who can love and accept me? It’s unfortunate that our so...
Welcome! I’m so glad you’ve stumbled across this site, as I believe it is truly the best place for CD/TG support anywhere, and that goes for partners who need support too. So, you’re here, and you probably have a lot of questions. Or maybe you’re just confused, scared or ...
Ladies, accept your other self. The thing is you’re dead for a very long time. Don’t get to 65 and have regrets. As soon as you accept your other self, you will be so much happier.
I am a genetic female in a relationship with a crossdresser, and I came to Crossdresser Heaven to try to understand him better and learn how to be the best partner I can be. I learned quickly that for a crossdresser, finding a supportive partner is a challenge, to put it lightly....
We are all possessed with both the yin and the yang, or the female and the male. It is when we are born that one of them dominates and that is what our outward appearance is going to be. But that is not to say the one that is not the dominant trait will not come alive at one time...
Reflections in the Mirror and Realizing My Heartfelt Desire
Crossdressing and the Family, Crossdressing Experiences 47 Winnie experiences a moment of conflict in her life, between the perception of herself and reality. Being unhappy with her reflection in the mirror leads to self improvement, a better balance and positive outlook in her life.
We all hope to have that one person in our lives whose love and support comes without restriction. To have such a person in whom you can confide anything is a blessing almost beyond comprehension. For Jackie, her sister has always filled that role not by obligation, but by choi...
As the second son, born to a father who wanted a daughter, I was dressed and treated as a girl. My blond locks were kept long, I was often called by a girly name, and was told I was cute. When my sister was born, all of the sudden I was the forgotten child. The oldest in the ...
Wanting to Want to Dress
Advice and Encouragement, Crossdresser Support and Advice, Crossdressing and the Family, Crossdressing Just for Fun 51 What it is about desire that makes life more exciting, and just more worth living? Have you ever wanted to want something?
Don't mock the miss-matched clothes, poor makeup application, the male attributes too hard to hide, but instead notice the genuine smile and light in her eyes.
All the feminine things we like to do are better when shared... and even more so when shared with the one we love... You need never fear "the other woman".
To all the spouses or partners of crossdressers out there, the whole experience does not need to be as daunting or scary as you might think. Get involved.
Then I got the idea to look at the mirror, and I stopped and looked at myself in these clothes and fell in love with my appearance. So I decided to continue to reach the point of being fully dressed.
I wanted our relationship to get stronger, and make Alyce feel she could trust and open up to me. I also wanted to keep the man I fell in love with.
With my wife’s blessing and support, I am more openly exploring who MacKenzie is, but I have slowed down.
Sadly, neither of my parents ever got the chance to meet the 5th daughter they never knew they had, for she was too afraid to show herself. They each at different times found out about my dressing but I wasn’t yet ready to admit to myself much less to others the depth of the fe...
She expressed concern for me, but not judgment for what I was wearing. She was instead expressing anxiety about the risk I was taking of being discovered at work.
But recently, I came to feel that I could wait no more. I had to let the girl within to come into the fore. No longer would she be content to dwell within the night For she deserved to boldly step into the morning light.
I exist. I have thoughts and feelings, needs and desires. I need to see myself in the mirror at least once in a while.
The 5 stages of coming out as a crossdresser to your significant other.
Crossdressing can tear a rift between two that once loved each other so dearly. How would you handle disagreements with your wife about crossdressing? Please comment and help Bobbi!
It’s wonderful to share another crossdressing success story with you dear readers. This story is shared by Mita, who comes all the way from Bangladesh. I had given a thought to helping her with her English grammar, but in the end felt it was more appropriate to leave the story ...
Sometimes the smallest gift can signal a love and acceptance deeper than one could ever have hoped. Here is one story of crossdressing acceptance.
Your relationship with your wife is precious, but how do you tell your wife you're a crossdresser? How can you share this with her in a loving, caring way?
You are not the only one who is embarrassed by crossdressing. Being the woman inside can also hurt those you love. Overcoming shame and caring for those you love is the place to start.
When you marry the man you love, you hope for a life of bliss - you don't expect him to utter these fateful words, 'Honey, I'm a Cross Dresser'.
My boyfriend is a crossdresser?! You're likely feeling a bit shocked - after all, this is unlikely to be something you expected when you entered the relationship.
